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Old 05-11-2009, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Pawnee Nation
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Become a Jehovahs Witness or Mormon or Pagan or something she finds unacceptable. Every time she comes over stop what you are doing and have a prayer service that lasts until she leaves.

I'm kidding, of course, but she has to want to NOT come over for her to stop.

You have a pretty good and fun life....the kind she wants to live, and so long as she can live it vicariously through you, she will be there. What has to happen is that she must want to NOT be there. So make it less than attractive...........
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Old 05-11-2009, 11:28 AM
 
Location: Youngstown, OH
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It seems like the only thing tying her to the property still is the horse. Tell her she needs to find other accomodations for the horse. Once the horse is gone, if she comes over again and critiques something you are doing to the home, I would say that you respectfully disagree with her opinion and would appreciate if she could quit criticizing your home because it's not appreciated. Further, it would seem to be in her best interest, because she finds these changes so upsetting, that perhaps she no longer come over. If she would like to go out for a cup of coffee periodically, that's fine; however, it's upsetting your entire family with her despondent visits at the home.

I dunno. She'll probably be so offended no matter what you say, no matter how you say it, that I would think she'll quit coming around regardless.

Best wishes and please keep us updated.
Jenn
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Old 05-12-2009, 03:54 AM
 
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You definately need to set some boundaries and stick to them. I know you want to be nice, but you don't want to be a doormat and it sounds like that's where it's gone-- and a doormat for someone who used to live in your house is NOT what you want to be. You don't have to be cruel, but you need to be firm.
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