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Oh, & 'bout guys bein' players, pickup lines is a big redflag. If y'all ladies don't pick up on them sad excuses for men, I don't know what to tell ya.
Hi rebelwoman,
You are fooling yourself. Successful players don't look like players. They don't use lame pick up lines. What you may be getting is someone trying to become one or some working stiff who finally got his promotion doing something he does not usually do. The only way to get that experience is to be pumped and dumped a 100 times and then you might see some patterns. He already has done that and is way ahead of you . Your only defense is time. The only other possibility is you are so hot you convert him in which case you may never know. I sit right next to a married X-player.
Oh, I didn't know you wanted to talk 'bout the wannabe players. In that case, your right. But a real player won't get married, unless he plans to cheat, & is so full of himself that he won't change for anyone. & yes, real players use pickup lines. That's just an irritating part of their cockiness.
If you're good at reading and quickly assessing personalities, you can usually tell if someone is a player -that is, in my experience anyway.
Just because someone is good looking doesn't mean they're a player. If they are good looking and KNOW it, that may indicate otherwise. Typically those who know they are good looking relish in the fact that they get a lot of attention and use it to their advantage. Again, this is just my own experience and opinion.
Well, that's true. If a man (even woman) knows they're drop-dead gorges, they get really cocky. That's what usually leads to people becomin' players. Still, if they're ugly as hell but they like to think they're hot, that can make them look confident which can be a turn on to some people. They might not get as many plays as the good-lookin' ones, though.
But no, looks doesn't have much to do with it. It's all 'bout concededness.
Well I think he's right on the money. If a woman's gotta big old purse, fancy lookin' clothes, lots of makeup on, or pretty necklaces and earrings all over 'er, (all of these things @ once is horrible,) she's high-maintenance & a total ***** who expects a sugar daddy who'll spoil the **** out of her & then turn right around & cheat on his ass in return. Stay away from 'em, I know what they'll do. I used to be that way back when I's 'bout 19 or 20, minus the fancy ****, & I'll assure ya darlin', they could give a **** less 'bout you.
Soooooooo............preferring not to look like an unmade bed makes a gal a player?
Oh, I didn't know you wanted to talk 'bout the wannabe players. In that case, your right. But a real player won't get married, unless he plans to cheat, & is so full of himself that he won't change for anyone. & yes, real players use pickup lines. That's just an irritating part of their cockiness.
Hi rebelwoman,
Actually you brought wannabe it up. If you can detect a pick up, he is a wannabe. According to one married former player I know, he doesn't cheat. There is no archetype "player". We are talking about humans and even so called "players"(men who have slept with lots of women) do fall in love. They may more often fall in love with more than one woman. Still, some do seem to mellow with age. My point is there is no reliable short term way to see it coming.
Soooooooo............preferring not to look like an unmade bed makes a gal a player?
Hi kshe95girl,
I agree the dress has nothing to do with it. It has to do with behavior; and by female player, I assume we are talking about gold digging since no man will feel played by having sex with a well dressed woman.
I agree the dress has nothing to do with it. It has to do with behavior; and by female player, I assume we are talking about gold digging since no man will feel played by having sex with a well dressed woman.
While one may be well dressed, that doesnt mean they are a gold digger, but I do agree that manner of dress has nothing to do with whether one is a player or not!
i've had a lot of friends, acquaintances, drinking buddies, that fit the mold. there is a pattern here.
A player is a guy who uses the false pretenses of a 'serious relationship,' long enough to gain a girl's interest, and have plenty of sex. When he's bored of that, he will either disappear with a lame reason, or he will pull some stunt (cheating, behaving like a jackass, etc) so the girl in question will break up with him.
Occasionally his stunt won't be demeaning enough for the girl to get the picture. In that case, he will just keep banging her, telling his friends about "this sl*t he knows", while he looks for someone else at the bar. Meanwhile, she cries to all her friends about how terrible he treats her (right before she txts him for a booty call). I have seen this a million times.
Ways to avoid this are pretty simple, certainly not rocket science. My experience is that women who fall for 'players' are rarely being tricked, they like the drama, the attention, the sex, and the charismatic guy chasing them.
since no man will feel played by having sex with a well dressed woman.
Ha-ha, yeah, such complainers are hard to come by. It's more like: please play me!
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