In Denial Of What You Really Are (dating, how to, women)

[DennyCrane]

It's always funny to scan through online dating profiles. Quite often, you'll find overweight women describing themselves as average and overweight men calling themselves athletic. Offline, a 45 year old man will convince himself he still looks like he's in his 30s and therefore shouldn't date a woman his age. An overweight girl will walk around the mall in an outfit that's two sizes too small, letting her muffin top spill out. She either doesn't realize it or figures no one will notice. I know confidence is considered attractive, but so is humility. Just curious to hear people's dating stories about people who were in obvious denial of what they really are.

[swanstone1]

Well. I've never been so good at describing myself or others........maybe others are the same? I have always listed myself as average looking with average build. I kinda chat the person up on the flip side to eveluate the girth of his brain/understanding then we can go to the physical. Never met a pic that was off, but then again, you have to have a brain to back that up.

[Iamthere]

I never deny who I am

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by swanstone1

Well. I've never been so good at describing myself or others........maybe others are the same? I have always listed myself as average looking with average build. I kinda chat the person up on the flip side to eveluate the girth of his brain/understanding then we can go to the physical. Never met a pic that was off, but then again, you have to have a brain to back that up.

It isn't just the physical aspect. People could be in denial of their intelligence or sense of humor. A lot of guys think they're funnier than they really are. They end up being the only person laughing at their jokes. Likewise, a lot of people will act like they're really knowledgeable about a certain subject. But when you listen to them, you can tell that they don't have a clue what they're talking about.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

People could be in denial of their intelligence or sense of humor. A lot of guys think they're funnier than they really are.

I've noticed this quite a bit on forums. I mean, it's OK if you don't have it; it only becomes funny when you claim to have it and don't...

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Just curious to hear people's dating stories about people who were in obvious denial of what they really are.

My friends and I were approached by a couple of men this past week. One of them was in total denial about what he really was so I felt it my duty to remind him......he was an a** and will always be an a**! I swear it was like watching a bad remake of the movie "Old School".

Needless to say, he equated such a response to his d*** and from there I encouraged him to share such "small" details with the Mrs. I honestly don't know why some men tend to refer to their groin area as a way of proving their masculinity. I mean, gay men have d**** too....so what does that prove?? But I digress.

Sometimes people have to be reminded of what they really are......enlightenment is a a wonderous thing and sometimes you just have to pass it on!!

[onihC]

People might think that a picture assures you a bit more about how the other person looks like but, then again, you never know if that is a picture she took on her sweet 16 when she was 110lbs with no wrinkles on her face or a picture a guy took while he was in the football team but now that six pack has becomed a keg.

I find it funny how women in countries like the USA can lie about their weight. I have seen a license or two from friends who live in the USA and when I see where it says "weight" they put things like 105 pounds...110 pounds..." and I wonder if they are talking about the weight in each leg or something but don't they make you weight yourself when getting a license or do they just take your word? :P .

[swanstone1]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

It isn't just the physical aspect. People could be in denial of their intelligence or sense of humor. A lot of guys think they're funnier than they really are. They end up being the only person laughing at their jokes. Likewise, a lot of people will act like they're really knowledgeable about a certain subject. But when you listen to them, you can tell that they don't have a clue what they're talking about.

And that is precisely why you chat a bit first....not one liners, but conversations online!!!! Then you get a feel.... I don't even want to talk to someone on the phone first before agreeing to meet them if all has felt right with chatting. Ok, I'm fussy.....you must know how to write a full sentence and I honestly admit I'm put off by persons who can't spell (not typos...) Who can REALLY sum up who they are in a paragraph???? It's your opinion and we are all biased when it comes to ourselves. Do it in writing FIRST and make it part of the chase.........

.People are so quick to get to the end situation, that the "discovery" is being left out. Even better........log off the computer and re learn life where you meet people and chat them up every darn day.................And yes, that is people like me who might show up to give you a painting bid dressed like a homeless person but show up to paint the next 2 weeks in a bikini on a 40 foot ladder. ;-) Life is all how you look at it and I say get your hands "on" versus your fingertips on a keyboard. Good luck to you sweetness

[MattB4]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I've noticed this quite a bit on forums. I mean, it's OK if you don't have it; it only becomes funny when you claim to have it and don't...

Hmm... honest portrayal of a product to get sales.

Try our brand of Pop. It is no better than any other brand and costs next to nothing to make though we want a 300% return on it. It will not make you happier or more desirable if you use it. It might even make you less due to the HFCS. Rush out and get it now!

Thats marketing for you. Lucky for me I make no claims as my standing as a Sexual God or Master of Comedy. I allow that to be done with whisper campaigns and well placed rumor and innuendo. In fact, I find the constant denial of having any worth to be much more productive. As to pictures... that is against my religion since they capture the Soul dooming you to endless wandering the world upon Death without hope of Valhalla.

[GeorgeLucasLongLostChin]

Denial looks more like insecurities to me than confidence. Condifence is being able to live with how you are (or do something) and not BS yourself about it.