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07-06-2010, 04:43 PM
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Location: So Cal
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
Women who engage in that type of activity are not emotionally healthy.
They get a false sense of power thru the challenge of sleeping with some other woman's guy.
It's a short-lived high and pretty soon they're back to being the powerless pathetic creature who has to stalk her next 'victim' to feel good again. It's a sad way to live.
I'm sure if they were honest with themselves, and you, they'd say they feel pretty crappy about themselves in general.
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This rings true with me. And if they are the "other woman," they don't have to worry about exposing themselves to the pain of being the "betrayee" in a relationship either.
I also wonder if deep down they fear they can't hold onto a man without that "forbidden fruit" factor that 2mares mentioned.
Anyway, if you are going to go out of your way to hurt others, you can't be coming from an emotionally good place. (I sound like I should have my own talk-radio show...) |
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07-06-2010, 04:53 PM
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Originally Posted by misswee
My roomate does this constantly. It is embarrassing. She just makes herself look desperate.
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She had a friend with her and the friend looked embarrassed once she realized my friend was the guy's woman. The friend actually came over and was nice, I guess she wanted to let us know subconsciously that she didn't support her friends antics.
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07-06-2010, 05:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Shysister
She had a friend with her and the friend looked embarrassed once she realized my friend was the guy's woman. The friend actually came over and was nice, I guess she wanted to let us know subconsciously that she didn't support her friends antics.
What do you do when your friend is behaving that way?
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Well, I finally told her, I am a single mom, I DON'T want her reputation attatched to me, and I also told her she is going to get her ass seriously kicked if she dosen't smarten up, I also told her how guys talk about her behind her back, and that if she ever wants love she needs to slow herself down and meet people who want to get to know HER first etc...
She IS actaully improving, but she still gets mad when anyone talks to me. As long as she talks to ten guys all night and I talk to none she is happy, but as soon as I get to laugh and have a half decent conversation, she goes all "dark"..  |
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07-06-2010, 05:26 PM
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Originally Posted by misswee
Well, I finally told her, I am a single mom, I DON'T want her reputation attatched to me, and I also told her she is going to get her ass seriously kicked if she dosen't smarten up, I also told her how guys talk about her behind her back, and that if she ever wants love she needs to slow herself down and meet people who want to get to know HER first etc...
She IS actaully improving, but she still gets mad when anyone talks to me. As long as she talks to ten guys all night and I talk to none she is happy, but as soon as I get to laugh and have a half decent conversation, she goes all "dark".. |
She really doesn't sound like a 'friend' but someone who uses you so she won't be alone in her pursuits. |
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07-06-2010, 05:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Shysister
My friend's guy had a party for the holiday and everyone was having a good time and I noticed this one woman who made it appoint to be everywhere my friend's guy was and going out of her way to converse with him etc. Things appeared pretty dry on his end but he was being cordial toward her. I asked my friend did she know the woman and she said she wants to be his 'Wh***' and she knows her guy through another guy she was a 'Wh*** with.
I asked her how she felt knowing this woman is after her man and she said she doesn't care because if she ever get proof there's more than conversation going on between them then that will be a different issue but right now she's not concerned nor has he given her a reason to be.
So to women who go after men who are already involved what do you get out of it? Does it make you feel better about yourself to get attention from someone else's man? If so don't you feel bad when you see his woman on his arm and seeing the affection he has for her? I would like to know your honest thoughts on this?
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Women want the team captain...regardless of their "don't want to look like a whXXX" reflex.
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07-06-2010, 05:52 PM
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Location: southern california
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alota women are willing to date married men.
there does not seem to be a moral taboo about it in 2010.
guesses run 50% wana, 25% do
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07-06-2010, 05:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Shysister
She really doesn't sound like a 'friend' but someone who uses you so she won't be alone in her pursuits.
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yeah, she has had to find other people to be her "wing man". I only go out with her now if we are in a large group.... even then, I avoid talking to her much because I don't want to be associated with her much.  |
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07-06-2010, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Shysister
My friend's guy had a party for the holiday and everyone was having a good time and I noticed this one woman who made it appoint to be everywhere my friend's guy was and going out of her way to converse with him etc. Things appeared pretty dry on his end but he was being cordial toward her. I asked my friend did she know the woman and she said she wants to be his 'Wh***' and she knows her guy through another guy she was a 'Wh*** with.
I asked her how she felt knowing this woman is after her man and she said she doesn't care because if she ever get proof there's more than conversation going on between them then that will be a different issue but right now she's not concerned nor has he given her a reason to be.
So to women who go after men who are already involved what do you get out of it? Does it make you feel better about yourself to get attention from someone else's man? If so don't you feel bad when you see his woman on his arm and seeing the affection he has for her? I would like to know your honest thoughts on this?
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Eww. I know I want a man with no other woman but me. Those other women must have serious personal problems if they can't respect that a man already has a woman.
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07-06-2010, 06:49 PM
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Originally Posted by temptation001
Eww. I know I want a man with no other woman but me. Those other women must have serious personal problems if they can't respect that a man already has a woman.
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They usually do have some kind of emotional thing going on. I've seen these women over the years--they can have ten single guys interested in them but they want to take a man who is with someone else.
I had a friend like this. All her relationships started out with someone who was either married or lived with another woman. This was a psychological no-brainer. Her father left her and her mother when she was little--turned out he had another woman and child on the side. Every single time in these relationships, she would "win" him, he'd leave his wife or girlfriend, they'd move in together and become engaged, and then the man would suddenly find someone else, dump her and marry the new girl. She was constantly repeating the same scenario over and over again when she lost Daddy to somebody else.
She eventually married an unattached man, going into the marriage with her head rather than her heart, but divorced him when she fell in love with another married man. She's now been dating the married man for seven years. His wife knows she exists but they will never get a divorce because of property and adult-children-with-problems issues.
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07-06-2010, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Mightyqueen801
They usually do have some kind of emotional thing going on. I've seen these women over the years--they can have ten single guys interested in them but they want to take a man who is with someone else.
I had a friend like this. All her relationships started out with someone who was either married or lived with another woman. This was a psychological no-brainer. Her father left her and her mother when she was little--turned out he had another woman and child on the side. Every single time in these relationships, she would "win" him, he'd leave his wife or girlfriend, they'd move in together and become engaged, and then the man would suddenly find someone else, dump her and marry the new girl. She was constantly repeating the same scenario over and over again when she lost Daddy to somebody else.
She eventually married an unattached man, going into the marriage with her head rather than her heart, but divorced him when she fell in love with another married man. She's now been dating the married man for seven years. His wife knows she exists but they will never get a divorce because of property and adult-children-with-problems issues.
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Oh, how sad for her. She got it right once, then back-peddled. It's good that she understands that this one is NOT going to leave his wife for her. 
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