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Old 07-24-2010, 07:54 AM
 
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I would never do that. There would be no reason to be with somebody if you felt like that.
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Old 07-24-2010, 08:48 AM
 
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I am not saying that it is right, I'm just admitting that I've done it and found some unsettling things...but of course when confronting someone about it after the fact, you have to admit your methods of knowing which is obviously spying...this happened after directly asking and not being convinced of the answer...
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Old 07-24-2010, 08:58 AM
 
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are you a spy?

If I tell you, I'll have to kill you.
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Old 07-24-2010, 09:04 AM
 
Location: Maryland not Murlin
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I dated a girl in the late 90s who practically gave me the password to her email account. I have know idea why, but yeah, I periodically read her email. I stopped because it was so boring.

A few years later I dated a girl who was a writer. She kept a few notebooks that contained various diary/journal types of writing. I was at her place one day when an unexpected 'emergency' can up and she had to bail for a few hours. I kind of suspected that she may have been fooling around, but I had no tangible proof. When she left, she said that I could stay there, and while she was gone my curiosity got the best of me and I peaked in a few of her notebooks. I didn't find anything to confirm my suspicion, but what I did find prompted even more suspicion, and made me feel kind of pukey.

Looking back, I wish I had never done that and since then I put any thought of snooping out of my mind. Some things are better left unknown, and some trivial items can be blown out of proportion if you are not aware of the whole situation (I have kept a journal before and often wrote things that only reflected my particular mood at that particular moment and not me or the situation as a whole).

Don't dig for information unless you are 100% sure you can handle what you find, and even worse, you might find what you are looking for.
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Old 07-24-2010, 09:07 AM
 
Location: Maryland not Murlin
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I am not saying that it is right, I'm just admitting that I've done it and found some unsettling things...but of course when confronting someone about it after the fact, you have to admit your methods of knowing which is obviously spying...this happened after directly asking and not being convinced of the answer...
Yup, exactly.
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Old 07-24-2010, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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We have each other's passwords and account info, usually leave our email open and logged in, and have one cell phone we share. Not much room for secrets! And not much need.

I suppose if you have reasonable cause for suspicion, checking on your SO is justifiable. If it's habitual, then it's not acceptable, IMO, unless you've agreed to it.
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Old 07-24-2010, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Incognito
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I got busted on my last mission and almost got executed for treason.
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Old 07-24-2010, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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Unlike some people here, I'd never spy on my s/o by reading e-mail messages, updates and the like. If I wanted to know something, I'd ask her and expect the same in return.
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Old 07-24-2010, 12:05 PM
 
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I'm just curious as to how many admit to looking at significant other's email, facebook messages, etc. without them knowing? I've definitely been guilty...is it wrong?! If so, under what circumstances, if any, would it be right?
Honestly, if you are going to do this...everything you find cannot be used in any way in the future. Period.

If you have a search warrant for firearms and you go to the house to find loads of pot....well, you cannot bust them for the pot.

In this case you have no search warrant to begin with.

Everything you find is something you have to be able to accept and live with. Nothing can be used against them.

Some women will find something and blast their bf for something but everything boils back to the fact that you were snooping. Breach of trust. He will hate you forever.
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Old 07-24-2010, 12:08 PM
 
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I would never do that. There would be no reason to be with somebody if you felt like that.
Thanks.

I will print this and pack my bags.

"Honey...it's been nice knowing you."

Bye.
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