Need Men's Opinions-daughter playing cupid (dating, married, women, single)

[coffeebeat]

What are your views on a woman's daughter trying to match her up with a guy?

I am 24 and I feel I need to help out my mom (41) find a decent guy to date. She is constantly picking guys who are trashy and have problems. They are either addicted to drugs, alcohol, or stealing..they tend to be ghetto or 'wanna be' ghetto. Also, I feel if I could find a decent guy with his head on straight for her, that she will improve herself as well. She's rough around the edges from having a hard life..she's doing better now, but needs a guy with more class so maybe it will rub off on her, etc. Also someone who will help her improve her health as she has some bad eating habits and needs to lose weight and be more active.

I was thinking of going on a dating site she has her profile on(she doesnt use it though) and creating a profile to contact guys that seem good matches, saying that I am the daughter of her and link them to her profile, and tell them why I'm trying to help her find a guy to date, tell them that I thought they seemed nice, etc. I wouldnt have a picture of me on this cupid profile, they would only see my mother's profile I linked them to.

So do you guys think this would be creepy? If you received a message like this would you think "Uhhh...okay?" Lol. Just looking for feedback. Women can give there opinion too. I've already discussed this with my mom a while back and she was fine with the idea.

Thanks!

[findinghope]

i guess if she is fine with it and you are being honest with the men, there should be nothing wrong with it.

[WyoNewk]

I'm not quite clear on just how you'd do this, but (if I was single) I wouldn't have a problem with a gal trying to set me up with her mother. One concern I've always had when dating single mothers was what her children would think of me. I've never had a problem with them (the kids), but knowing ahead of time that the daughter approves can't hurt.

[Galagaone]

Originally Posted by coffeebeat

What are your views on a woman's daughter trying to match her up with a guy?

I am 24 and I feel I need to help out my mom (41) find a decent guy to date. She is constantly picking guys who are trashy and have problems. They are either addicted to drugs, alcohol, or stealing..they tend to be ghetto or 'wanna be' ghetto. Also, I feel if I could find a decent guy with his head on straight for her, that she will improve herself as well. She's rough around the edges from having a hard life..she's doing better now, but needs a guy with more class so maybe it will rub off on her, etc. Also someone who will help her improve her health as she has some bad eating habits and needs to lose weight and be more active.

I was thinking of going on a dating site she has her profile on(she doesnt use it though) and creating a profile to contact guys that seem good matches, saying that I am the daughter of her and link them to her profile, and tell them why I'm trying to help her find a guy to date, tell them that I thought they seemed nice, etc. I wouldnt have a picture of me on this cupid profile, they would only see my mother's profile I linked them to.

So do you guys think this would be creepy? If you received a message like this would you think "Uhhh...okay?" Lol. Just looking for feedback. Women can give there opinion too. I've already discussed this with my mom a while back and she was fine with the idea.

Thanks!

She had you when she was 17 and was probably prego @ 16. Sounds like she's getting the type of men she deserves.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by Galagaone

She had you when she was 17 and was probably prego @ 16. Sounds like she's getting the type of men she deserves.

Don't be judgmental, you don't know all the facts on her. Hey if she had poor upbringing blame the parents. And some just have low self esteem. I think the OP is doing her a favor with the dating thing. Although tell your mom she needs to change too, if she wants a good man.

[2RUGGED4YOU]

Originally Posted by coffeebeat

What are your views on a woman's daughter trying to match her up with a guy?

I am 24 and I feel I need to help out my mom (41) find a decent guy to date. She is constantly picking guys who are trashy and have problems. They are either addicted to drugs, alcohol, or stealing..they tend to be ghetto or 'wanna be' ghetto. Also, I feel if I could find a decent guy with his head on straight for her, that she will improve herself as well. She's rough around the edges from having a hard life..she's doing better now, but needs a guy with more class so maybe it will rub off on her, etc. Also someone who will help her improve her health as she has some bad eating habits and needs to lose weight and be more active.

I was thinking of going on a dating site she has her profile on(she doesnt use it though) and creating a profile to contact guys that seem good matches, saying that I am the daughter of her and link them to her profile, and tell them why I'm trying to help her find a guy to date, tell them that I thought they seemed nice, etc. I wouldnt have a picture of me on this cupid profile, they would only see my mother's profile I linked them to.

So do you guys think this would be creepy? If you received a message like this would you think "Uhhh...okay?" Lol. Just looking for feedback. Women can give there opinion too. I've already discussed this with my mom a while back and she was fine with the idea.

Thanks!

No biggy, as long as you don't try to pass yourself off as your mom! Guys see a picture of you and show up to find your mom! Other than that it should be fine and it wouldn't freak me out!

[Sikaranista]

It sends a message of "I want you to be my new daddy".

Men are hunters. That will scare some guys off.

If it doesn't, you aren't exactly attracting him with Mom's mind and values, are you?

She'll get his attention for awhile...at least until he decide to hunt for more/different attention.

[sunshineleith]

Originally Posted by Galagaone

She had you when she was 17 and was probably prego @ 16. Sounds like she's getting the type of men she deserves.

Whoa! Rather NASTY and JUDGMENTAL comment!!

[stepka]

I have a friend who just got married to the man her daughter set her up with. I'm not being judgmental here, but the way you describe your mom doesn't sound very attractive to the average man looking for a relationship, so maybe you can help her with her eating (and other) problems before you try to set her up? You sound like a very sweet daughter.

[boodhabunny]

She would have better luck if she worked on improving herself before she tries to date. People who have their head on straight generally want to date other people who have their head on straight.