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Old 01-15-2010, 04:34 PM
 
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Old 01-15-2010, 06:28 PM
 
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Absolutely, positively...especially in this economy.

skaternum stated it extremely well. I think if a couple wants to profit -- or even break even -- from their wedding, they should just cancel the wedding, save their money and go to a justice of the peace.

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I categorically reject this notion. One should not extend hospitality with the expectation that you will get back in cash or in kind the amount you spent on that hospitality. It is social hospitality, not a business deal where you calculate a cost-benefit analysis. If you want someone to attend your wedding, you invite them. Period. If you go to a wedding, you purchase a gift that is reflective of your financial status and your relationship with the people getting married. Period. Anything else cheapens the sentiment of hospitality and reduces the whole thing to a financial transaction. Yuck!
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Old 01-15-2010, 06:34 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, NC
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I categorically reject this notion. One should not extend hospitality with the expectation that you will get back in cash or in kind the amount you spent on that hospitality. It is social hospitality, not a business deal where you calculate a cost-benefit analysis. If you want someone to attend your wedding, you invite them. Period. If you go to a wedding, you purchase a gift that is reflective of your financial status and your relationship with the people getting married. Period. Anything else cheapens the sentiment of hospitality and reduces the whole thing to a financial transaction. Yuck!
I agree and so do etiquette experts.

I think you've gotten a lot of good ideas so far but I sometimes give wine glasses they selected from their china if they've picked one at a lower price point.
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Old 01-15-2010, 11:00 PM
 
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I got the coasters that Vicki suggested. Still can't believe that I spent 20 bucks on 4 coasters. They were some kind of stone with the letter engraved so I guess that is why. Again, thanks.
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Old 01-16-2010, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Piedmont NC
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That sounds nice, mike052082. I had forgotten how newlyweds like things with their initials on them.

Great ideas here, that I have tucked-away for future wedding gift reference.

I also like some of the showers I have attended over the years -- one of my favorites was a Trim-the-Tree party. Each guest brought items for the holiday season, and I could well imagine how tickled the newlyweds would be, to actually have some nice holiday things to put on a Christmas tree, or to use in their home. It is so expensive to go out and buy holiday items, but most people like having a few things with which to decorate. I also liked a Stock-the-Bar party, and several of us 'organized' our gifts so there would be no repeats.

One of my own favorite wedding gifts was a place setting in a nice holiday china (two place settings, actually) with glasses, and placemats. It made for a special holiday morning for the two of us, and while I could never really afford to add to the set, it got to be 'the Christmas morning/dinner/brunch/whatever treat' to get the china. Fun for kids to think they had Santa's plate.
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Old 01-16-2010, 10:30 AM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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I got the coasters that Vicki suggested. Still can't believe that I spent 20 bucks on 4 coasters. They were some kind of stone with the letter engraved so I guess that is why. Again, thanks.
Good choice! I actually thought they were so nice that I bought a set for myself!

They are some type of self absorbing stone but I like the fact that they are personalized.

I hope you took a coupon!!!

Vicki
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Old 01-16-2010, 11:06 AM
 
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I once spent forever in Belk's trying to figure out what to give a friend for a wedding gift. (She had only immediate family at their wedding, but I wanted to send something anyway.) I was willing to spend a goodly amount, but absolutely nothing seemed right.

I finally took "cost" out of the equation and found what I would have liked: a set of four thick glass coasters, and a space where you could slip a photo inside each of them.

She LOVED them.

I googled "photo coasters" and came up with this even better product -- photos as part of the coasters. Cool.
Walmart.com: Personalized Tumbled Marble Photo Coasters: Personalized Gifts
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Old 01-16-2010, 12:41 PM
 
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To be honest I totally hate to feel like I need to give a gift, especially when it has a value on it. I have finally convinced my family to do a gift exchange on Christmas instead of spending money to buy everyone a gift. My mom and sister are such poor money managers but they spend a lot of money every year. I want everyone to be together and maybe cook the Christmas meal and enjoy each others company.

My wife, daughter and I now do some volunteer at the shelter on major holidays and spend it with people in need. I do this b/c I want my daughter to see others need help b/c she is in a position to have all her needs meet b/c of my wife and I.

This gift must be this is just ridiculous to me, thats all I am trying to say. I also don't want to get a gift that is a gift. I want it to be practicle and used. That is why I came to this forum.

Thanks yall. (even you nogard)
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Old 01-16-2010, 04:01 PM
 
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I know the wedding has passed, however, I thought of a great inexpensive gift that others may find useful. Could be used for wedding showers, baby showers, birthdays etc etc.

At the Raleigh Flea Market, in the main inside building in the "entryway/foyer" there is a small business that sells cotton throws (blankets). She will date, monogram, put names on etc. The price for a crib sized is about $20-25. They really are quite nice and having it personalized is a great touch.
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Old 01-16-2010, 08:26 PM
 
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I know of some people that are giving their gifts later or at work but I was suprised at how few gifts were given at the wedding. It is a middle age crowd, so I figured more gifts would be there. I got marrried at 22 and had a young crowd and had tons of gifts from all my friends who of course where young and broke too.

Well at least Vicki gave me a good idea and I got them something that I like and think that they would like at a good price point.
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