Moving from Rye, NY to Raleigh, NC (Durham, Cary: rent, condo)
Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, CaryThe Triangle Area
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I am not trying to be nasty, but when an post like this one comes about, it makes me wonder, what do you or your husband, obviously, do for a living to be able to afford a life style such as you describe. A doctor with a hefty pay, I don't think can afford a 15,000/mo mortgage and 40,000 yr education for 2 kids. So, what do you do for a living especially in our tough economic times, when so many people a loosing their jobs and unable to provide for their families????
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I am not trying to be nasty, but when an post like this one comes about, it makes me wonder, what do you or your husband, obviously, do for a living to be able to afford a life style such as you describe. A doctor with a hefty pay, I don't think can afford a 15,000/mo mortgage and 40,000 yr education for 2 kids. So, what do you do for a living especially in our tough economic times, when so many people a loosing their jobs and unable to provide for their families????
I firmly believe that we all have the opportunity for that lifestyle, if we desire it, unless we are born with insurmountable handicaps.
Choices we make along the way may compromise our personal prosperity.
And it seems to me this OP, to use the words of another CD'er, has no real clue what its like to live outside of NY, and wants, in a way to keep it that way.
Their choice, of course, but inquiring as to why public schools werent an option isnt a crime last I checked.
It's not a crime but it is a judgement and she has the right to choose what she wants for her kids. I am from her area and I can say education is #1 in our area and we will pay for it. Why is that judged? Should we judge the people who don't care what school their kids are redistricted to and just take it in stride regardless?
It's not a crime but it is a judgement and she has the right to choose what she wants for her kids. I am from her area and I can say education is #1 in our area and we will pay for it. Why is that judged? Should we judge the people who don't care what school their kids are redistricted to and just take it in stride regardless?
I don't think most are judging her on looking for a private school (I myself am a Ravenscroft grad, though it only cost about 10% to go there back then as it does now), but her whole "we really need a huge mansion to live in!" attitude (not "we're looking for..." or "we'd love to find..." or "we would prefer..." but "we REALLY NEED...").
Personally, I'm glad there are no such houses like that in my neighborhood--I don't think I'd want to live next door to someone who thinks like that. I would expect knocks at the door "We REALLY NEED you not to come outside while our friends are visiting...don't want to give them the wrong idea about the neighborhood!" or "We REALLY NEED you to plant some bushes in your yard that better fit our tastes..."
I think they'll find that Raleigh folks maybe aren't quite like Westchester folks in a lot of ways...
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There also is a certain amount of luck that falls into the equation.
Yep. That intangible "luck" provides an excuse for many who worry about someone else's prosperity while avoiding the fact that they also have great opportunity.
People come into wealth in myriad ways.
Some actually do it via legitimate hard work and prudent fiscal management.
Yep. That intangible "luck" provides an excuse for many who worry about someone else's prosperity while avoiding the fact that they also have great opportunity.
Mike, you are so correct on this. When people come up with excuses for why other people did great in life and why they did not, it is almost always because they don't want to face the fact that "they" did not do what is necessary in life to get ahead. A case in point is me. I am a person of limited means. I don't make much money and it is because that is the path I chose. I did not want to scratch and claw my way to the top. I did not want to spend years in school. I wanted to enjoy my life from day one to the end. Those decisions put me where they did. I am thrilled with the outcome, but I cannot complain about where I am at. My decisions are the reason for my place in life. And while I am limited in what I can afford, I do not feel any anger or jealousy over those that have more. They worked hard to get where they are at and they set the priorities they did. It was their choices and work that gave them the means they have. Great for them and I applaud them following their dreams. Sure, there are some people here and there that fall butt backwards into money, but the majority of situations are based solely on the decisions a person makes, whether they are from the country or the inner city. EVERYONE has a choice. It's all about what you really want and how hard you are willing to work to get it. Everything else is a pi$$ poor excuse to avoid admitting laziness or failure.
Really? Didn't you say your house doubled in value in 4 years or something up north? Where would you be if that home had LOST half its value instead - still living in the overpriced, dump of a town you love to complain about, barely making ends meet?
I'd like to know how many of you have ever been to Rye, New York. If you haven't, you simply have no perspective. All of the questions being asked are perfectly legitimate for someone who lives there.
I lived in that area for a long time and while most of us here can't fathom the kind of home or lifestyle that the OP lives (or represents themselves as living), Giant multi-million dollar homes are the norm in Rye. A million dollars in Rye buys you a home that might be a 13-1500 square foot cape cod, 60+ years old, in need of total renovation. The taxes on that home woulod probably be in excess of $15,000 per year. You read that right.Go to Realtor.com and search zip code 10580-call me when your jaw hits the floor.
To the original poster-I'm sorry you seem to have been under attack here, but most City Data regulars read the information you post (which I realize is completely plausible and legitimate) and think it's a put-on. Million dollar plus homes are not commonplace here. Most folks, regardless of how much money they have, simply lead a less ostentatious life than is the norm in Westchester. In addition, there is much less "aspiration" amongst the upper middle class here. I live a FAR better life on my income (which is pretty much typical of a Cary household) than I ever could in your area-that's why I left.
One more observation-many of the pockets of our area that offer the kind of home you seek are populated by old-wealth Southern families. Despite the big homes and wealth you will find a big difference in lifestyle and values as compared to the bulk of Westchesterites. Raleigh is a far cry from "Rye South".
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