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Old 04-15-2010, 08:06 AM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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i don't think it's malicious, i think it's just how human beings are.

Sometimes, one just has to not let things rub them up, and pick one's battles.
Really, so if i stick my foot out as you're walking down the street to trip you, I would find that hilarious, you on the other hand would not let things rub them up, right?
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:07 AM
 
Location: Homeless
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I have always wondered something.
What is the issue with people who actually want to 'test' easily provoked people?

Getting off on someone else emotional reactions seems a bit, wasteful in itself.
And yet those provokers seem to be the main ones falling back on the rationalization of 'its how one reacts that is more important".

Sometimes I hope one of those provokers meets someone who, even though they react in the expected manner, their actual revenge is more cold an insidious.

This is not to say the provoked should not try a little more self control.
Still , pruposely screwing with people should be curtailed as well.
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:11 AM
 
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i don't think it's malicious, i think it's just how human beings are.

Sometimes, one just has to not let things rub them up, and pick one's battles.
Not only is it malicious, it is immature and disrespectful.

But we all know you feel you don't have to respect social norms
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:14 AM
 
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Really, so if i stick my foot out as you're walking down the street to trip you, I would find that hilarious, you on the other hand would not let things rub them up, right?
this would be assault, and i would respond in kind.

But provocation is not just physical. It could be gentle ribbing, or more aggressive taunts.

the point is that if one always responds angrily to ribbing and taunts, people will take advantage, since they know what pushes one's buttons.

It's never good to be predictable in life. It can work to one's disadvantage.
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:29 AM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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this would be assault, and i would respond in kind.

But provocation is not just physical. It could be gentle ribbing, or more aggressive taunts.

the point is that if one always responds angrily to ribbing and taunts, people will take advantage, since they know what pushes one's buttons.

It's never good to be predictable in life. It can work to one's disadvantage.
Now I know, I've pushed your buttons. That is not assault, if you are too blind to watch where you are walking.

Perhaps the individual does not always respond angrily, but it's an off day for them and their response being unpredictable as you say exacts a far greater response than you might expect - then what? Let me guess - that's an assault, right?

A piece of street advice pal - if you provoke someone, you deserve what you get.
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:31 AM
 
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I have always wondered something.
What is the issue with people who actually want to 'test' easily provoked people?

Getting off on someone else emotional reactions seems a bit, wasteful in itself.
And yet those provokers seem to be the main ones falling back on the rationalization of 'its how one reacts that is more important".

Sometimes I hope one of those provokers meets someone who, even though they react in the expected manner, their actual revenge is more cold an insidious.

This is not to say the provoked should not try a little more self control.
Still , pruposely screwing with people should be curtailed as well.
isn't the emboldened part a healthy way of dealing with life situations?
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:37 AM
 
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Now I know, I've pushed your buttons. That is not assault, if you are too blind to watch where you are walking.

Perhaps the individual does not always respond angrily, but it's an off day for them and their response being unpredictable as you say exacts a far greater response than you might expect - then what? Let me guess - that's an assault, right?

A piece of street advice pal - if you provoke someone, you deserve what you get.
If person A purposely seeks to trip up person B, and person B responds with equal physical force, then person A in my mind deserves what he gets. if it was an accident, or there was no intent, it wouldn't stand up in court, should it go there. at the most there would be a very light sentence imposed.

i think the point still stands, that there are healthy means of dealing with situations.
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Sam, the more you post on these kinds of topics, the more you sound like a sociopath.
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:41 AM
 
Location: Kentucky Bluegrass
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If some people are more prone to being provoked, knowing human nature as it is, would people take advantage of that person and spend time provoking them?
Some would, I've seen it happen on forums...why not in real life?

Some people can be very cruel and thoughtless...and actually feed off of hurting others, or trying to make them look very small, it makes them feel very big, yanno?
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Old 04-15-2010, 08:51 AM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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Sam, the more you post on these kinds of topics, the more you sound like a sociopath.
+1 for you. Sam has no life, so he comes on forums to "push buttons".
It would be interesting to see him in action on the street and to see the "healthy reactions" he receives.
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