I do not know any specific programs (I know, helpful, right!), but I would suggest picking up a copy of the carolina parent magazine (they are free) and looking on their website carolinaparent.com and you can find lots of great information on there.
I would also suggest going to the trianglemommies.com website and browse around their forum (very active) you can join the group and they have separate subgroups for different areas of the triangle (north raleigh, durham, chapel hill) they have even started a triangledads.com group as well (there are a number of stay at home dads in the group.
Anyhow, they host playgroups, parents night out, etc. Hopefully you can connect with some people there who can give you the scoop!