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As I said, i am not trolling. I frankly couldn't care less if you're hostile, it makes more than some rude comment on an internet forum to phase me lol. You wanted advice, so why complain when you receive it?
He didn't want advice. He wanted an answer to his question.
He has received answers to his question. How exactly then were we supposed to answer it? Moreover, numerous people in this thread have told him that they cannot provide a more detailed answer since it's not an either-or scenario.
I think the question why women go for bad boys is something that "normal" persons ponder over too, it has no easy answer.
Honestly, there is as much error in thinking "all women love bad boys" as there is in "People with Asperger's see the world in black and white."
Honestly...some women go for "bad boys" (whatever that is...a guy who beats women? Gordon Gekko from Wall Street? Denis Leary? A guy who is confrontational? Dick Cheney? A guy who can't/won't keep a job? A guy who is a dirty cop, or a dive bar bouncer? A guy who runs dog fighting rings? A guy who looks like Fonzie? A guy who looks like 50 Cent?). Some women go for SOME bad boys, but aren't interested in others. Some women are turned off by bad boys. Whatever.
I mentioned before that I'm fully functional. I know how to drive a car, and I've been trained how to read people. Many people I've met on the autism spectrum don't have that ability. I also know how to keep a job and support myself. I even served in the military during the Iraq War, 9/11, and during Hurricane Katrina. Some of you might have overlooked the part when I said I've been in a relationship with a woman before. I know not everyone is perfect, and because I have my own shortcomings, I'm willing to accept that of others. The woman I dated six years ago had lupus, and I was understanding of her disposition.
I even dated an older woman before. When I was 23, I dated a 47 y/o attorney. Some of you might think that's strange, but I don't. I figure if it's okay for older men going through midlife crisis to go out and find themselves trophy wives, then I'm entitled to dating a cougar. My only expectations are that she practice good hygiene, and that all her teeth be intact. Smokers are one of my biggest pet peeves, too. I'm not too hung up on looks as long as she's not anorexic thin or morbidly obese. Flexibility is a major turn-on, but not required. Mostly, I'm looking for a woman with a good heart, and open mind, and no kids.
That's the biggest challenge I find as I get older. I know they're cute and cuddly, but kids aren't for me. Before anyone starts passing judgment on me, just know that I never got to pick or choose my disposition. Those women all chose to become pregnant. I know how babies are conceived, and they're not by accident. I'm cool with dating an older woman past her reproductive years if her kids are grown. I might even make an exception if the lady has one kid, but if she has two or more, forget it. If they're older children, that helps, too. I'm just not keen on raising someone else's children or dealing with the baby daddy drama with the father looming in the background. Also, it's pretty much guaranteed I'll never be number one in the relationship. So maybe I'm not having any luck because some women think I'm setting my standards too high.
I mentioned before that I'm fully functional. I know how to drive a car, and I've been trained how to read people. Many people I've met on the autism spectrum don't have that ability. I also know how to keep a job and support myself. I even served in the military during the Iraq War, 9/11, and during Hurricane Katrina. Some of you might have overlooked the part when I said I've been in a relationship with a woman before. I know not everyone is perfect, and because I have my own shortcomings, I'm willing to accept that of others. The woman I dated six years ago had lupus, and I was understanding of her disposition.
I even dated an older woman before. When I was 23, I dated a 47 y/o attorney. Some of you might think that's strange, but I don't. I figure if it's okay for older men going through midlife crisis to go out and find themselves trophy wives, then I'm entitled to dating a cougar. My only expectations are that she practice good hygiene, and that all her teeth be intact. Smokers are one of my biggest pet peeves, too. I'm not too hung up on looks as long as she's not anorexic thin or morbidly obese. Flexibility is a major turn-on, but not required. Mostly, I'm looking for a woman with a good heart, and open mind, and no kids.
That's the biggest challenge I find as I get older. I know they're cute and cuddly, but kids aren't for me. Before anyone starts passing judgment on me, just know that I never got to pick or choose my disposition. Those women all chose to become pregnant. I know how babies are conceived, and they're not by accident. I'm cool with dating an older woman past her reproductive years if her kids are grown. I might even make an exception if the lady has one kid, but if she has two or more, forget it. If they're older children, that helps, too. I'm just not keen on raising someone else's children or dealing with the baby daddy drama with the father looming in the background. Also, it's pretty much guaranteed I'll never be number one in the relationship. So maybe I'm not having any luck because some women think I'm setting my standards too high.
Start a new thread.
The majority of this forum, IMO, have not even opened this thread or joined the conversation, because you have emphasized your Asperger's. Since you have admittedly learned to compensate and/or are functioning well above the norm for an Aspie, you will get more responses if you repost the question and eliminate the part about your Asperger's.
Yes, it is the clinical definition until they drop the whole diagnosis next year, when it will just be bunched with autism spectrum disorders. So don't get too attached to the diagnosis!
As for the original question - you have received plenty of responses and good advice regarding your question, and you have been corrected in your wrongful assumption that all women want the bad boys. In fact, most women I know would love to demolish the bad boys. Frankly, this is too much drama. I agree with everyone else that Asperger's doesn't play a part in this equation whatsoever. I don't know what kind of answers or validations you would like to hear.
I believe if I were a woman I wouldnt be givin any nookie to some guy that had that assbugers or whatever its called stuff. I would be afraid he wouldnt really appreciate it....sorry
I believe if I were a woman I wouldnt be givin any nookie to some guy that had that assbugers or whatever its called stuff. I would be afraid he wouldnt really appreciate it....sorry
Why don't you read up on it before spouting off ignorant comments?
The "stuff" is called "Asperger's", NOT assbugers (what, you can't copy and paste??). And I am very glad you have removed yourself from my son's dating pool. THANK YOU.
Why don't you read up on it before spouting off ignorant comments?
The "stuff" is called "Asperger's", NOT assbugers (what, you can't copy and paste??). And I am very glad you have removed yourself from my son's dating pool. THANK YOU.
I'm guessing that assbuger is a typo of assburger, which is the tongue-and-cheek spelling of Asperger on Encyclopedia Dramatica.
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