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Am I wasting my time?
I'm in my 40s (divorced, no kids), dating a fellow who's 40 (never married, no kids) for 18 months now. He's not sure if he wants to be married, still "getting used" to the idea and says he is "warming" to it. I am clear that I do want the stability of a marriage and am tiring of waiting. He just moved from a place 60 minutes away to 90 minutes away, assuring me he's still interested in seeing each other.
I would really appreciate some perspective from an outside source.
Did you especially want British advice - - in which case we are honoured, or did you post on the UK forum by mistake?
Either way - I would give him the Spanish Archer (El Bow) and see what happens. If he is really keen, he will come back. Otherwise don't waste any more of your precious time on someone who is only 'warming up'. You might be missing out on something hot!
I think you should open the relationship up to seeing other people. If you like him you can still date him while he figures out what he wants. If you are still available when he decides well then you can see if you are a match then.
I think you should open the relationship up to seeing other people. If you like him you can still date him while he figures out what he wants. If you are still available when he decides well then you can see if you are a match then.
I agree. After 18 months are you ready to marry this guy? Or just want him to say "I'd like to get married someday" so you feel a bit more secure? Whatever the case, open it up and see other people, but don't completely kick him to the curb because he could be someone special.
I think you should open the relationship up to seeing other people. If you like him you can still date him while he figures out what he wants. If you are still available when he decides well then you can see if you are a match then.
I would have to double agree here... maybe he needs a swift kick in the pants to see you mean business. In either case are you willing to lose him? I mean if you open up the dating thing.. it may wind up to him leaving.. but on thinking about it .. is it really a loss?
Me personally... get rid of him.. he doesnt appear to be really interested although he keeps you hooked with some of his lines...
Am I wasting my time?
I'm in my 40s (divorced, no kids), dating a fellow who's 40 (never married, no kids) for 18 months now. He's not sure if he wants to be married, still "getting used" to the idea and says he is "warming" to it. I am clear that I do want the stability of a marriage and am tiring of waiting. He just moved from a place 60 minutes away to 90 minutes away, assuring me he's still interested in seeing each other.
I would really appreciate some perspective from an outside source.
Thank you,
Lynnie
What about kids? Is it something you want or don't or if it happens, it happens?
How often are you seeing him? Were you seeing him more before the move?
If it was me, I'd also date other men. I don't stand for it, if we both have different ideas on life like that. Why waste your time when you could be out there finding Mr right? If the guy leaves when you tell him you want to date other men then don't let the door hit him in the rear. If this guy hasn't at least asked you to move in with him, honey it isn't happening. Maybe once he doesn't see you as much he'll realize just what he had, if he doesn't, be glad you didn't waste any more time.
I'm...(divorced). I do want the stability of a marriage
you are divorced but want the stability of marriage. please explain
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- in which case we are honoured, or did you post on the UK forum by mistake?
British advice, please
