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Old 06-28-2010, 09:20 AM
 
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What are the signs?
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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What are the signs?
When he shows no signs of interest in you anymore.
When he starts going out more, without you.
Maybe he is wearing a new cologne?
When he starts hiding things from you, or sneaking around.

Thats just a few off the top of my head.
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:27 AM
 
Location: South FL
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What are the signs?
Most of the time if you have a suspicion that he is seeing someone else, he is seeing someone else.

Does he spend every weekend with you? Is he consistently unattainable (not picking up his phone or answering your texts) in the evenings? Does his mind wander when you are with him?
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:30 AM
 
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Renewed interest in/a change of habits in the following areas:

Brushing his teeth more often.
Coming home and jumping into the shower.
Other grooming (dressing nicer, regular haircuts, mouthwash)
Goes into other room to answer cell phone.
Closes computer or changes screens when you come in.
Suddenly has more appointments when he can't be reached.
Accuses YOU of having an affair.
Has to go away on a business trip - on the weekend.

What signs are you seeing?
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Ohio
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What are the signs?

Usually from/by your gut feelings.

If he seems bored by converstaions/phone calls.

Changes in the way he dresses or different cologne.

Less bedroom fun. Lol
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:35 AM
 
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He avoids taking you to certain bars or restaurants.

He suddenly feels more energized or is in suddenly higher spirits.

He has unexpectedly become touchy about you or anybody else going through his wallet or cell phone.

He has suddenly picked up new interests, in areas which he had absolutely no interest in before.

When you and he have sex, he now tries positions or techniques which he had never used before.

He is unavailable or unreachable at odd times - times which he was normally available before and which most people would not be unavailable at.

He begins to speak in a certain tone or style or diction, with certain vocabulary, which he never used when you first met him and during your relationship with him.
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:52 AM
 
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Wow!

These are all great but I have done quite a few of those things and I am not cheating. Hmmm....

So I cannot take a shower when I get home from work?

I cannot have privacy?

I can't try different positions? Please!
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:57 AM
 
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Wow!

These are all great but I have done quite a few of those things and I am not cheating. Hmmm....

So I cannot take a shower when I get home from work?

I cannot have privacy?

I can't try different positions? Please!
We are speaking of a marked CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR in these areas. Now get back in your corner naughty boy! LOL
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:57 AM
 
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Wow!

These are all great but I have done quite a few of those things and I am not cheating. Hmmm....

So I cannot take a shower when I get home from work?

I cannot have privacy?

I can't try different positions? Please!
I think people are saying that if he does all of these things at once, something is up.

I say just go with your gut. If you think he's cheating, he's cheating.

However, MsBoom, this guy is your ex, is he not? So what he does is none of your business now.
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Old 06-28-2010, 09:58 AM
 
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Wow!

These are all great but I have done quite a few of those things and I am not cheating. Hmmm....

So I cannot take a shower when I get home from work?

I cannot have privacy?

I can't try different positions? Please!
A lot of times men who are cheating on their wives or live-in girlfriends will come home relatively late and be freshly showered. The excuse is usually that they were working late, had some food, and hit the gym. While this is often a very normal pattern for many people in corporate America, it must be looked at suspiciously if the man:

- habitually showered upon coming home
- did not often have late nights at work
- did not go to the gym after working often

As for privacy, certainly we're all entitled to our privacy, even as dating or married people; however, when a person in a relationship suddenly ups his/her boundaries with things such as wallet or cell phone, it can very well mean that there is information there which could be incriminating. Which is why "clever/intelligent" cheaters should technically erase all traces of illicit trysts - which is not to say they won't get caught or that they shouldn't.
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