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Old 06-27-2010, 03:38 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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My word is my bond. I don't have to be emotional to do what I see as my duty.

I work hard at my job--but it isn't for "emotional" reasons, it is because it is what I see as "right".

By the way, I'm sorry if it seemed as if I was insinuating that you, personally, were promiscuous. That is what I see in society, but it isn't intended specifically against anyone here. I don't know any of you personally, so I could not make that judgement unless I did.
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Old 06-27-2010, 03:55 PM
 
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That means that in YOUR opinion, the woman is a tease. But if nothing was ever intended by it, there is no "teasing". That's why I asked--do women give signals that they don't intend to give. What's the difference?

The clearest signal is also the most direct--come out and just say what you mean. Problem solved. Tell the guy you find him interesting and would like to spend more time with him. No room for misinterpretation.
If that's what you need from a woman, then you should stop analyzing interpersonal relationships and asking questions about things like this, and instead just assume that a woman is not interested unless and until she says so.

You will most likely miss opportunities because the world is not going to stop spinning on its romantic, flirtatious little axis to cater to your inability to interpret or enjoy the finer points of social interaction, but at least you won't have to do any guesswork.

So, if she doesn't say "TKramar, I find you interesting and would like to spend more time with you," she wants nothing to do with you and you should leave her alone.

There: Simple, direct, and we all get to stop slogging through inane threads like this one.
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Old 06-27-2010, 05:19 PM
 
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You will most likely miss opportunities because the world is not going to stop spinning on its romantic, flirtatious little axis to cater to your inability to interpret or enjoy the finer points of social interaction, but at least you won't have to do any guesswork.
(You must spread some reputation around before repping Avienne again.)
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Old 06-27-2010, 05:34 PM
 
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So you admit that there are women who flirt without meaning anything by it? If so, I rest my case.
Yes, they do. Don't ever try to figure it out because you won't be able to. It's part of "the game" and only they know the answer. What fun it must be to pinch a guys a** and give him a crotch rub only to spit in his face when he takes it seriously! Smile and move on, that really hits a nerve with the teases!LMAO......... But wait...............
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Old 06-27-2010, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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If that's what you need from a woman, then you should stop analyzing interpersonal relationships and asking questions about things like this, and instead just assume that a woman is not interested unless and until she says so.

You will most likely miss opportunities because the world is not going to stop spinning on its romantic, flirtatious little axis to cater to your inability to interpret or enjoy the finer points of social interaction, but at least you won't have to do any guesswork.

So, if she doesn't say "TKramar, I find you interesting and would like to spend more time with you," she wants nothing to do with you and you should leave her alone.

There: Simple, direct, and we all get to stop slogging through inane threads like this one.
Eh, I find it easy to let the women make the first move. I don't bother, personally, trying to figure them out. Too complicated.

This was for everyone else's edification, not mine.
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Old 06-27-2010, 07:22 PM
 
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Eh, I find it easy to let the women make the first move. I don't bother, personally, trying to figure them out. Too complicated.

This was for everyone else's edification, not mine.
You are spot on with that one. The type of women good guys want makes an equal effort in the chase and doesn't play schoolyard games!
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Old 06-27-2010, 08:05 PM
 
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My word is my bond. I don't have to be emotional to do what I see as my duty.

I work hard at my job--but it isn't for "emotional" reasons, it is because it is what I see as "right".

By the way, I'm sorry if it seemed as if I was insinuating that you, personally, were promiscuous. That is what I see in society, but it isn't intended specifically against anyone here. I don't know any of you personally, so I could not make that judgement unless I did.
Your duty? Wow, a commitment is not a 'duty'. It is something that you WANT to be in because you have an emotional connection with a woman and she you. The way to have an emotional connection with a woman is to let her know that you are loving and loyal (not a duty). Once she can TRUST you, she can relax and open up to you on a deeper, emotional level and love you.

Let's face it, women are emotional creatures. Some of us can deny it and some of us are overwhelmed with it. But if a man is patient and attentive to the emotional needs, women appreciate that more than a man can ever comprehend.

No issues on the promiscuous issue. I'm not, though I think most men are, but that's just my hang up.
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Old 06-27-2010, 08:14 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Yet to me, I see commitment as a duty. Being exclusive is something that I need to do.
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Old 07-11-2010, 09:41 AM
 
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Do women ever use the following as a sign they want you to be interested in them or to flaunt their assets to you?

When women interlock their fingers, and reach their arms back over their head, stretching back, and their chest aims upwards showing the nice figure of their breasts?

Is it just a stretch always? Or do they do it on purpose sometimes? That stretch is really hot either way!
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