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Old 06-09-2010, 10:19 AM
 
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Thanks everyone for the new posts!

Our Co-op is on sale right now, I hope we can move down south by August-September. I feel like I'm in "Of Mice and Men" and this move to NC is the promised land, where we'll live off the "fat of the land".

Robbie
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Old 06-09-2010, 03:11 PM
 
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You'll have a job, right?

The Triangle isn't ALL that much different from Schenectady.

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Thanks everyone for the new posts!

Our Co-op is on sale right now, I hope we can move down south by August-September. I feel like I'm in "Of Mice and Men" and this move to NC is the promised land, where we'll live off the "fat of the land".

Robbie
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Old 06-10-2010, 02:30 PM
 
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I'm not at all your demographic (I'm 25) but I lived in NC from the time I was 8-18 and I can tell you this much...

A lot of social activity (especially w/ neighbors) is church related. Most people talk openly about their beliefs as if everyone is Southern Baptist, which is somewhat rude and it does get irritating.

This is not at all a metropolis. There is no sense of style, and there isn't a whole lot to do. I will admit this has incrementally improved over the past 10 years with the influx of Northerners coming down (for example better shopping malls, trendier restaurants, and a newly refurbished Art Museum). However, this isn't the suburbs of NYC...I know it sounds harsh but I don't consider Raleigh a real city. Washington D.C. (about a 4-5 hours road trip) is the closest real city.

They are extremely nice in the fakest possible way. This is called 'southern hospitality' - don't be fooled by it.

The heat is absolutely stifling...in all the years I lived there I never got used to it. Summer is like being in an oven.

Also, I attended Wake County Schools for most of my life and it was the biggest regret of my life. As soon as I got out of NC, attended college, and saw what a real education could be I was utterly amazed.

I haven't lived there in about 10 years but when I did, they did not like anything considered 'different'. Most people there attended NC State or UNC or ECU, most people there drive mini vans or SUVs, most people there are religious, most people there wear flip flops, most people there have bumper stickers that indicate how many children & pets they have. It's all very boring. The housing though is super cheap and it's very safe.
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Old 06-10-2010, 05:16 PM
 
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Your mileage may vary (re the post below).

I'm not the least bit religious, and I've managed to survive here 17 years. My son is close to the age of the poster below, and he went to Millbrook High School and was awarded a $25K scholarship/year to med school in Rochester, NY, but decided to go to NC State. (How could he get such a scholarship if his NC education was so bad??)

He spent about the same time growing up here as the poster below did, and he LOVES, LOVES, LOVES Raleigh and North Carolina. He's not religious, either.

You can bloom where you're planted.

A lot has to do with your own personal attitude. Read NorthRaleighGuy's posts, and you'll see he has the right attitude. He has explored the Triangle and shared his experiences in photos.

He never seems bored, and you won't be, either.

It is easier if you join a church, and you may, at some point in your life, be put off by fake Southern charm. But so what. No big deal. It doesn't happen that often. It is wicked hot here, and I crave Northern summers. And re the poster's experience with college versus high school, I think most people find college to be a huge breath of fresh air over the insanities of high school

You have a job, right? There's just not a lot of fat in the land around here.



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I'm not at all your demographic (I'm 25) but I lived in NC from the time I was 8-18 and I can tell you this much...

A lot of social activity (especially w/ neighbors) is church related. Most people talk openly about their beliefs as if everyone is Southern Baptist, which is somewhat rude and it does get irritating.

This is not at all a metropolis. There is no sense of style, and there isn't a whole lot to do. I will admit this has incrementally improved over the past 10 years with the influx of Northerners coming down (for example better shopping malls, trendier restaurants, and a newly refurbished Art Museum). However, this isn't the suburbs of NYC...I know it sounds harsh but I don't consider Raleigh a real city. Washington D.C. (about a 4-5 hours road trip) is the closest real city.

They are extremely nice in the fakest possible way. This is called 'southern hospitality' - don't be fooled by it.

The heat is absolutely stifling...in all the years I lived there I never got used to it. Summer is like being in an oven.

Also, I attended Wake County Schools for most of my life and it was the biggest regret of my life. As soon as I got out of NC, attended college, and saw what a real education could be I was utterly amazed.

I haven't lived there in about 10 years but when I did, they did not like anything considered 'different'. Most people there attended NC State or UNC or ECU, most people there drive mini vans or SUVs, most people there are religious, most people there wear flip flops, most people there have bumper stickers that indicate how many children & pets they have. It's all very boring. The housing though is super cheap and it's very safe.

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Old 06-10-2010, 06:32 PM
 
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I'm from Upstate - and my parents still summer there. Lots of friends who deal with the insanity that is NYC. I so hear you. And I SO HEAR you on the housing and raising your kid thing!

I think you're going to be more than pleasantly surprised at how similar this area is to Albany/Schenectedy, but a whole lot prettier with much better weather - particularly in the dead of winter. Oh brr, it's 25 degrees and there's a dusting of snow!!

There is a lot of diversity here - particularly the triangle, in large part because of IBM planting itself here and then being a feeder for so many other companies. The early adopters came and lots (like myself) followed. All walks of life, all social strata, religions, beliefs, political affiliations.

It's also really nice that you won't be scoffed at when you bring your food-lovin' kidlet with you s/he will be in good company with lots of activities and lots of other kidlets everywhere here!

Welcome and good luck!

Last edited by NcerfromNY; 06-10-2010 at 06:42 PM.. Reason: edit to add - I also lived and worked in the city for a number of years, and lived in Boston for a number of years too :)
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Old 06-11-2010, 10:05 AM
 
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Our Co-op is on sale right now, I hope we can move down south by August-September. I feel like I'm in "Of Mice and Men" and this move to NC is the promised land, where we'll live off the "fat of the land".
It's always a mistake to think that anywhere is going to be "The Promised Land". There will be lots of things you like better, but probably new things you like less. Thinking all your problems will be solved forever and ever by moving to NC (or to anywhere) is setting yourself up for big disappointment.

If there were such a place as "The Promised Land" where everything were perfect, nobody would be living anywhere else.
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Old 06-14-2010, 07:24 AM
 
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Bardot,
thanks for your info. It won't stop us from moving though.

lovebrentwood,
Nope, I don't have a job lined up yet but I am confident I will get one. There are more job postings in NC than in NYC for me anyway. I work in graphics design/marketing/publishing now. My wife will be able to keep her Yahoo! job and her NYC salary and be able to work from home.
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Old 06-14-2010, 07:31 AM
 
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NcerfromNY, thanks for the info.

francois, anywhere is better than my current situation. NYC is unlivable. Here, I am just surviving, I want to live!
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Old 06-14-2010, 07:59 AM
 
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Same here RobbieY. How's is it trying to sell your place? We just out ours up for sale.
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Old 06-14-2010, 09:44 AM
 
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We've had 6 viewings, no luck so far. Hopefully we'll sell by August.
Good luck to you too!
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