Sexual Experience (women, love, younger, sex)

[SacredRiver]

I am somewhat surprised over the responses to some questions on OkCupid about sex. It appears to me that women indulge in sex to a much higher degree than I thought.

For instance, one question is about "Group Sex with 3 or more partners". I know one woman on their personally through someone else and she says "I've tried it." I looked at another profile and this woman did as well.

I was also surprised about the first woman, who is 46 years old, where "If you divide your age by 2 have you had this many partners" and her answer is yes. She also indicates through other questions that sex is very prominent and important. Many years ago I was in a class in college with an overnight stay and played a drinking game with four women - yeah, lucky me but nothing happened. Anyway, one question was about a threesome and two of the girls said yes. I was not too surprised about one but the other I was VERY surprised. One of the other girls said she had sex outside on a small bridge on campus while her friend kept lookout.

I think it would be interesting to supernaturally know the true answer to these and other types of questions related to sex.

I also think women have it MUCH easier with sex because they can have sex any time they want, and can explore all of their desires easily since finding a guy to have sex with is not hard.

I am curious how many of the women reading this have tried group sex and they # of partners they have had. I can only imagine how many experiences of various sorts women have had in the past hundred years. I think I would be shocked. I am 38 and I've only had sex once, and it lasted 10 seconds as it was NOT a good situation. No time to elaborate.

[SacredRiver]

Just one more thing...

Does knowing that a percentage of women have sex with two or more people when you have not, make you feel inadequate? I picture two women and a man having sex fun and I feel like I am not as much a man as someone who gets to be with two women at the same time.

How does a guy measure up to that standard of sex?

In a way I feel jealous that women get to have all this fun while many of us guys are scraping to get just a regular relationship going.

[Childfree35]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

I am somewhat surprised over the responses to some questions on OkCupid about sex. It appears to me that women indulge in sex to a much higher degree than I thought.

For instance, one question is about "Group Sex with 3 or more partners". I know one woman on their personally through someone else and she says "I've tried it." I looked at another profile and this woman did as well.

I was also surprised about the first woman, who is 46 years old, where "If you divide your age by 2 have you had this many partners" and her answer is yes. She also indicates through other questions that sex is very prominent and important. Many years ago I was in a class in college with an overnight stay and played a drinking game with four women - yeah, lucky me but nothing happened. Anyway, one question was about a threesome and two of the girls said yes. I was not too surprised about one but the other I was VERY surprised. One of the other girls said she had sex outside on a small bridge on campus while her friend kept lookout.

I think it would be interesting to supernaturally know the true answer to these and other types of questions related to sex.

I also think women have it MUCH easier with sex because they can have sex any time they want, and can explore all of their desires easily since finding a guy to have sex with is not hard.

I am curious how many of the women reading this have tried group sex and they # of partners they have had. I can only imagine how many experiences of various sorts women have had in the past hundred years. I think I would be shocked. I am 38 and I've only had sex once, and it lasted 10 seconds as it was NOT a good situation. No time to elaborate.

You sound like the guy on another thread. How surprised you are with women loving sex.

If a man engage into threesomes, he's a player
If a woman engage into threesomes, she's a wh###.

Go figure.

Would you like to participant with these women? Are you on there to find a relationship?

[galactic_hombre]

It is a bad deal--since the invention of birth control and sexual revolution. Otherwise, we men would have no desire to carry that burden. In addition, women no longer need a provider with FMLA and the proliferation of day care centers, etc. They can be more selective and indulge. Not to worry--men will eventually create robots--convert the blow-me-up doll into soft tissue ;-)

[TaoistDude]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

I am 38 and I've only had sex once, and it lasted 10 seconds as it was NOT a good situation.

Your perspective is influenced by your life experience in this area. Perhaps you retain an idealized, romanticized view of women's sexuality.

The reality is far grittier and varied. The motivation behind sex can be love, or it can be lust - or both, even at the same time. Most women enjoy sex, and many will try many things - because they are exciting and feel great.

Younger women may be trying things to experiment (threesomes, bi experiences, etc.) and find what they like before "settling down" where their options may be limited. Older women may emphasize sex both because they like it and because they are looking for a new relationship, and they know that most men really care about sex.

[sunshineleith]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

Just one more thing...

Does knowing that a percentage of women have sex with two or more people when you have not, make you feel inadequate? I picture two women and a man having sex fun and I feel like I am not as much a man as someone who gets to be with two women at the same time.

How does a guy measure up to that standard of sex?...

How does he measure up? I've never figured that one out: I would think he needs two appendages in order to be of much use to two women LOL. Two guys and one woman makes way more sense.

[Wingsy]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

Just one more thing...

Does knowing that a percentage of women have sex with two or more people when you have not, make you feel inadequate? I picture two women and a man having sex fun and I feel like I am not as much a man as someone who gets to be with two women at the same time.

How does a guy measure up to that standard of sex?

In a way I feel jealous that women get to have all this fun while many of us guys are scraping to get just a regular relationship going.

It's our reward for several hundred years of dismally inadequate medical research into female medical issues - there's a blood test AND vaccine for prostate cancer, but we barely catch cervical cancer in time... and the PAP smear tests have a disgustingly high false result rate. We pump our bodies full of chemicals for birth control... causing massive side-effects, some dangerous, some fatal... but the worst thing we do to a man is expect him to slap a condom on his appendage - and a good number of them gripe about it. The treatments we have for menopause are dangerous even in the best circumstances. We think nothing of ripping out most of the female reproductive system as a "fix" for a multitude of medical issues... rather than discovering treatments that would HEAL the organs. On, and on, and on...and presented only slightly tongue-in-cheek.

Incidentally... why assume that those threesomes involved two women and one man?

Personally, I am surprised at how REPRESSED women still are in their sexual pursuits and explorations. I've spent very little time within the "vanilla" world... being on City-data has been an eye-opener for me. I do most of my socializing among people who live "alternative relationship styles," and sexual repression just isn't part of our psyche. Stepping back into the "vanilla" world has been a kind of culture-shock, and a little sad to find that so many women (and men) still possess so many archaic ideas about sexuality - their own AND that of others.

Women are no less sexual creatures than men... the difference is that women are taught from a very early age that embracing their sexuality is wrong, that "good girls" keep their legs together. Men are taught that expressing their sexuality is a demonstration or enhancement to their masculinity. It's something to brag about. A woman is taught that her value is diminished should she do the same.

Fortunately, that is slowly changing. Women are wising up. But it is STILL a very slow change.

[omigawd]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

. I am 38 and I've only had sex once, and it lasted 10 seconds as it was NOT a good situation.

Huh?????

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

I am somewhat surprised over the responses to some questions on OkCupid about sex. It appears to me that women indulge in sex to a much higher degree than I thought.

It always amazes--no, amuses--me to hear people say this^. We already know many men--and I'm only speaking of straight men here--sleep around a lot with many different women, don't seem to be very choosey at times even. Just whom did you suppose they were having sex with?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by SacredRiver

I was also surprised about the first woman, who is 46 years old, where "If you divide your age by 2 have you had this many partners" and her answer is yes.

Let's do the math here: she's had 23+ partners while being sexually active for good 28 or 30 years. Not even 1 per year! What a slu*t!