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If you were looking in a heavy-transplant neighborhood (Wake Forest has plenty), it may be that so many are recent enough transplants that they don't know the neighbors well enough to be out playing with them? Isn't that the general direction of society in general--kids stay inside instead of roaming the neighborhoods like we used to do? If they still do that where you are now, maybe it's because everybody has lived in the same 'hood for years and they all know each other well? But I thought I'd heard that in newer suburbs, there are more "play dates" as opposed to "just go out and find somebody to play with" because of stranger danger fears or other reasons. And, it was HOTTTTTTT. Kids were probably playing video games inside or watching TV. And someone mentioned that it was a school makeup day.
It's not a good idea to judge an area by one drive-by, especially when it's very hot and steam-bath muggy as I recall Saturday being.
BTW, every post OP made has "Here in NY, we do it this way..." in it. That will not make you friends if you end up moving here--nobody cares how you did it in NY (or wherever else--though for some reason New Yorkers seem to be the ones to say it the most often). A good habit to start losing now
Even if neighbors didn't know neighbors, I literally did not see a soul except for those two kids, and we went into 9 communities - 2 in wake forest, 2 in apex, 3 in cary, and 2 in north raleigh. I am just saying, i would expect to see a person walking their dog, someone bringing groceries from their car into the house, checking the mail, etc, you know what i mean. I literally felt like i walked onto a set in a movie and nobody else had gotten there yet. It was just weird. yes, it was hot, but still.....
and yes, i do say "here in NY we do it this way" bc this is a forum - a place to ask questions and share thoughts. I hope you do not think I would literally say something like that to my new neighbors!! I want to make this move, but yes, I am nervous. I have lived in NY for 43 years. I am a NYer at heart. Am I proud of it? Partly yes, partly no. I anticipate I will find the change harder than others, but I believe the end result will be wonderful
another question - what months are the outdoor pools open? I was wondering since you guys have a longer summer than us that maybe the pools open earlier in the season and shut down later in the season?
There was an army of kids running around my neighborhood all weekend in Apex. My kids were among them, outside from 11am to 8pm, Saturday and Sunday with the exception of lunch and dinner. Plenty of adults out an about as well.
another question - what months are the outdoor pools open? I was wondering since you guys have a longer summer than us that maybe the pools open earlier in the season and shut down later in the season?
Ours is usually open Mother's Day weekend through the last weekend in September.
Most pools are open mid-May-ish through the week after Labor Day-ish. It's very hard to get lifeguards before and after those times. And while it's warm enough, most people are ready to be done with pool season once school starts.
Just a couple points since you asked some specific questions above....
You're going to find a LOT more people park in their garages here and go right into their house than you do in NY.
I WFH, and my office looks out over the street. Rarely do I see people walking their dog after 9 a.m. Not sure if it's the heat, or just routine. Again around 7 p.m. there's a doggie parade
Kids playing....I've thought about this and it is really not just neighborhood specific but can even be street specific. I see kids playing outside all the time on the other side of my neighborhood, but not so much over here. I've NO IDEA why. But I know it's not unusual. It's amazing how different parts of neighborhoods can have different vibes - I even posted recently about how even though there were always more kids playing on the other side of my nabe, there's been so much drama over there that I'm just as happy not to have been a part of it. That's not to say the two go hand-in-hand.
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