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Old 06-13-2010, 08:28 AM
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I not only agree that people here have a warped view of what is a long commute but are generally obsessed with having everything in their lives so convienient that they've become spoiled. Can you blame them? There is a Harris Teater on every block it seems, shopping centers within a few short miles of one another, schools literally in neighborhoods and many, many other convieniences. Heck, I moved here partially because of that. This is a "planned" area and is a great place to live.
Saying all that, when I tell neighbors or co-workers that I drive 25 minutes to work, I get looked at like I'm crazy. I meet people that live in my town...Cary...who have lived here 10 years and have never been to the other side of town or ask ME for directions to places. I find that people are generally put off by having to drive more than 10 minutes anywhere.
I think it would be terrific to live 10 minutes from work but I'm not making that the priority when deciding among other factors such as schools, neighborhood, home prices and town.

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Old 06-13-2010, 08:35 AM
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I totally agree with you. And this isn't unique to NC. In Mass in the small town my husband grew up in, there are hardly any good jobs to be had. When his brother got laid off, they looked at us like we were crazy that we suggested he look for work in the "city" that was 30 miles away. My sister in law turned down a job that required her to drive 10 additional minutes into the next town (total commute 20 m inutes). We choose to live where we feel most comfortable. The jobs are important but I do not want to live right next to where I work for sure.
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Old 06-13-2010, 09:10 AM
Location: Cary, NC
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I tell my neighbors all the time how spoiled I am with having EVERYTHING so convenient. If I didn't WANT to, I could easily stay in my 3 mile bubble and never HAVE to leave it!
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Old 06-13-2010, 10:51 AM
Location: Cary, NC
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It's a funny commentary since most prefer the convenience of having everything close to home, but I don't think it allows for people to explore the area much.

I grew up in N. Raleigh and there were always set opinions for other areas of town. We were always scared of going downtown, Chapel Hill was full of hippies, Durham was unsafe, Cary seemed so far away etc etc. Finally being able to explore the area has given me a great appreciation for the Triangle and its many cities/towns. I still enjoy living close to work though, but don't mind driving further for entertainment.
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Old 06-13-2010, 11:08 AM
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Originally Posted by DPPWUS View Post
I find that people are generally put off by having to drive more than 10 minutes anywhere.
And this affects your life how?
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Old 06-13-2010, 12:06 PM
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LOL I love this convenience. You are right tho, my kids go to a school that is about 2 miles away, Our PCP and Pediatrician are about 3 miles, Library 2.5 miles away and several grocery stores within 1.5 miles ahh life is perfect
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Old 06-13-2010, 12:12 PM
Location: Raleigh, NC
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wasn't there JUST a thread on this? i don't see what the issue is. no sane person wants their commute in rush hour traffic to be any longer than it needs to be. obviously huge cities like ATL have a lot more traffic than here. that's why many of us chose to live here and not there. that doesn't mean we want to sit in traffic because it's better than other places, anymore than someone is okay with being assaulted because "in other places people are being murdered, so you shouldn't complain"
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Old 06-13-2010, 01:11 PM
Location: Downtown Raleigh, NC
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Here's the deal on people with a "warped view of what a long commute is", such as myself. Full disclosure - my current commute is 10 minutes, about five miles, all on city streets - not complaining about my commute at all.

I moved from an area where, if you traveled with traffic during your commute, five miles can take 30 minutes (or longer if luck was not with you on the lights). Having observed this phenomenon, I learned at the very beginning of my working life that living close to work, and traveling opposite of traffic, is best for my quality of life. Why? Because I don't really enjoy spending my "free time" sitting in traffic for five+ hours a week. Guess I'm out of my flippin' mind!

Another bizarre thing that I observed was that over the course of five years in an area with steady population growth, a person's 30 minute one-way commute can very easily turn into 45 minutes or an hour+ each way. Not cool, man. (Unless you like that sorta thing.)
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Old 06-13-2010, 01:12 PM
Location: Midtown Raleigh
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I looked for a house close to my work purposely. I don't want to waste gas or time.
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Old 06-13-2010, 01:16 PM
Location: Cary, NC
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I think one of the real keys to being a contributing member of a community is the old "Live, Work, Play" there.

It's about having the commuting time converted to living time, family time, etc.
"Walkability" of residential areas is a fairly new term. Ideally, it might include walkability in commuting, proximity to employment.
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