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Old 07-02-2010, 10:56 PM
 
Location: Denver
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Default Settlers and Reachers

I saw an episode of How I Met Your Mother and in it they were discussing reachers and settlers. I know it's probably really stupid to look for TV shows for insight, but I thought this was interesting. The idea is that, in every relationship, there's a reacher and a settler. The reacher nabs a mate that is out of his/her league and the settler dates down or settles for the reacher. Does this sound true?
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Old 07-02-2010, 11:22 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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No....never believe everything you hear..read and only half of what you see.
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Old 07-03-2010, 12:31 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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I saw an episode of How I Met Your Mother and in it they were discussing reachers and settlers. I know it's probably really stupid to look for TV shows for insight, but I thought this was interesting. The idea is that, in every relationship, there's a reacher and a settler. The reacher nabs a mate that is out of his/her league and the settler dates down or settles for the reacher. Does this sound true?
That doesn't explain those who are a 'perfect' fit.
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Old 07-03-2010, 12:35 AM
 
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Most women today are "reachers" but few are able to get a settler to sign on the dotted line. The competition is that tough.

Of course, they can always wait for him (or someone like him) to come back on the market. By remarrying several times, these men reduce what would otherwise be an epidemic of disappointed women.
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Old 07-03-2010, 05:06 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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I saw an episode of How I Met Your Mother and in it they were discussing reachers and settlers. I know it's probably really stupid to look for TV shows for insight, but I thought this was interesting. The idea is that, in every relationship, there's a reacher and a settler. The reacher nabs a mate that is out of his/her league and the settler dates down or settles for the reacher. Does this sound true?
No, this sounds like, "Marry someone who loves you more than you love him or her." I don't agree with that either,
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Old 07-03-2010, 05:25 PM
 
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IMO leagues exist, but i wouldn't say that everybody is a settler/reacher.

Some relationships must have equal matches.
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Old 07-03-2010, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I settle for the best!
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Old 07-03-2010, 09:22 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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I think few people get to marry their one true love or loves, and therefore "settle" into wedded misery.
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Old 07-03-2010, 09:37 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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At first glance I thought this thread said Settlers and Ranchers. I'm like WTF does this have to do with Relationships.





Course when I read reachers... a few dirty jokes come to mind.....
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Old 07-03-2010, 09:39 PM
 
Location: Pa
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At first glance I thought this thread said Settlers and Ranchers. I'm like WTF does this have to do with Relationships.





Course when I read reachers... a few dirty jokes come to mind.....
I know someone that I would like to reach.
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