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Old 01-29-2018, 11:37 AM
 
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Not sure if this is the correct forum to post this question in.

My mother's house is adjacent to a house of a family with 4 children. They are not the nicest people. Other neighbors are aware of that as well. There was an issue with their dog before when they would leave it outside barking and wouldn't let it back in. (this is Arizona mind you - very hot). When they were confronted, they were not nice about it at all. The barking continued until the dog eventually died.

Now the issue we are having is that their small kids are throwing things at my mom when she works in her backyard. Food, paper, rocks, pine cones, etc. When my mom told the kids to stop, they ridiculed her. Now, I get it - they are small kids but it's potentially dangerous for my mom. She wrote to the HOA who placed a phone call. The neighbor claimed that the kids don't intentionally throw stuff and it gets accidentally thrown across the 6 foot fence. That is a lie as my mom witnessed the kids throwing stuff at her and then watching how she is going to react.

They also claimed that my mom burns stuff in the backyard. She does have a fire pit in her backyard, and I don't believe there is any rule that prohibits using it... and she used it maybe once or twice in the last year. What should her response be to this?

Lastly, this is verbatim from the HOA: "If you and your neighbor cannot get along this will be a neighbor to neighbor issue. If these disputes continue this will have to be brought to the board."

What should be her actions at this point? It's obvious that the neighbor is mean and is not willing to admit that their kids are in the wrong.

Please help - my mom is older and needs help/advice dealing with the mean neighbors...
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Old 01-29-2018, 11:50 AM
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Location: The Triad (NC)
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What should be her actions at this point?
Bottom line? This won't resolve until one of them moves.
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Old 01-29-2018, 12:02 PM
 
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I think she needs to get a security camera that can capture the kids throwing rocks at her, if they are continuing to do that.

It's kind of unclear what the HOA is stating here. Are they stating they will both be treated as troublesome and argumentative, and the HOA board will consider what sanctions to take against them both? Or are they planning to help mediate and reach a peaceable solution?
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Old 01-29-2018, 12:10 PM
 
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Security camera is a good idea. Call the police if it becomes dangerous or real harassment. Sad for your mom and she shouldn't have to put up with it.
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Old 01-29-2018, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Rochester, WA
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The HOA can't and shouldn't be law enforcement.

I think you need evidence, video evidence... and then police reports.
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Old 01-29-2018, 12:40 PM
 
Location: OK
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Whup those kids
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Old 01-29-2018, 12:54 PM
 
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"If you and your neighbor cannot get along this will be a neighbor to neighbor issue. If these disputes continue this will have to be brought to the board."

Sounds contradictory. First sentence seems to mean "you guys deal with it". Second sentences seems to mean "the board will deal with it". Why can't people write with any clarity these days?
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Old 01-29-2018, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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Ditto on some video evidence. You can probably get a super inexpensive video cam and set it up so your mom can turn it on when she goes in the yard, maybe even a motion detection one. My son bought one of those for the car that was only $35, though no sound. May not have super clear video but it would be better than nothing. Does she have wifi at her home?
My car cam works by digital recording is on a loop. I think it records up to 8 hours and then it records over the oldest recording. So if there is something you want to save and not to be recorded over you just unplug it, I think there is a SD card. It is also activated by simply plugging into cigarette lighter outlet thing in car. Could one be set up some way to use when she goes in backyard?

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Old 01-29-2018, 01:48 PM
 
Location: The Carolinas
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it's assault and battery. Send them a registered letter asking them to cease and desist. If it continues, contact Child Protective Services and the police with video evidence.
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Old 01-29-2018, 02:02 PM
 
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Thank you for all the replies. I talked to HOA, and they are aware that the neighbors are "difficult". But it sounds like there's not much they can do besides making a phone call. I will look into getting a camera set up. Sad there are people like that...
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