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Old 06-06-2012, 12:50 PM
 
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Just keep in mind, if these two are text messaging they know eachother. the likely hood of your son being one of the vandals is high. as soon as the other kid gets turned in, he will name your son. and dont say he would never do that, you have no idea what teens do when your not around.
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Old 06-06-2012, 12:59 PM
 
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Just keep in mind, if these two are text messaging they know eachother. the likely hood of your son being one of the vandals is high. as soon as the other kid gets turned in, he will name your son. and dont say he would never do that, you have no idea what teens do when your not around.
This is exactly the attitude that makes me want to stay quiet. M son was not texting this kid. He doesn't associate with the boy. He heard about it from a friend of a friend as kids gossip. Secondly, my son doesn't hang out with kids in our sub. He is somewhat of a home body. Would rather play his guitar or hang with his friends that live 5 miles down the road in another area of our city. The stuff is going on late at night. I assure you I keep an eye on my kid. I realize there are delusional parents out there but I am not one of them.
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Old 06-06-2012, 06:22 PM
 
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Can the HOA afford to hire a private security firm to drive around/walk around during the summer?
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Old 06-06-2012, 07:47 PM
 
Location: A little suburb of Houston
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Gossip is just that. You can't prove anything that way. I vote that someone invest in security cameras, then you would have proof to take to law enforcement.
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Old 06-06-2012, 08:01 PM
 
Location: Newport News VA
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My husband is a police officer and suggests that you contact your local police department and ask if they have a community liason police officer that is involved in meeting with neighborhoods interested in creating a neighborhood watch. Pass the info onto your HOA president to schedule the officer to come to a start-up meeting. Feel free to contact the officer and inform him of who the suspected perpetrator is. It is his job to follow-up. You can also ask for periodic neighborhood patrol checks. You don't need to mention your son. If there is no community liason, call and speak to a Captain about the situation. You don't have to give him your name and address if you do not want to.
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Old 06-06-2012, 09:15 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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It's not hearsay, it's a tip. Police are obligated to investigate.

Will you stay quiet if they target your house or car?
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Old 06-06-2012, 09:18 PM
 
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This is the kind of thing a "community" is made for. Maybe organize something with other neighbors, to keep an eye on each other and work together to solve it.
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Old 06-07-2012, 08:13 AM
 
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I assure you I keep an eye on my kid. I realize there are delusional parents out there but I am not one of them.
You willing to take that chance? You said it had been vandalized many times, you sure your kid wasn't there even once? When one of the kids is caught, he will likely name names. I wouldn't risk involving the police.

Teens do really, really, stupid things, but they grow out of it.

That said, if another resident involves the police, its out of your hands. But I dont recommend you involve the police.
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Old 06-07-2012, 02:23 PM
 
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OP is not the only person with a community like that & as a parent sometimes have to adopt that don't ask, don't tell least your neighborhood teens make trouble for your own.

I left a place like this...
My friend (and ex neighbour) just recently gotten a knock on their door by one of the regular teen who hang out sometimes till midnight that community park in front of the homes... asking if they seen their next door neighbours. Which they answered "no" and was wondering it strange why a stranger would ask another about someone...
Supposedly per this friend, the house next door got broken into later that day & there are police & everything a big shindig. And this friend highly suspected that teenager. But per her post was afraid to point out this teen for fear of "retaliation"... and also she felt like an accomplice now. Plus the fear of who knows.. may be in a weird way... their house was targeted too (hence the knock)????

But of course the HOA there already have a bunch of meetings for the problematic teens & that community park (condoms found there, needles). They even took out the benches so no one can sit there anymore to discourage hangouts.... now my DD is also a teenager... what is a mom to do but to move her DD from a place like this??? To not be in a situation is to not place themselves there in the first place... thus we moved.

That place may be great for retired, young professional without children and with young children... but definitely never for us.

P.S. We even have an FBI wanted robber living secretly as sub tenant in our area where he is busted. Ours is also quite a white collar high end hood too... but still.
No guarantees is there???? Besides everything have to go through HOA "hoops" and did it end with anything being done???

I found out though through citydata stats... the less the population, less the crime due to less human nature exposure. (like why a smaller class learns better from that same teacher than a bigger class)
Where I am at, we are now at 0 sex predator count. That last place??? 19.

http://www.timesleader.com/stories/M...acebook,158039

Remember... when we are only but a mere mortal homeowner who does not have the power HOA have and to what ends????
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Old 06-07-2012, 03:31 PM
 
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Thanks everyone for your input. I decided to send an anonymous letter to the sheriff's dept. Don't know if it will do any good. I guess we shall see. I heard this kid has a record for shoplifting.
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