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Originally Posted by c21boquetebocasgold
Thanks MSR and you're right about how nice it is to have a venue where we can share with others going through similar experences. This was such a sweet post and I'm betting Holi wins on decision making when they're up playing together - he's a softy that way but either way I'm sure they're having fun together, even though you and I wish they were still here playing with us. At least they now have each other and all the other 4 legged friends/family who have crossed over the bridge XX.
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c21,
You are very welcome for any help my words, cyberhugs and thoughts about you may have been.
I've tried to decide for about 20 hrs. how in the world to respond to your, "I'm betting Holi wins on decision making when they're up playing together." I'm certain they are pals and probably glad we connected this way.
What does a parent say when the playful little bug, full of life and games, still wants to be in charge?

I say I'm glad they are together and Holi and Albert both have a tremendous capacity to love. Ok, here's what I can say (rationalize to myself): I'm hoping Holi is suppose to be Albert's teacher. Since she always played with her sister, she probably teaches best by playing.
I can hope she is learning to let other friends decide what games to play for a while.

I can also hope Albert, in his very gentle way, may help her remember they still need to share where they are too. Albert sounds so calming and so tender that he wouldn't hurt Holi's feelings. That was the one thing she couldn't tolerate, with her very tender feelings.
She would start to cry and turn away from people who somehow hurt her feelings. She felt betrayed, one day, by her own DVM as he had brought his puppy in to play with her. She had fun playing with his puppy until somehow until she felt displaced. How dare her DVM not spend ALL of his time playing with her? If I hadn't seen it, I would have struggled to believe/understand it. Because he had the scent of his own pet on his clothes, she walked away from him and wanted nothing to do with him. Wow, did he every have to WORK, and I do mean WORK, to repair some of the damage he inadvertently caused (at least from her perspective) so they could have their very special bonds again. I think her DVM was close to tears too. However, he was able to rememdy the situation with lots of extra hugs and squeezes. She left happy that day. So I'm hoping Albert, who seems to have a little more wisdom than Holi, will share some of what he learned with her.
I can't speak for you, c21, but I can say it helps me look at the entire situation in a totally new light. For me, it is relaxing and healing to think of Albert being with Holi and so many cherished pets of our friends here. And I may need the guidance of everyone here if we all convene someday near the Rainbow Bridge and Holi announces what we all will be doing at that time.

She truly was one of a kind. Oh well, at least everyone here will be prepared. She was so subtle in how she directed everyone to do what she wanted......
I hope this week is a little bit better than last week for you. I hope you know there are always friends who post in this thread, who truly care about you.

Please post an update of how you are doing when you get a chance.
And consider yourself a sealed deal that if our two are playing together with other friends and we'll be friends enjoying them there too. For now, we have the memories and all the opportunities they brought into our lives.
Sometimes I think we don't think about the opportunities our pets create for us. Be it to serve others, meet others or get involved with totally new activities, or share our feelings with others we've never met before but know its okay to trust, as our pets are guiding us here, I personally believe the spirits of our pets guide us to where we can get and give help to others. IN my belief system, I think our much-loved 4 legged family members are closer than we sometimes know.
During their lives and where each person believes his/her pet is now, I honestly believe they help us find things we need. I never even knew there was a pet forum here until whenever I first posted in 2009. Being a member for since June 2007 and not knowing this thread existed... I don't feel like it was only coincidence that I found the forum when I did.
Cyberhugs and warm, healing wishes across the miles. (And I hope Albert was in charge of the fun they and so many other 4 legged loved ones shared today

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MSR