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Old 10-30-2015, 07:58 PM
 
Location: Raleigh NC
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Does anyone know whether prayer is sanctioned in secular preschools or daycares within North Carolina? Our son is almost 3 and attends a daycare not sponsored by a religious institution. He's recently begun singing a sort of prayer before meal times at home. He's apparently learned it from his teachers. They fold hands and pray before lunch. This was a surprise, as we were never told that the children would be led in prayer.

We're not religious and prefer to be the ones to guide our son's faith. I plan on speaking with the owners, but would prefer know whether the teacher's behavior is permitted by the state before our conversation.
Yes, of course their 'behavior' is permitted. What could possibly prohibit it? There is no law against prayer in a secular, privately operated preschool.

I'm an agnostic, dyed in the wool, who has certainly put a lot of thought into what my kids are exposed to re: religious thought and practice, and i don't see what the harm is in what you are describing.
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Old 10-30-2015, 08:06 PM
 
Location: Raleigh NC
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The point here is that we are responsible for guiding his spiritual development. Not his teachers.
You, the parent, will always have final say in your child's life because your child looks up to you the most. That is, until the child can think for their self and sees through the parent's dishonesty.
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Old 10-30-2015, 08:32 PM
 
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Well, I find it odd. My kids all went to religious pre schools but if I chose a seemingly secular one I would expect it to be just that. Maybe your perception depends on where you're from.
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Old 10-30-2015, 08:39 PM
 
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OP I'm of the same religious mindset as you, but nobody is forcing you to go to that daycare. I know it's not ideal to move your children between daycares, but if it's that much of an issue than that's the better option than getting stressed out over it.
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Old 10-30-2015, 08:45 PM
 
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Well, I find it odd. My kids all went to religious pre schools but if I chose a seemingly secular one I would expect it to be just that. Maybe your perception depends on where you're from.
Yes it does twingles I believe it does depend on where you are from. Where we came from a non-religious pre-school did not conduct any blessing or prayer and that is what would be expected. I have found that not to be the case here and I too was surprised by that. We have been to 3 programs, 2 have had the blessing, in the form of a song for kids to sing. One was a corporate franchise and the owners were religious. The other stated in the admission policy that they were not a religious program. OP, there are some that don't have it but I would suggest asking the program when you take a tour.
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Old 10-30-2015, 08:46 PM
 
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I support the OP and share her shock that daycare staff would insert themselves into a private matter like someone else's child's religious practices.
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Old 10-30-2015, 08:54 PM
 
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I support the OP and share her shock that daycare staff would insert themselves into a private matter like someone else's child's religious practices.
It is not a staff decision it is an administrative decision. Staff are following the protocol of the school. It is not one classroom singing the blessing, they all sing it.
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Old 10-30-2015, 09:02 PM
 
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It is not a staff decision it is an administrative decision. Staff are following the protocol of the school. It is not one classroom singing the blessing, they all sing it.
I did not say this and this doesn't seem to be the case. He's been through 3 previous classrooms. None of them prayed.
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Old 10-30-2015, 09:07 PM
 
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I like how nobody thinks it's a big deal. Unless their child comes home and start saying "Allahu Akbar" before chowing down on his chicken fingers.

Children are very impressionable. There is nothing wrong with a parent knowing whether their child's preschool is training their toddler to be a Southern Baptist, a Muslim, a follower of Joel Osteen, a Wiccan, or just to believe that some supernatural being demands to be given props before you are allowed to munch on some Cheerios.
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Old 10-30-2015, 09:08 PM
 
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I did not say this and this doesn't seem to be the case. He's been through 3 previous classrooms. None of them prayed.
Well then I am surprised by this too! Approach the administration and ask about it. Maybe it is just this room or perhaps they begin the blessing at a certain age.
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