We live in a small house in a nice area of los angeles. No HOA. But... we've had more problems with people on city council digging up old ordinances and deciding to enforce them. One such ordinance... over 50 years old... you cannot have a fence in your front yard. Period. Hundreds of fences had to come down. Homeowners fought it, but many fences came down. 4 years later, new council member and they dropped the fence thing. I bet Home
Depot and fence contractors were thrilled with all the new fence construction!
Also... our neighbor decided that our little 13' vintage travel trailer was bringing down their property value so we had to move it or get fined... over the Thanksgiving holiday. Still don't know which neighbor (coward! hehe). My point is... you will run into problems everywhere you go, lots of land, hoa or not. Reading over the hoa's covenants will help but it's no guarantee. If you have the time, get on the board, but don't let that power get to you
btw... my mother's HOA drafted a formal letter saying her birdbath needed to be drained because of the Hanta virus. The person that complained lived next door.