Height Surgery To Get Women. (therapy, problems, reason, fighting)

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by robee70

Women prefer men who are confident. Maybe it's not your height that's holding you back, but your lack of self-esteem due to your height.

BTW, I ditto what Sierra said. 5'5" may be shorter than 6', but there are plenty of women who are under 5'5". Generally, women like men that are taller then them, so that gives you plenty to work with.

That surgery is CRAZY!!

And even that's no gimme. My guy is 5'9". His last girlfriend was 5'11".

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Avienne

LOL! Love it.

I'm 5'4" and I've gone out with men my height. If you're smart and good-looking, and you're comfortable in your own skin (which I suspect the OP is not), you've got something to work with.

It all depends, of course! Even though I do prefer taller men, the biggest obsession of my life probably wasn't more than 5'7" or 5'8" (max) tall. I certainly haven't measured him! Hell, could've been even under 5'7" for all I know.

[DeltaT]

I would not do this! Yo uwill be in a wheel chair for months.... seriosuly, don't do it.

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

It all depends, of course! Even though I do prefer taller men, the biggest obsession of my life probably wasn't more than 5'7" or 5'8" (max) tall. I certainly haven't measured him! Hell, could've been even under 5'7" for all I know.

Come to think of it, one of my sisters is 5'8" and her husband is shorter than I am, another sister is 5'7" and her husband is 5'6", and another sister (I have three), is 5'5" and her second husband was 5'4".

In all honesty, I think the issue comes from other men. My father was 6'1" and he always treated the taller among our boyfriends better. He considered anyone under 5'10" to be "short," and had a thing about his daughters dating men who could to look him in the eye. It made no sense whatsoever, because all of my sisters' first husbands were between 6'0" and 6'4"--and, well, they're EX husbands for very good reasons!

[Ivorytickler]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

I saw a documentary on it being done in Asia. A lot of failures. I can't believe as a cardiologist you're even considering this.

Yeah, a lot of women like taller men, it's true. But tons of short men get married, girlfriends and sex.

You would rather have a 70K surgery that may maim you for life, than have a harder than average time finding women?

And when he does find a woman, she's going to need a boob job, a nose job and liposuction... and their kids will look nothing like either of them.

[Caldus]

I'm 5' 7" myself, but I attribute my lack of friends and relationships to my social anxiety problems, not so much my height. Although I was in a friends with benefits situation with a girl several years ago and she told me that she didn't want to be exclusive with me because I was not tall enough for her. She said that she was used to dating guys 6' and above. Then I've also been with a girl who was one inch taller than me and asked me once if it bothered me that she was taller than me and I said no. We ended up going out a few times but I broke it off for other reasons. So I can see where you might feel a bit disillusioned and frustrated OP, but as someone else in this thread said (and I believe it too), for every short guy like you that complains about their shortness preventing them from getting women, a guy nearby you is taller and is frustrated with the dating scene for entirely different reasons.

We humans really make this dating stuff so much harder than it needs to be, don't we? :P

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Avienne

Come to think of it, one of my sisters is 5'8" and her husband is shorter than I am, another sister is 5'7" and her husband is 5'6", and another sister (I have three), is 5'5" and her second husband was 5'4".

In all honesty, I think the issue comes from other men. My father was 6'1" and he always treated the taller among our boyfriends better. He considered anyone under 5'10" to be "short," and had a thing about his daughters dating men who could to look him in the eye. It made no sense whatsoever, because all of my sisters' first husbands were between 6'0" and 6'4"--and, well, they're EX husbands for very good reasons!

Ha-ha, so people make 180-degree changes in too many areas!

[robee70]

Originally Posted by Avienne

And even that's no gimme. My guy is 5'9". His last girlfriend was 5'11".

I myself know several women married to men shorter than them.

I'm 5'3 and my dh is 6'2. I don't remember ever dating anyone under 5'8, BUT I also don't recall ever being approached by anyone shorter than that.

Maybe shorter men prefer women their height or taller as a means of offsetting their self-consciousness due to their height?

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Ha-ha, so people make 180-degree changes in too many areas!

Really. Don't get me started on the first batch of husbands.

Plus, maybe this is a gross generalization, but shorter guys tend to be better dancers. Just my experience.

[JasonCrowley]

Yes. Many women come to shorter men after they've been beaten to death by their taller knights in shining armor, the men they've been grooming themselves to be with since childhood. After they've been sexed by countless men, after their their genitalia have been stretched beyond recognition, they then say, "now I will try shorter men". We are last pickings, and we should "be grateful" that we are now being paid attention now. Unfortunately, many of these women are in their 30s and 40s, and have been used. Now we get second pickings.

Of course not all women fall into this category, but I have come across many reformed heightists. My friends speak of them fondly, and largely ignore them. The general consensus is, "don't come to us now".