would you stay married if he cheated on you ? (man, cheat, husbands)

[Kele]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I had to live it, now I've learned it.

Never, ever, ever again.

[Glitterific]

I agree with Jtur88 to a certain extent. I have wondered if not giving people a second chance got in the way of better marriages/relationships resulting in overcoming adversity and moving forward.

The downside to that is where to draw the line? I work with someone who is married, has 3 children with his wife. He ALSO has 2 other children with another woman, very close to the age of his younger children. The wife found out and still decided to stay married to this loser.

Basically this guy has 2 families in 2 different places. How do you forgive something like that? She probably looks back and wonders if the night he had to 'work late'- was he at the hospital watching his 4th or 5th child being born? Should he spend Christmas morning with family #1 and Christman dinner with family #2?

If I was her I'd throw him out and sue the pants off his ass. But it isn't my decision. My point is, no one should just take what is dished out to them because they want to stay married. I think there are enough people in the world doing that already.

[teatime]

Originally Posted by Glitterific

I agree with Jtur88 to a certain extent. I have wondered if not giving people a second chance got in the way of better marriages/relationships resulting in overcoming adversity and moving forward.

The downside to that is where to draw the line? I work with someone who is married, has 3 children with his wife. He ALSO has 2 other children with another woman, very close to the age of his younger children. The wife found out and still decided to stay married to this loser.

Basically this guy has 2 families in 2 different places. How do you forgive something like that? She probably looks back and wonders if the night he had to 'work late'- was he at the hospital watching his 4th or 5th child being born? Should he spend Christmas morning with family #1 and Christman dinner with family #2?

If I was her I'd throw him out and sue the pants off his ass. But it isn't my decision. My point is, no one should just take what is dished out to them because they want to stay married. I think there are enough people in the world doing that already.

Even worse, what is this teaching the kids? That's it's fine for daddy to have two families? Doubtful that any boys among those children will grow up valuing one woman. And so the cycle continues.

[artyst]

never ever ever would i stay with someone if they cheated on me!!

[yankeegirl313]

He cheats on me...????? That will be the last time, because he won`t have a "joy stick" to play with her again!

[cherry251]

Depends. Am I cheating too? :P

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by cherry251

Depends. Am I cheating too? :P

We don`t know..... Are you?

[sueprnova]

whoever cheats gets their hayhay cut out or off

[teatime]

There you go! If the legal contract isn't enough to tie 'em to ya, keep 'em in line with promises of physical violence! That's healthy!

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by teatime

There you go! If the legal contract isn't enough to tie 'em to ya, keep 'em in line with promises of physical violence! That's healthy!

Hey.....sometimes, thats all we have got!