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Old 07-13-2010, 10:57 AM
 
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Wait, maybe not enough coffee...

Weren't you just posting yesterday that you were smitten and seeing a guy? Is this a new guy?

Well either way. No I don't expect a guy to give me a breathalyzer and tell me what I should and should not be doing (unless it was driving).

Don't "let" me drink too much? How should he know what is too much? And what should he do? Take your drink out of your hand?

If you did something YOU regret, don't blame him. Blame yourself.
Same guy....... I just am mad at myself, because I hope he still respects me now....

Now the mystery is gone, and I feel vulnerable???

I don't like feeling vulnerable....
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Old 07-13-2010, 10:58 AM
 
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Why can you never spell maybe correct? This is seriously amazing, at this point.

Just get over it...

suck it up buttercup....
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Old 07-13-2010, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Visitation between Wal-Mart & Home Depot
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Just get over it...

suck it up buttercup....
Exactly. Seems you've got it figured out.
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Im not real sure what perterbed means, but Im going against the flow here. If this is a guy you have been dating and are serious about then yes I think it was wrong and I think he took advantage. Very juvinile thing to do. He should have had more respect for you. Knowing you are a light weight, I dont see much difference in your situation than some jerk that slips his date a micky. I would have a difficult time fully trusting this guy again.

All that being said, you must look out for yourself. Dont put yourself in that type of situation.
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:01 AM
 
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Was this a test for him? Here's what you have told us: You are a woman of slight stature, you are in the midst of a cleanse, you don't drink often and you basically announced your intention to get drunk on that night. A girl who meets those specifications, goes out on a date and proceeds to get drunk and repeatedly announces her inebriation wants either (i) to have sex with her date or (ii) to see if he passes some impossibly subtle test of character with undetectable nuances. So, do you find this guy very attractive or are you looking for a reason to get rid of him?

A little of both mabey??

I find him attractive, so mabey I want to get rid of him before I get hurt???

Yeah, runnaway bride syndrome, big time here...

Someone please kick my *****???
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:04 AM
 
Location: Visitation between Wal-Mart & Home Depot
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Im not real sure what perterbed means, but Im going against the flow here. If this is a guy you have been dating and are serious about then yes I think it was wrong and I think he took advantage. Very juvinile thing to do. He should have had more respect for you. Knowing you are a light weight, I dont see much difference in your situation than some jerk that slips his date a micky. I would have a difficult time fully trusting this guy again.

All that being said, you must look out for yourself. Dont put yourself in that type of situation.
I don't know... I have a difficult time with the analogy about mickies, which I assume is street for benzodiazepines.
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:05 AM
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Same guy....... I just am mad at myself, because I hope he still respects me now....

Now the mystery is gone, and I feel vulnerable???

I don't like feeling vulnerable....
the more you post the more insane i think you are
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:09 AM
 
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Im not real sure what perterbed means, but Im going against the flow here. If this is a guy you have been dating and are serious about then yes I think it was wrong and I think he took advantage. Very juvinile thing to do. He should have had more respect for you. Knowing you are a light weight, I dont see much difference in your situation than some jerk that slips his date a micky. I would have a difficult time fully trusting this guy again.

All that being said, you must look out for yourself. Dont put yourself in that type of situation.

Yeah, I think you hit the nail with the hammer there.... I think I was testing him.... I think I feel sad, because, well NONE of my guy friends have or would do that to me.....

I have managed to go 7 years with no nookie, except for very recently, and have been drunk with many a friend who haven't taken advantage.....

guess I was testing him at the same time, and also self sabotoging because I am obviously not ready for this adult stuff yet..

I just want a fun, nerdy, best friend, who eventually it happens one day when we are both ready..

Just the fact that I was DRINKING at all was an obvious cry for help from my subconcious I guess, because I am pretty much against drinking in general, unless it is a wedding or christmas etc...

yeah, I am in self sabotage mode...

dang....
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:12 AM
 
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the more you post the more insane i think you are

Why, because I am completely honest and don't put up some front???
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Old 07-13-2010, 11:13 AM
 
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BUT! If I was drunk, and said repeatedly " I AM DRUNK" the whole night, and then the first time we do the deed is the night I say "I AM DRUNK".... do you think the guy is a bit of a disrespectful ahole taking advantage???

I know I am not innocent, because I let myself get drunk, but I also told him, before hand... "hey I am little, I am on a cleanse and don't really drink. so don't let me drink too much".......
No, that is the biggest double standard, ever, and many times leads to jail time for the guy.

If a female is going to drink, she is just as liable for her bad decisions, just as is the guy. She can't just wake up in the morning thinking she was victimized.
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