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Hello! I'm in the triangle (durham, nc)- I am trying to find a venue- church or anywhere else -where we can have both the ceremony and reception up to 150 people where they will not allow alcohol. I have heard of some places where people need to have an alcohol license in order to bring alcohol to that particular venue (unfortunately it was an outdoor venue, and we are looking for an indoor venue).
I really don't want my dad to be able to drink ANY alcohol on my wedding day and get carried away. I already had this discussion with him, but he insists that there be alcohol. My plan is to find a church/another venue where alcohol is prohibited, so that he will not be able to drink at all. It has been hard to find churches in the area that can have room for 150 esp. for the reception.
Check city or county properties. The following link has a number of spots which don't allow alcohol in Raleigh. Unfortunately most are smaller than you need.
I'm sure you've considered this already, but having a venue that doesn't allow alcohol won't necessarily stop someone from drinking.
Many of the City of Raleigh venues dont allow alcohol like Lake Johnson and Lake Wheeler.
I'm confused. Unless you have the reception at a restaurant, there won't be any alcohol unless you pay for it to be there. That won't stop your dad from bringing a flask with him but you just because a venue allows alcohol doesn't mean they have it on site. It just means your caterer is allowed to serve it.
I agree with the others who've spoken on this issue. There's not some magic bubble around a venue that doesn't serve alcohol that'll stop your father from drinking.
Also, why is he insisting on alcohol? Is he paying for the wedding? If so, I don't think that trying to sneak an alcohol-free reception hall past him is going to work.
I'd elope. But, that's me.
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I agree with the others who've spoken on this issue. There's not some magic bubble around a venue that doesn't serve alcohol that'll stop your father from drinking.
Also, why is he insisting on alcohol? Is he paying for the wedding? If so, I don't think that trying to sneak an alcohol-free reception hall past him is going to work.
I'd elope. But, that's me.
I'd have the wedding I want, and have a little chat with the caterer and the bartender before the event. "See that guy there? That's my dad. He gets half the amount of alcohol in his drinks as everyone else - got it?"
I'd have the wedding I want, and have a little chat with the caterer and the bartender before the event. "See that guy there? That's my dad. He gets half the amount of alcohol in his drinks as everyone else - got it?"
Hahaha!
Clever. See, I wasn't that interested in a big wedding anyway.
We had one. It was immediate family only. Sit down dinner. My mom was nervous and had too much wine.
I glared at her. (We paid for our own wedding)
We only served wine with dinner. I nixed the open bar.
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I'd have the wedding I want, and have a little chat with the caterer and the bartender before the event. "See that guy there? That's my dad. He gets half the amount of alcohol in his drinks as everyone else - got it?"
This. I've worked in catering and we've had this situation at weddings and corp events plenty of times. If he's going to get carried away, just warn the bartenders. This way, he won't bring a flask as he'll think he'll have plenty of alcohol at the venue. And the blame gets put entirely on the bartender. Just request a male bartender (I say this only because your dad may respect a man more than a woman), and let the barkeep know to cut your dad off after more than 1 drink/hour. Any bartender worth his salt knows how to give the talk-- "look, you're getting a little carried away here, and it's your daughter's special day so please slow down for her sake". This way the bartender cuts him off, not you, and the only one he'll get made at is the barkeep.
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