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And there's countless threads like that about overweight people, beautiful people, ugly people, skinny people, etc etc.... everyone deals with something about their appearance that could hinder their career or sex life. You can prove or disprove anything you want nowadays using the internet. Just like you can find some surgery that can magically make you
"perfect" but the reality is .. you'll still be the same inside.. and this isnt a common surgery with a small risk. What if instead you become a paraplegic? Would you rather be a shorter man or one who cant use his legs at all? Make the best of the hand you are dealt. The quicker you accept it and stop worrying or being angry about it.. you'll attract many more people to you....
Generally, doctors tend to discourage cosmetic lengthening for people who want to add a couple of inches to their frames because such people are:
breaking perfectly functional limbs;
confining themselves unnecessarily to crutches or a wheelchair for over a year;
voluntarily subjecting themselves to pain and discomfort;
exposing themselves to unnecessary risk of infections, of damaged nerves and blood vessels, and fat embolism that can result in death; and
incurring unnecessary expenses as the procedure is relatively expensive.
People insistent on doing the procedure, however, are required by some doctors to undergo a thorough body imageassessment by a psychologist to help determine how far the person's quality of life has been affected by his perceived lack of height, and if doing the surgery will make a marked difference. The entire evaluation, which includes in-depth doctor-patient discussions, usually takes months during which time, the doctors hope that their patients will change their minds.
My boyfriend is 5'5. I'm 5'6. Been together for a year. Guys near my height tend to be humble but ones who are taller (that I've met) tend to be talkative jerks.
Why is the relationship forum being infested by guys who don't know how to talk to women would do anything to get a woman but gain self-confidence?
No. I don't think you read any of my subsequent posts on this thread. A lot of women have hangups on height, but especially the shorter ones. They demand their men to be very tall, not just taller than them. Whether it be on the street, in a club, a bookstore, or an online dating site, many, dare I say most short women demand that their man be significantly taller. I notice a lot of women who around say 5'5 to 5'8 will be okay with dating a man 5'8 to 6ft or taller. However, women 4'11 to 5'3 will demand that their men be over 5'10. That is very discouraging when you come across that over and over again. These shorter women will give you many reasons as to why as 5'4 to 5'8 man isn't good enough for them. I have heard everything from "i am small, he cannot be small" to "i will not feel protected". This is absurd. This brings me to my original question. Just who are we supposed to date?
There is no need to target women shorter than yourself. You are correct that the shortest women usually are attracted to taller men. So you might have better luck with women your height or taller.
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Some of my favorite men are/were short and very desirable to other women--and not just because of money; Bono of U2, Dudley 'the sex thimble' Moore, Al Pacino, Dustin Hoffman...the list is endless.
My brother, who was only 5'6", had women fighting over him, trying to befriend me in hopes of getting close to him. Who are all these short men with women if the majority prefer tall? My guy is 5'6 (oh, and a half, can't forget that half inch. I'd be in trouble ).
I hope you opt out of this surgery. There are plenty of women who love short men.
I am 5'5 1/2. I know my height has kept me from getting many women. I am one year shy of a PhD, own property, a nice car, am assertive, and have accomplished a lot. However, society looks down on short men. No matter how much a short man has, the 6 ft bus driver, or 6'3 ice cream man will always do better with the ladies, than the 5'3 guy who is a cardiologist. Many women, even the shortest ones all have 6 foot requirements and will come up with every excuse in the book why a short man is not a real man.
I am now considering limb lengthening to go to at least 5'9. The $70,000 cost seems to paltry compared the benefits which may ensue.
On one hand being tall can help just as women having boob jobs can help them get male attention. However, it's not necessary in the slightest. We're close to the same height and I've never had a problem dating taller women, up to 5'9". And most women are your height or under anyway. Also, if you want a slight bump they do make shoes these days that add a bit of height--think of them as being like push-up bras.
The main thing to remember about height is that the reason women respond to it is because they innately corrolate that to safety and protection. If you can engage a woman's emotions to trigger those same feelings, then you don't have to be tall at all. I know a guy who's 5'4" and gets more women than a natural player friend of mine that's 6' tall.
On one hand being tall can help just as women having boob jobs can help them get male attention. However, it's not necessary in the slightest. We're close to the same height and I've never had a problem dating taller women, up to 5'9". And most women are your height or under anyway. Also, if you want a slight bump they do make shoes these days that add a bit of height--think of them as being like push-up bras.
The main thing to remember about height is that the reason women respond to it is because they innately corrolate that to safety and protection. If you can engage a woman's emotions to trigger those same feelings, then you don't have to be tall at all. I know a guy who's 5'4" and gets more women than a natural player friend of mine that's 6' tall.
Well said. I'm glad that there are men speaking out, because considering this kind of surgery to get girls is borderline insanity, IMO.
OP, life sometimes isn't fair and I won't lie and say that shorter men aren't relatively disadvantaged, all else being equal, but that doesn't mean they are doomed to live alone. It simply means, as many have already said, that you need to forget about your height (which BTW at 5'5 is not THAT short) and focus on your other strengths.
I don't know that very many women would say that they *prefer* short guys, but if you meet a guy who's awesome and he knocks your socks off, his height isn't going to be to much of an issue (if it is at all.)
If the OP went through with this ridiculous surgery, I still don't think he'd have success with women because of his attitude. It'd be the same with a woman who got breast implants solely to get more male attention. She might get more male attention, but if her attitude hasn't changed she'll be right back where she started.
Height does matter to many women, but you don't need many, just one.
Consider also, that you may be blaming you lack of success with women on height, when it is really some other issue, such as attitude or personality. What do you do once you've had the surgery, if your success is no better? Find some other irrelevant "problem" to blame? Perhaps this will work for you, but I suggest you should be damned sure that height is the REAL problem.
I went fishing last weekend and among the group there was the 2 of sexiest short guys I have ever seen! I could date one these guys in a heartbeat if I was single. They were around 5'5" I think, thick and toned. Their confidence was above the roof. They brought along 2 of the most attractive women I have even seen.
I think if you have the height dissadvantage, please work on you confidence. This will always be attractive to women, no matter what. Also, thin and short doesn't help much other than make you look like a schoolboy. Get yourself thick and work on toning yourself. Results are amazing.
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Guys near my height tend to be humble but ones who are taller (that I've met) tend to be talkative jerks.
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