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Old 10-01-2019, 11:24 AM
 
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My eldest sister cannot afford to pay the difference. She is forcing everyone to sell at a 50 percent discount or the house will not be sold .
I can't read all this, but its not her call to NOT sell the house. Lawyer up.

She can buy it back at fair market value if thats what she wants to do.
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Old 10-01-2019, 11:35 AM
 
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Sorry, but that's creating a "story" out of emotion. The parents put all eight of the children's names on the deed, which indicates that they wanted the property divided among them. One child has gotten an extremely unfair advantage already for 10 years and now wants to further that advantage for her daughter. How is that supposed to keep the family "happy"? There is no "feel-good" solution to this situation in any case, and it has been caused by the eldest sister who is not only acting selfishly, but has abrogated her lawful duties as executor of the estate.
Ya I don't buy it either. Unless the rest of the family is made up of multi-millionaires that don't need any money for say a kids education. The older sister needs to grow up and do whats right.
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Old 10-01-2019, 02:14 PM
 
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My niece is well off . She will buy it in cash without a mortgage.
This is stupid. Your niece can pay cash for the place? So she should be able to buy this house if she wants it that bad at whatever price you throw at her. Why should she get a discount?
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Old 10-03-2019, 03:53 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas & San Diego
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Cool or not, it's true.

There are countless examples of rich people cheating others. Many need to look no further than their own families. Often the wealthiest family members are the ones who are always trying to pull a fast one.
Try again - it is a prejudicial comment and trying to put down a group - very not cool and bad attempt at hateful speech. It is not true - because it is an attempt to classify a member of a group as representative of that group (in this case, as a cheat) that YOU DON"T KNOW. This is clear prejudice, why is it ok to denigrate someone for income but not for race or gender? There are countless examples of very rich people giving much to charity, are they cheating others?

There are countless examples of poor people cheating others. Many need to look no further than their own families. Often the poorest family members are the ones who are always trying to pull a fast one.

You are being a complete hypocrite if you do not see that it is wrong.
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Old 10-03-2019, 07:05 AM
 
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Ya I don't buy it either. Unless the rest of the family is made up of multi-millionaires that don't need any money for say a kids education. The older sister needs to grow up and do whats right.
This is a good way to frame the issue to sis: "You expect me to shortchange my children's education (inheritance, etc) so you can preserve memories and your daughter can buy the property at half value and, in essence, receive an outsized inheritance?"
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Old 10-03-2019, 07:46 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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This is a good way to frame the issue to sis: "You expect me to shortchange my children's education (inheritance, etc) so you can preserve memories and your daughter can buy the property at half value and, in essence, receive an outsized inheritance?"
Well said.

IMHO, it is grossly unfair for one grandchild to receive a $600,000 inheritance/benefit from grandma & grandpa that the other grandchildren do not receive. We get along great in my family, but even the kindest, sweetest, most understanding sibling/first cousin would immediately see how unfair that is to the rest of their generation and be resentful.

It is hard to imagine that your siblings do not "see" that issue/problem.
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Old 10-03-2019, 06:20 PM
 
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
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My brothers and sisters still believe we can salvage the relationship with my eldest sister. Some are still confident that we can come to a resolution without a lawyer. I don’t feel the same . They are begging me not to hire a lawyer.
Leaving your sister aside for the moment, do you care about your other siblings' feelings?

Are you prepared to cut ties with all those who are literally begging you not to hire a lawyer?

Finally, I don't think this is primarily a real estate issue, and it is beyond time that it should be moved to a relationship forum.
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Old 10-04-2019, 10:38 AM
 
Location: just NE of Tulsa, OK
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They are begging me not to hire a lawyer.
You are under no obligation to inform any of your siblings if you decide to consult with an attorney. And "consulting" doesn't necessarily mean "hiring"...get the info you want/need from someone who is qualified, and *then* make an informed decision.
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Old 10-13-2019, 08:19 AM
 
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Any update, Jen?
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Old 11-19-2019, 10:35 PM
 
Location: just NE of Tulsa, OK
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Hey Roadrun1 (OP) -- After 24 pages of back & forth, I'm curious. Any updates you care to share???
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