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Old 08-27-2013, 08:28 AM
 
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How normal is this?

Saw a house, fell in love with it, made an offer that was accepted, visited the house 2 more times (one for inspection and another for the extended family to see it). Each time the sellers were not present.

We are closing in 2 days and I have only seen them in pictures they had in the house. (They seem like a very nice family of 5). I thought it'd be weird to say I want a face to face meeting with the seller, right?

I figured that if the sellers really wanted to meet the potential buyer of their home then they would have stayed back when we asked them to see the house a couple of times... If not for the entire time, at least they could have stayed for a few minutes, said their hellos and then left??

They have owned the home since the 70s, which I thought would've been a bigger motivation to be interested in seeing who was buying the place that served as a setting for decades of memories for their family. Or am I the only wacko that thinks this way?

If there ever were sellers that viewed selling their home as a strictly business transaction, then its our sellers. Home buying is always an emotional experience for a buyer, but I thought it would also be the case for the seller as well, especially when they have lived in it for over 30years.

PS: I'd really like to meet them at least once and hope they show up at the closing but I doubt it. I can't force to show up, can I? haha
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Old 08-27-2013, 08:41 AM
 
Location: Austin
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In my 13 years, buyers and sellers have met probably less than 10 times. It's not the best idea. Sellers think they sold for too little. Buyers think they're paying too much and should have tried for a better deal. Emotions are high. You said they have lived there since the 70's so they might be too emotionally tied to the house to want to know who is going to "take it" from them.

I find it's always best not to meet. The only times they meet is when there are weird things/systems in the house and the sellers should explain to the buyers how to operate them.
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Old 08-27-2013, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Boise, ID
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Depends what is normal for your area. Some parts of the country, everyone sits down together for the closing. So you would meet then, if not before. Other areas, like mine, the buyer and seller usually never meet, and in fact, it is discouraged for them to do so. If I were buying or selling, I'd prefer never to meet the other party.
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Old 08-27-2013, 08:44 AM
 
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How normal is this? EXTREMELY normal.
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Old 08-27-2013, 09:12 AM
 
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I met the sellers of the first place I made an offer on. Big mistake. They were crazy and yes, they wanted more money. (Someone else had made a higher offer after they accepted mine, a whopping 5k, and they decided I was cheating them somehow). They used the opportunity to have a complete freakout designed to scare me off, and they succeeded.

I met the seller of the next place I made an offer on when we sat down to sign the closing paperwork. Much better way to go. There is just way too much emotion and stress on each side. Keep a polite distance!
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Old 08-27-2013, 09:38 AM
 
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They have owned the home since the 70s, which I thought would've been a bigger motivation to be interested in seeing who was buying the place that served as a setting for decades of memories for their family. Or am I the only wacko that thinks this way?
yes, I can see this as a reason why the seller may want to meet the buyer, but as mentioned in previous posts, it's perfectly normal not to.

My question is, why are you so desperate to meet the sellers? What are you expecting to gain?
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Old 08-27-2013, 09:38 AM
 
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Interesting ... I never imagined there was so much emotional stress and angst involved for some in buying/selling houses. We've bought/sold 7-8 houses and with one exception, have always sat down with the seller/buyer (at least at the closing) on a congenial basis. Of course, I've never taken real estate 'personally', but, always dealt with it simply as 'doing business.'
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Old 08-27-2013, 09:50 AM
 
Location: Manassas, VA
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I sat down with the buyer at closing....that was it. It really wasn't a big deal and if I could have just gotten out of that I would have. I don't really care one way or the other. In fact, when I bought the place initially, the only time I saw the seller in that case was again, at the closing.
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Old 08-27-2013, 10:17 AM
 
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Interesting ... I never imagined there was so much emotional stress and angst involved for some in buying/selling houses. We've bought/sold 7-8 houses and with one exception, have always sat down with the seller/buyer (at least at the closing) on a congenial basis. Of course, I've never taken real estate 'personally', but, always dealt with it simply as 'doing business.'
I agree, it should be just business. But sometimes things happen and that is not possible.

When we sold our house, our buyer insisted on a walk-through the night before the closing, with the presence of our real estate agent (the seller's agent). The buyer never had a gas stove before, and wanted to "play" with the stove (as explained to us later by our agent) but she managed to leave one burner ON with no flame during the whole night (this was not noted by our agent).

Next morning, I went to the house before closing, to check if everything was ok, and immediately felt the gas leak. I had to call the gas company, which evacuated the block before checking that there was nothing wrong, just the stove burner left ON.

We could have lost our property before closing, if there was an explosion. So you can bet that it was not a very cordial closing...
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Old 08-27-2013, 10:26 AM
 
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yes, I can see this as a reason why the seller may want to meet the buyer, but as mentioned in previous posts, it's perfectly normal not to.

My question is, why are you so desperate to meet the sellers? What are you expecting to gain?
I guess its all emotional for me. Having bought a place that I consider my 'dream home' and falling in love with it the instant I saw it. It made me want to somehow meet the sellers and congratulate them personally for maintaining the place so well.

I completely understand that ultimately it is just like any other business transaction but having seen their belongings, I know they raised their kids in this house, owned it for 30+ years, took care of it like it was their child (have not seen such a well maintained 60 year old home before. I mean not a single paint chip or blemish in the entire house)

I mean I did pay a premium for the place (at least according to the feedback I got from the other thread) so it's not like I am getting a ridiculous deal on the house and neither they get shafted on the price. I am sure I will look back at this a few years from now and chuckle at my current emotional state but such is the case with all first time home buyers... (or at least it'd better be!)
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