Frugal marriage/Pre-Marital agreement. (girlfriend, girl, child, friend)

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

Well, may you find a woman who feels the same.

I would get a pre-nup - I have assets like property and investments, and any man I might marry would have the same.

But your view is so.. so... ewwww.

Eloquence eludes me.

So what about you wanting to marry someone who has the same as you? Double standard?

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by Texas User

So what about you wanting to marry someone who has the same as you? Double standard?

That would be a double standard how?

[Mikala43]

Oh. I think.

I would expect him to have a prenup too. When you have homes, 401ks, pensions, savings, it's the wise thing to do.

Though when my husband and I married we essentially nothing, some 401k, I owned some land, that was about it.

So we had no prenup. What was he going to do? Take my strappy sandles? Would I run off with his computer network (nerd!!!)?

We merged all of our money (we always seemed to make essentially the same amount), spent it, saved it, bought a house with it, took vacations.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

That would be a double standard how?

You have your pre-requirements like I do.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

Oh. I think.

I would expect him to have a prenup too. When you have homes, 401ks, pensions, savings, it's the wise thing to do.

Though when my husband and I married we essentially nothing, some 401k, I owned some land, that was about it.

So we had no prenup. What was he going to do? Take my strappy sandles? Would I run off with his computer network (nerd!!!)?

We merged all of our money (we always seemed to make essentially the same amount), spent it, saved it, bought a house with it, took vacations.

Thats different. My situation is not the same as when you got married.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by Texas User

You have your pre-requirements like I do.

We may have some similarities in our pre-requirements. But our attitudes are VASTLY different.

Perhaps, if you do find someone to marry, you may want to let go of the purse strings a little and actually consult an attorney.

[boodhabunny]

Texas User -- Do you really think you'd like to be married some day? Why? With all due respect, you don't sound like marriage material to me.

A marriage usually implies a desire to build a shared life together with another person in a mutually rewarding partnership. I don't understand why anyone who is so determined to live their life separate/divided from their spouse would want to be married in the first place.

I agree with Huckleberry's advice that you should stay away from marriage, common law marriage, and domestic partnerships altogether.

[Joliefille]

Originally Posted by Texas User

What is the cheapest way to get married? How much will it cost in Texas?

How can I protect my Assets just incase a divorce happens? What needs to happen in the pre-marital agreement?

At the risk of sounding like a flaming romantic...to start a marriage with the idea of divorce and protecting your ass*ets, seems more like a recipe for disaster than for lasting love.

If you, for one minute, think she is marrying you for your $$..run!

If you aren't interested in what's best for her future (say, should you get hit by a bus) she should run!

Do you trust each other? with your lives? Each of you will be responsible for determining when to pull the plug. Do you trust her? She, you?

If y 'all make it 20 or 30 yrs (which I doubt from your posts, but regardless) how much you spent on the wedding or officials won't even be on your radar.

If you have doubts or are so worried about your big $$...live together. That way, when you walk out on each other, you won't be clogging up the courts with your BS.

[boodhabunny]

Simply living together won't protect you in the courts either. Even in states where common law isn't recognized your partner may sue you in court for what she/he feels they are entitled to.

Also, sorry, but if you really want to protect yourself, then I'm afraid sex is off the table too because you never know when birth control might fail, even if taking the best precautions. And even if you have a vasectomy (which I strongly urge you to do) herpes is a real and serious concern, not to mention more frightening STDs.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Which state is the most divorce friendly for men?

This information now will not do you any good, because laws change. You should seek that information when you are closer to being married.