Speaking of Neighbors... (Cary: attorney, houses, neighborhood)

[mommiewrites]

the Bedford pics made me think of this...

We are considering moving to Cary in, yes..a fairly cookie cutterish neighborhood (likely Highland Oaks) - although its not near as bad as some of the areas in Bedford (example, there are no homes across the street for us or behind us, which is why we are considering that particular house)

If you lived in a house and someone considering moving next to you came over and introduced themselves and had a short chat- what would you think? Kind of testing the waters for neighbor friendliness?

We lucked out in our house ( but now that I think about it, we did speak to them when we looked at the house!) and ended up with some nice neighbors (a few eccentrics, but it makes it fun! lol)

[leighbhe]

I wouldn't really think twice about it, as we have a vacant new construction house on our culdesac so people are always asking us questions, etc.

Now, I will say this, when I first chatted with my neighbors I thought they were nice enough, etc. Turns out they are really crappy neighbors! Anyhow, I do think it is a good idea to get a feel for the area, and most people are probably going to be friendly!

I will hope that they turn out nice in the long run as well!

Leigh

[sundaze]

I did that. When I was looking at my house I saw my next door neighbor outside and went over and introduced myself and asked various questions about the neighborhood, the house, etc. etc. After 3 weeks now I have met a lot of the neighbors and everyone is very friendly (Bedford). I would be glad to talk to other people who were moving in and if I were considering a place and the next door neighbor refused to talk to me or was unfriendly I would consider it a really bad sign.

[MrsSteel]

Originally Posted by mommiewrites

If you lived in a house and someone considering moving next to you came over and introduced themselves and had a short chat- what would you think? Kind of testing the waters for neighbor friendliness?

That wouldn't bother me one bit. I'd be very happy to meet any potential neighbors. I wouldn't offer any private information about the sellers, though (whether I thought they were desperate to sell, etc.). But that's just me.

[mommiewrites]

its not the sellers i have to live next to....lol

[convergent]

Sounds like a great idea. We are looking at several houses and one of them has the two driveways beside each other. I was just talking to my wife about what it would be like if we had a crazy neighbor. A few years ago we moved into a house and found that the neighbors had a son the age of our son. We thought that would be great. As it turned out, he was a complete terror and annoyed us daily. On top of that, they had twin 3 year olds that would wander INTO our house unattended. We had an inground pool and were terrified that these crazy kids would climb over the 6' fence and fall in the pool. We actually had so many problems that our attorney sent them a letter indicating that we had all required legal barriers to the pool, and their kids had proven that they would get past these barriers, and that we weren't responsible if their kids fell in the pool. Seems harsh, but we had no choice. Ironically, we would have had no idea that these kids were this crazy if we had met them before we moved in. They acted fine at first meeting, but then we found the real story. So its probably better to ask the prospective neighbor's OTHER neighbor about how they like living there. That would probably give you a better idea about your neighbors than talking to them directly.

[mommiewrites]

yes, sadly 'unstable, insane, coo-coo, and inconsiderate' do not come labeled on peoples foreheads...lol