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How normal is it for an adult male (30) to chat on the phone with his parents every single day? My husband's parents live a couple of miles away from us, and he is constantly on the phone with them, at least once a day but anywhere from 1-4 times on a given day. Is this normal and/or healthy? All the other men I've ever dated never did this at all. I've known adult women who are close to their parents who talk to their mothers frequently, but my husband not only has to see his parents and spend time with them at least 1-2 times a week, but they call him every day to chat about mundane stuff going on in each others' lives. It's creeping me out a bit because I'm not used to seeing it. I don't comment on it because for all I know it might be perfectly normal and acceptable. Any thoughts?
Sounds to me as though they are just close and truly enjoy one another's conversation. Who typically initiates the phone calls? Do they alienate you in any way, make you feel like an outsider?
Well, my husband visits his parents 1-2 times a day and calls them 3 times a day. Granted, they are elderly and don't get much socialization so he's mainly just making sure they are okay, his phone calls are short. So it depends on the situation - how long are the phone calls? Does he drop everything to take a call from them? Does it interfere with your relationship or lives? Is there anything else that might indicate he puts them before you?
Other than it seeming unusual to you, is it contributing to anything negative in your marriage? How long have you been married?
I suppose nothing serious. I get along with the in-laws. I just find the daily pattern of intrusion annoying sometimes, like we'll be doing our own thing (watching a movie, cooking, etc.) and then they call and we have to put whatever we were doing on hold. Imagine that happening multiple times a day. Also, my husband, being close to them and filling them in on our lives, naturally runs our decisions by them to get their approval. I guess I never pictured adulthood or marriage like this, still seeking parents approval at our age.
We've been married for 7 months.
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Who typically initiates the phone calls? Do they alienate you in any way, make you feel like an outsider?
They do, and no, not really.
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how long are the phone calls? Does he drop everything to take a call from them? Does it interfere with your relationship or lives? Is there anything else that might indicate he puts them before you?
They can be anywhere from 5-20 minutes. Usually. Perhaps not intentionally but I see it as occasionally interfering. Not really, he's just really close to them. And yeah, as others have wrote here, I guess there's nothing wrong with that in itself and I should be glad I married into a close family. I was just wanting feedback on how usual this was because I've never seen it before, at least with a guy.
Last edited by bobannah84; 07-25-2010 at 11:32 AM..
How normal is it for an adult male (30) to chat on the phone with his parents every single day? My husband's parents live a couple of miles away from us, and he is constantly on the phone with them, at least once a day but anywhere from 1-4 times on a given day. Is this normal and/or healthy? All the other men I've ever dated never did this at all. I've known adult women who are close to their parents who talk to their mothers frequently, but my husband not only has to see his parents and spend time with them at least 1-2 times a week, but they call him every day to chat about mundane stuff going on in each others' lives. It's creeping me out a bit because I'm not used to seeing it. I don't comment on it because for all I know it might be perfectly normal and acceptable. Any thoughts?
I'm impressed by any man who is close to his family.
My b/f sees and talks to his family everyday and sometimes it does wear on my nerves but I don't complain to much.Lol
If he wasn't being good to his family I'd be upset and wonder why.
My husband talks to his parents every day. He didn't when he was younger but now that they are elderly, he likes to check in with them daily.
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