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How would you describe sexual tension? How do you know when if it's mutual or just one sided?
I'm having a terrible time at work. I am very very attracted to my supervisor. We have these moments where it's just unbearable. I just want to jump him. I'm fairly certain it's mutual. I catch him looking at me all the time and sometimes when our eyes meet... wow. It's so tense. I try to avoid him and he does the same, but we just keep being pulled together. It's like there's a magnet working between us.
We didn't used to have this problem. He was always very flirty, but I didn't think anything of it. Then, one day we shared this weird moment where we made eye contact and neither of us looked away and every since then, it just keeps happening more often and is more tense.
What can I do to diffuse this? On top of being my supervisor, he's married. It's just a hot mess. The more I try to avoid interacting with him, the more tense it gets.
That's bad business all the way around. I hope you handle the right way. I hope your right about him feeling the same way. If you are 1005 sure, you need to talk with him about it and nip that foolishness in the bud....fast!
Uhhhh...tell him that he is...married?? And that you don`t want to be a mistress, and be the cause of any family/marriage problems, especially if there are kids involved. That should "cool it down!"
Honestly, you need to get it over with, but not the way swmrbird suggests! You need to take a deep breath and put this behind you. All this is going to accomplish is give you a lot of guilt, or make your work time very, very uncomfortable, or even worse, break up a marriage. Time to be an adult and forget this.
Unless you are my secretary, in which case, just pull him into the restroom and get it over with.
Uhhhh...tell him that he is...married?? And that you don`t want to be a mistress, and be the cause of any family/marriage problems, especially if there are kids involved. That should "cool it down!"
Good answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wouldn't talking about it just make it worse because then we admit to what we are feeling? This way, we only speculate that the other is feeling the same. We talk and he teases me sometimes, but we never talk about that. I am usually the one to break eye contact during those moments.
I am not going to "pull him into the restroom and get it over with". He's married. Sheeesh. But, I can't help how attracted I am to him. Oh my god. I can feel when he is close. I'm aware of my every move when he is near. I feel so awkward. I hate this.
...yea I was kidding...obviously acting on it should not be an option.
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I should get married
And that you don`t want to be a mistress, and be the cause of any family/marriage problems, especially if there are kids involved. That should "cool it down!" 
