Single-Is Cary really boring? Sick of Miami moving to Cary...help! (find a job, vs)

[miamiblue]

Originally Posted by Gurl

Raleigh has a 'social' scene. Just not much of a 'singles' scene. (imo)

And by 'singles scene', I don't mean 'pick up joints'. In other markets, there are simply more single people 'out and about', as opposed to young families.

For everyone looking for the 'singles scene', did you go to the Jingle Ball last night at Marbles Kids Museum in downtown Raleigh? Everyone brought a $20 toy or paid $30 at the door to benefit the Capital City Clauses, and then there were hors d'oeuvres, wine, beer and dancing for the whole evening. It was a great event, lots of singles of all ages, good time. Of all our friends that were able to attend, there was just one other couple besides us. And all our single friends definitely like to mingle and meet other singles - and they definitely did at this event. This was the second year we went to this event and both times it has been great. Sorry I wasn't able to post it up on this board ahead of time.

There will be another similar charity event at Tir Na Nog on Sunday, Dec 16: TRI SPORTS, where Triangle professionals come to Meet and Compete! We went to this one last year as well and it was also a good time.

[jayme78]

I live in downtown Raleigh and work in Cary. Im almost 30..so about your age, and can't imagine living in Cary and trying to meet people. It really is going to depend on what you like to do outside of working as well as your price range/standard of living. I can send you a list of websites to check out for the downtown raleigh area. Cary is very family oriented, where raleigh has a great mix of everything.

[bluesky52]

I have lived in Raleigh and Cary, and I have visited Miami.

Not even a close call!!!!!

The Raleigh area has been rated one of the best places to
live in the US. Cary has been rated excellent in low crime.
This has got to be a major upgrade from Miami.

Certainly everybody's taste is different, so you won't know
for sure until you have lived in Raleigh/Cary for a while, but
I would bet that you will fall in love with this area once you
have lived here for a short while -- ignore the bloggers.

As for choosing between Cary or Raleigh, I have found that
both cities are close enough to each other that most resources
of interest in one is a short commute from the other. Having
lived in both, I would give Cary a slight nod over Raleigh.

I wish you the best going forward.

[rnc2mbfl]

Originally Posted by Gurl

Raleigh has a 'social' scene. Just not much of a 'singles' scene. (imo)

And by 'singles scene', I don't mean 'pick up joints'. In other markets, there are simply more single people 'out and about', as opposed to young families.

With all due respect Gurl, you live in Durham. How does that make you an expert about the singles scene in Raleigh? I live in both places and reiterate that I am very happy with the the singles scene in Raleigh. When I moved to Miami, it took me quite a while to find where my puzzle piece fit. Social scenes just don't jump out and invite you into them. It takes work. The whole process of moving takes work and your results will be be highly dependent on your effort. In the end, everyone makes their own decisions regarding how they live their lives: each with his/her own actual or perceived reality. If a single person moves to Raleigh and makes "finding a scene" a priority, it will be found.
Also, where one decides to live will expose him/her to the prevailing neighborhood. If you are single and move to the suburbs in a single family house, guess what????....you'll be surrounded by families. That's true everywhere, including Miami. There are parts of the burbs in Miami that are so far away from the singles scene, you wouldn't even know it exists.

[packlitely]

i have lived in cary for 4 years now, i love this place.

it is quiet and family oriented, but it is also traffic free, safe, clean and close to downtown raleigh, chapel hill and durham - so you will certainly be able to find things to do and meet people

cary also has some cool bars and gyms to meet people too.

we live in the weston area, and i cant say enough about it.

and...a quick trip to the mountains/beach/charlotte is only a few hours away!

[FLRelo]

For what it's worth, North Carolina has seen a 400% increase in its Latino population from 1990-2000 and growing. That said, compared to Miami there is no comparison, you will not find "the entirely Spanish speaking" thing you're referring to. Miami has some of the worst traffic in the Nation so Raleigh all round will be a major upgrade in every respect! Cary is very nice but family oriented. Since you're single, I suggest Raleigh, only because there's more going on, more "single life". You should definately rent for a while before making a choice.

[slambinlambin]

Originally Posted by blunney

You like mountains? Turn left and drive 4 hours to the best part of the Blue Ridge Parkway. You like the beach. Turn right and go 2 hours to Wrightsville Beach. Like trees, peace and quiet, convenience? Bring your pillow to Cary and stay awhile!

Nicely said, the whole triangle area is close to pretty much EVERYTHING in North Carolina. I have lived in NC for 14 years and I love it sooo much. I live in cary, it is smaller than Raleigh, but it still has about 130,000 residents, and is still growing rapidly. Raleigh is also growing VERY fast(it has grown over 100,000 people since 2000). It almost has 400,000 people right now. In my opinion I would move to Cary, it has the higher income, and is closer too many more things than Raleigh is. I live about 15 minutes from downtown raleigh, 5 minutes from the outer loop(I-540), 5 Minutes from I-40, and 5 minutes from the Inner Beltline. I think you should also consider Morrisville. It is very similar to cary, if it hadnt fought to be its own town, it would be cary right now. It is also very laid back, and is also growing at a very fast rate. Morrisville and Cary are pretty much the same, but morrisville is just a little more rural than Cary. Feel free to personal message me if you want!

[rnc2mbfl]

Where do you live in Miami currently and what do you like and dislike about it? This will help me give you advice. I come with knowledge about both areas.

[saturnfan]

Don't come here without a solid job. Things are deteriorating in Raleigh like elsewhere.

While you might like the area, it won't be great if you wind up living at the Raleigh Rescue Mission.

Many jobs pay poorly here. Some pay well.

[bluevelo]

Get a dog once you get there, one big enough to run with (no rat lap dogs). Women LOVE dogs. I was out walking one yesterday and got hit on 3x.