So we're gonna go on a date... (dating, men, friend)

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

You enjoy being a sarcastic female canine, don't you?)

That's quite the interesting wording of bit*ch... Clever! Made my day!

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Because perhaps online nicks are, eh, irrelevant?

Are they?

So are you saying you chose your handle at random? Do you live in a modest home, or is it indeed sprawling?

[Coolhand68]

Knowing what the wear is just part of it. Most women prefer a guy who is decisive. The last thing they want is to go back and forth asking "So what do you want to do?" -- "Oh, I don't know, what do you want to do?" Most women don't like wishy-washy men. If you're going to ask a girl out, have a plan. It's ok to ask what she likes to do, but at some point you should make a decision and enjoy your time together wherever you are, regardless of venue.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

Are they?

So are you saying you chose your handle at random? Do you live in a modest home, or is it indeed sprawling?

Why? What does it matter to you? Does it bother you if I do?

If I say I live in a penthouse on Park Avenue or on a 3000 square foot condo near East 59th and Lex, does it qualify as "sprawling" enough for you?

What if I own a small 2-bedroom house somewhere in working-class Queens or Brooklyn, without a garage, but with a small and clean backyard which to somebody who's been stuck in years of NYC apartment living is "sprawling?" Is that unworthy of being qualified as "sprawling?"

Who are you to judge?

I don't know you OngletNYC and I have nothing against you per se but based on what I've seen of you on these forums you sometimes come across as having a huge chip on your shoulder. I could be wrong, and hopefully, I am wrong. Who knows, in real life, you and I might make awesome friends, or get along great over a few cold ones in any NYC pub for happy hour.

But it's Monday morning and you're asking me if my home is "sprawling?"

Who cares? This is online! I could be the second coming of Hugh Hefner as far as you're concerned.

Have a lovely day - it's raining already.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

Knowing what the wear is just part of it. Most women prefer a guy who is decisive. The last thing they want is to go back and forth asking "So what do you want to do?" -- "Oh, I don't know, what do you want to do?" Most women don't like wishy-washy men. If you're going to ask a girl out, have a plan. It's ok to ask what she likes to do, but at some point you should make a decision and enjoy your time together wherever you are, regardless of venue.

Fully agreed. That's why I'm one who likes to have "structured" dates with reservations, etc., and I also have "fallback venues" nearby if something ever goes wrong. Some may call this approach too rigid or even anal, but a little research and planning never hurts.

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Why? What does it matter to you? Does it bother you if I do?

If I say I live in a penthouse on Park Avenue or on a 3000 square foot condo near East 59th and Lex, does it qualify as "sprawling" enough for you?

What if I own a small 2-bedroom house somewhere in working-class Queens or Brooklyn, without a garage, but with a small and clean backyard which to somebody who's been stuck in years of NYC apartment living is "sprawling?" Is that unworthy of being qualified as "sprawling?"

Who are you to judge?

I don't know you OngletNYC and I have nothing against you per se but based on what I've seen of you on these forums you sometimes come across as having a huge chip on your shoulder. I could be wrong, and hopefully, I am wrong. Who knows, in real life, you and I might make awesome friends, or get along great over a few cold ones in any NYC pub for happy hour.

But it's Monday morning and you're asking me if my home is "sprawling?"

Who cares? This is online! I could be the second coming of Hugh Hefner as far as you're concerned.

Have a lovely day - it's raining already.

I'm just curious. People have asked me about my handle, and I didn't flip out about it. Inquiring about a handle is quite normal.

Why so sensitive? Why are you so upset over this? Did I strike a nerve?

ETA: It's like this. If I kept complaining that men were writing me pornographic messages, wouldn't you find my complaints questionable if I had a handle called DirtyChatGrrl?

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

I'm just curious. People have asked me about my handle, and I didn't flip out about it. Inquiring about a handle is quite normal.

Why so sensitive? Why are you so upset over this? Did I strike a nerve?

Neither sensitive nor upset, and no nerves were struck.

It's just odd that you seem so fixated on why I picked my nick.

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Neither sensitive nor upset, and no nerves were struck.

It's just odd that you seem so fixated on why I picked my nick.

I edited for clarification prior to your quoting me:

ETA: It's like this. If I kept complaining that men were writing me pornographic messages, wouldn't you find my complaints questionable if I had a handle called DirtyChatGrrl?

That's why I wonder would a guy who finds that gold diggers are out to get him would choose a grandiose name such as Sprawling Homeowner.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

I edited for clarification prior to your quoting me:

ETA: It's like this. If I kept complaining that men were writing me pornographic messages, wouldn't you find my complaints questionable if I had a handle called DirtyChatGrrl?

That's why I wonder would a guy who finds that gold diggers are out to get him would choose a grandiose name such as Sprawling Homeowner.

So you're saying that a "sprawling homeowner" should be OK w/ gold diggers because he can afford them?

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

So you're saying that a "sprawling homeowner" should be OK w/ gold diggers because he can afford them?

Sorry but no, you cannot answer the question with another question. My point is valid and it was a fair question I posed to you. What I am "saying" is what I already said. Here it is again:

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

If you are so worried about gold diggers being out to get you, why choose a handle like "Sprawling Homeowner" over a handle a little less boastful?

If you refuse to answer it, so be it, but one can't help but read into that.