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Old 01-02-2019, 03:16 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ > Raleigh, NC
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Our friend has gone vegetarian. It's a pain, but I can deal with it. She will eat fish and shrimp.



But NOW she's got a boyfriend, who I've just learned is "dairy free". No milk, cream, ice cream, butter, cheese.


And they are BOTH coming to dinner on Friday, with another couple who don't have food issues - just standard likes and dislikes. (Mercifully, the other couple volunteered to do desert.)



I had planned on Norwegian Salmon, which is the only kind of salmon that I like. Unfortunately, Lidl is out of stock and probably won't have any until next week. So I moved on to other thoughts for an entree and thought about shrimp skewers / shish kabob. Which WILL need some butter and olive oil before they hit the grill.


Is that SMALL amount of butter gonna kill the boyfriend?
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Old 01-02-2019, 04:11 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Is that SMALL amount of butter gonna kill the boyfriend?[/QUOTE]

It could quite possibly kill him. It could kill me. It depends on whether he is allergic or intolerant. Neither one should be taken lightly though. No one wants their guests to be uncomfortable or monopolizing the bathroom or having to run off to the ER. My best advice is to disclose any dairy ingredients. People with food allergies are grateful for the warning. Eating out or eating food prepared by people you don't know is a major source of anxiety for those with allergies for good reason.

Those shrimp kebabs would be just as good without the butter or you could use Earth Balance which is a vegan alternative. You could also do two sets- make a few with just oil and seasonings and grill them on one half of the grill and grill the rest with butter and oil on the other half. It's easy to do with kebabs. Make the non-dairy ones on the skewer in one order shrimp- vegetable- shrimp and the dairy ones vegetable- shrimp- vegetable.

If he's really allergic it's a nice gesture if you could show product labels for what you use. Don't be offended if he declines to eat an item.
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Old 01-02-2019, 04:21 PM
 
Location: SC
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Make 2 versions....one with the EVOO....the other with butter. And do the ingredient label thing. You can cook vegan and dairy free without a lot of hassle.

Can your friend give you any pointers on her new BF? Surely she has cooked for him by now, or ate out even.

I have a DH and his family who have food sensitivities. They can't eat soy, garlic, olive and oils, basic vegetable oils, anything related to cucumber/watermelon, squash even. And they aren't vegetarian. Oh, MIL cannot eat eggs either.

Makes it a challenge sometimes. For DH, sometimes now I just cook his food, and then my own.
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Old 01-02-2019, 05:58 PM
 
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It's pretty ungracious to invite a vegan(?) over for dinner and then cook a main he won't eat even though it won't kill him. If he's not vegan, just dairy-free, why wouldn't you just use olive oil instead of butter?
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Old 01-02-2019, 06:23 PM
 
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Our friend has gone vegetarian. It's a pain, but I can deal with it. She will eat fish and shrimp.



But NOW she's got a boyfriend, who I've just learned is "dairy free". No milk, cream, ice cream, butter, cheese.


And they are BOTH coming to dinner on Friday, with another couple who don't have food issues - just standard likes and dislikes. (Mercifully, the other couple volunteered to do desert.)



I had planned on Norwegian Salmon, which is the only kind of salmon that I like. Unfortunately, Lidl is out of stock and probably won't have any until next week. So I moved on to other thoughts for an entree and thought about shrimp skewers / shish kabob. Which WILL need some butter and olive oil before they hit the grill.


Is that SMALL amount of butter gonna kill the boyfriend?

Our friend has gone vegetarian.

I hope its not contagious


shrimp skewers sound good .

I like buffet theme...they can grab what they want


I cooked for a vegan years ago

my brother had a vegan girlfriend ... and they came over for thanksgiving and I was quite accommodating..to her .. offered many choices.. went out of my way


they arrived early..... I had 5 deer hanging in the garage...3 were skinned (cut deer up on the side for extra $$$ well she flipped out and started dry heaving ..


so no dead animals around ..


the following year she did make it in the house ..



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Old 01-02-2019, 07:23 PM
 
Location: Richardson, TX
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Your friend is a pescatarian.

Just do olive oil instead of butter, he didn't say no oil.
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Old 01-02-2019, 07:48 PM
 
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I think I would say, we'd love to see you both - can we do a potluck?

"We don't want to run afoul of food needs. We don't know what to cook for a non dairy pecscatarian menu, but would love to try your dishes, and would love to see you! Otherwise, can you send ideas of what to serve?"

(Honestly, maybe serve salad and fruit salad otherwise? What are these people willing to eat?)
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Old 01-02-2019, 09:32 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ > Raleigh, NC
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who said anything about vegan? I did forget to add that she won't eat ANYTHING that's spicy.

Thank you for the suggestions. I'll do his with olive oil. haricot vertes. Roasted potatoes (not baked). Some kind of salad. I normally would add garlic bread with homemade baguette, but. . .

Appetizers have been a challenge, too. I bought humus (and DH glared - neither of us particularly like the stuff and leftovers will end up trashed). I'll make guacamole (no jalapeno). I'll have to think up something else to add.

But this is the last time. From now on, when we see them, it's gonna be at a Chinese restaurant.
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Old 01-02-2019, 10:30 PM
 
Location: North Idaho
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Grilled shrimp is good with toasted sesame oil. Mix the sesame oil with a flavorless vegetable oil both to cut the flavor and cut the cost.
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Old 01-02-2019, 10:31 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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One of my kids have several food allergies; so to me it is a big difference between intolerance like myself with gluten but it won't land me in an ER room or kill me though. Whereas, for my son...different story.

so always always disclose or even better label what you used to prepare. In all honestly, in this age of food allergies and intolerances, no one should be offended when asked politely what they like or any ideas?? I don't mind at all since I know its more work onto the hostess, but its also why 80% of time I tend to feed my allergy kid or bring his food with us if I'm very uncertain or unable to verify it's safeness.
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