Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, CaryThe Triangle Area
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Am I a failure if I move back to my hometown ? I cant find a decent job here in triangle and my previous employer back on coast is begging me to come back. problem is I have no housing back on coast and would have to start over AGAIN!!
Do I tough it out here and keep searching job or do I bite bullet and consider myself a FAILURE back on coast!!
Jackie - opting to move back to your hometown to secure employment and take care of your family is NOT failure. Actually, I think just the opposite. You must have been some darn good employee and a real professional in your field to have your old employer wanting you back after you moved away! We all do what we must in times of difficulty, so go with what you feel is best for you and your family. Best of luck whatever your decision may be.
Am I a failure if I move back to my hometown ? I cant find a decent job here in triangle and my previous employer back on coast is begging me to come back. problem is I have no housing back on coast and would have to start over AGAIN!!
Do I tough it out here and keep searching job or do I bite bullet and consider myself a FAILURE back on coast!!
You are NOT a failure!!! And don't let any one in your hometown try to tell you that. YOU had the courage to leave and try something NEW! I grew up in a small town on the coast and I know LOTS of people who have never left because they were afraid of leaving. But when someone leaves and comes back they rib that person. Just because you got laid off in the worst possible economic times of most of our lives, do NOT let anyone give you guff over trying. They have not walked in your shoes. You have!
You should be proud of yourself for reaching out and trying something new. It's not your fault the economy tanked!
Take the job. Figure out the rest. Breath Deep. This time next year you'll look back and see how far you have come!
Failure? That's not even applicable to your situation. You are merely making a choice to move for work opportunities. Times are tight for a lot of people right now. The best any of us can do is make the right decisions for ourselves and our families and wish for better days.
If it were me I would go back to the coast-- obviously your previous employer sees your past work as quite an asset (begging you to come back) ... I'd move back. It's a buyer's/renter's market for the most part right now as well-- so perhaps new housing on the coast will be easier to find than a job in the Triangle. No harm, no foul (MHO)
You are by no means a failure! Life is short and sometimes you need to take a chance to see if it will work out. All that matters is that you are happy and providing for your family. Good luck!!
Please do not be concerned with how others perceive your experience. You are your best critic and judge and only you know your situation and the reasons why you make those choices. Our first priority is our familes. In this economy , having a job is a blessing. You made an effort to try something different and unfortunately, the timing is tough on many in these times. Be patient and kind to yourself. Taking risks is a part of life and we often need to "fail" in order to grow. Alexander Graham Bell "failed " many times before he was successful , and had he given up those 99 times he "failed" we would not have the great invention of the telephone today..Move on, hold your head up high , do your best and when the situation improves, there is always room for change...good luck to you and your family...the cup is always full, never half empty.
Please do not be concerned with how others perceive your experience. You are your best critic and judge and only you know your situation and the reasons why you make those choices. Our first priority is our familes. In this economy , having a job is a blessing. You made an effort to try something different and unfortunately, the timing is tough on many in these times. Be patient and kind to yourself. Taking risks is a part of life and we often need to "fail" in order to grow. Alexander Graham Bell "failed " many times before he was successful , and had he given up those 99 times he "failed" we would not have the great invention of the telephone today..Move on, hold your head up high , do your best and when the situation improves, there is always room for change...good luck to you and your family...the cup is always full, never half empty.
Am I a failure if I move back to my hometown ? I cant find a decent job here in triangle and my previous employer back on coast is begging me to come back. problem is I have no housing back on coast and would have to start over AGAIN!!
Do I tough it out here and keep searching job or do I bite bullet and consider myself a FAILURE back on coast!!
Is your pity party over yet?
You have a job offer and a means to support your family. Gee, it must be horrible for you to have this option. In case you haven't noticed, there are a lot of people unemployed, and soon to be homeless. What you've described doesn't sound so bad, does it?
So here's what you do: take care of your family by whatever means necessary. If that means moving back to the coast, so be it. Make the move, start over with housing, and never look back. Don't whine, don't complain. Be a man and set a good example for your family and children (if you have any). Instill in them that if you have a job, a roof over your head, food on the table, and your loving family beside you, that you are never poor. You're the richest man on earth.
Since when did the Triangle become the set for the Mary Tyler Moore Show and the "if I can make it here I can make it anywhere" mentality? Failure? Please.
It may not come across very well, but yes, I am mad. But don't worry, it'll pass.
Sometimes we have to go back to move forward. Failure no way I don't think so . Making the best possible move for your situation "now" does not equal failure. Failure is staying stuck and not even trying--that doesn't seem like your situation at all. Go with the flow of your situation right now. Let your heart lead you and I am sure you will do the right thing. In the end remember it is your choice and you must have peace about it.
Peace and Blessings,
M.
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