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Well, I don't break the law, so no, I would not engage in tortious interference with contract.
Finally a sensible answer for all adults concerned.
Ones 'intent' can usually be deciphered when engaged in conversation. It works both ways.
I absolutely appreciated a tentative neighbor sharing some 'ordinance' and foundation concerns when I was house shopping. Granted the inspection would have found the foundation concern....but the local ordinance that would effect the neighbors and streets made me withdrawal the offer. I felt bad for the fell'r . He sure didn't have money pouring out his ears to pay the 10k upgrade for the sewer line.
What gives rude people the right to disturb their neighbors with their hobbies? I am bias against inconsiderate idiots.
What makes how I live so wonderful? I do not disturb my neighbors; more people ought to try it!
Exactly! You can love music without making it so that your next-door neighbor has to hear it too! Such people do NOT have a right to do such things (at least they shouldn't. A lot of cities have noise ordnances since this problem seems to be apparent to a lot of other people except the culprits).
A good rule of thumb is that whatever you are doing should not impact the quality of another person's life, and sorry to break the news to those who aren't aware: playing loud music so that people outside of your house or car can hear it DOES impact the quality of life of quite a few people like me and the poster I've quoted. And I can tell you we're not among a few but a very, very many.
Exactly! You can love music without making it so that your next-door neighbor has to hear it too! Such people do NOT have a right to do such things (at least they shouldn't. A lot of cities have noise ordnances since this problem seems to be apparent to a lot of other people except the culprits).
A good rule of thumb is that whatever you are doing should not impact the quality of another person's life, and sorry to break the news to those who aren't aware: playing loud music so that people outside of your house or car can hear it DOES impact the quality of life of quite a few people like me and the poster I've quoted. And I can tell you we're not among a few but a very, very many.
How is any of this determined by a 30 second glance across a driveway? That is the scenario from the OP.
How is any of this determined by a 30 second glance across a driveway? That is the scenario from the OP.
Good point though that is exactly what we did, could definitely be wrong. Law abiding, high credit score, responsible citizen me also, like an above poster, drives old cars as I always pay cash and keep them forever, am frugal and was taught to not put money into things that depreciate. I've always had the crappiest cars on my street; drove a Toyota Tercel back when I lived in gated communities in Palm Beach.
However.
Erring on the side of perhaps this person who looks like a bum really IS a bum not an genius eccentric MIT professor or surgeon (knew one of these, looked like a dimwitted fat slob but was scary brilliant) who is too brilliant to care about convention is safer. Stereotypes are often true.
I've actually also discouraged BUYERS OF MY HOUSE when I didn't like them; one lady who brought her Father (who was bankrolling the purchase, they were crass enough to say upfront as they walked in) and wee, maybe 6y/o? son who she tried to let run amok in my house; he started to sit on the furniture (NO manners, obviously) I said "stay with Mother" and asked her to hold his hand and keep him by her while I showed her the place (sold my last 4 places by owner so I was showing); she said "oh HE'S FINE" I said no, small children need to STAY with their Mother when in a stranger's home.
When taking mine to anyone's home they kept hold of my hand(s) while there, common courtesy and sense.
She was also loud, and very obviously low intellect. Father asked ridiculous and inexplicable (why did he care?) qs regarding a supply of formula (for my daughter with Crohn's who was tube fed at times) stored in the basement; just low class folks all around.
I would not have sold to them, though they didn't end up offering to buy. I felt for my soon to be former neighbors and tried to sell to decent folk and always did in the end.
Years ago, the house across the street sold. I was concerned when I saw the new owner in the yard. His head was shaved, he had on a wife beater with tattoos from shoulder to wrist on both arms, shorts on with white socks and heavy work boots with more tattoos on his calves. Great, our new neighbor was a skinhead.
He came and went and definitely wasn’t a 9-to-5’er. He drove a black SUV and DH one day said he thought he might be a fed, he could make out a light bar under the grill and saw those in the city. Yeah, sure. DH assessment turned out to be correct. One morning after he returned home, we saw him in his back yard wearing a bright orange jump suit and when he turned around we saw the huge FBI letters on the back. He was working undercover with gangs at the time.
I’m glad I’m not the type of person who would have tried to sabotage someone from moving in, we would have missed the best neighbor we ever had. I could tell amazing stories about him, but will just say I feel privileged to have known him. He was a good neighbor who looked out for us and we did the same for him. We miss him now that we have moved, there will never be another neighbor like him.
How is any of this determined by a 30 second glance across a driveway? That is the scenario from the OP.
Not talking about that. Sorry, that's a different issue. It's probably just the impression he got which could be right or wrong. Definitely does not justify sabotaging the house-buying process. You unfortunately do not pick your neighbors, so if it's that huge of a problem, it's probably best for these people to live where you don't have your neighbor 12 feet across from you (probably a hyperbole, though I'm sure there's neighborhoods like that).
That's what I did. We don't live in total isolation, but there's a good deal of space between the neighbors. The closest one is maybe 1/10th of a mile away, probably a little bit more than that. The "problem" neighbor for me is maybe about 2/10ths of a mile. They like to play their music loud from time to time and man is it f---g irritating! But at least they're not right on top of me. I don't think you can ever guarantee to get away from people like that forever, but at least if you're in a rural or rural-ish area, the homes are more spaced out from each other.
The OP mentioned bias. Harley riders and music lovers don't have a right to live in a neighborhood? What makes how YOU live so wonderful?
Apparently, you have never lived next to a Harley owner!! I gaurantee if you did, you would change your tune!! Nothing like being awaken everyday at 4:30am by the thunderous rumbling as he guns the engine before roaring out of his driveway!!
Thank God for my then HOA, who basically was hitting him with daily noise violations due to the four blocks of homes making the same complaint everyday till they took action, which caused him to ditch the bike till he was able to move out.
Through my own observations, most people wanting to live in a neighborhood, managed with a strong HOA, are people who want to live with like-minded people and are totally fine with commonsense rules relating to quality of life issues.
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