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Old 06-23-2007, 06:54 AM
 
Location: Michigan
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Its crazy !! about 10 years into this marriage and 3 kids later ,, he cheats !!and has a baby with this loose looser !! well,, this is my 3rd time to try and find a faithful partner !!! So much for that !! By this time in my life ,, with 3 kids to raise and he is the father of my 3 kids and he is a good dad to them,and I gave up !! sunk my self into my work,, now my kids are almost grown . He makes no money ,, he will be paying child support into his 70's !! now at my age ,, kids raised,, are there any faithful men out there ?? I think not !!!!
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Old 06-23-2007, 07:24 AM
 
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Of course there are but let's face it we sometimes just choose the wrong one. Why stay with someone you can't trust? You deserve better than that.. You should take some time to find yourself. I had never lived alone until I became a widow and I now like being alone, although with all my animals I don't think I am every really alone. I do have a boyfriend now and have had several during the past few years but not 'the one'
You have to be sure not to let your heart rule over what you know you deserve
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Old 06-23-2007, 08:53 AM
 
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Just "Take a Louisville Slugger to both headlights..."
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Old 06-23-2007, 09:12 AM
 
Location: Missouri
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There are plenty of faithful men...if you have been in relationships with three men who have cheated on you, it sounds like you are attracted to troublesome men.

Would I stay married? If it were my husband, yes, I would do everything I could to make things work. However that may not be the right decision for you.
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Old 06-23-2007, 09:28 AM
 
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If he makes no money, well just another mouth to feed anyways.
Save yourself (speaking both figuratively and literally) and dump the waste.
Focus on your kids. Just subtract the big dependant and it will be easier to provide for the kids as well.
Why provide for four kids when you didn't even give birth to the biggest one (him)? Best wishes.
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Old 06-23-2007, 09:30 AM
 
Location: California
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Default are there any faithful men out there ?? I think not !!!!

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Its crazy !! about 10 years into this marriage and 3 kids later ,, he cheats !!and has a baby with this loose looser !! well,, this is my 3rd time to try and find a faithful partner !!! So much for that !! By this time in my life ,, with 3 kids to raise and he is the father of my 3 kids and he is a good dad to them,and I gave up !! sunk my self into my work,, now my kids are almost grown . He makes no money ,, he will be paying child support into his 70's !! now at my age ,, kids raised,, are there any faithful men out there ?? I think not !!!!
Think agian, 30 years and never cheated and never will. No I wouldn't tolerate cheating

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Old 06-23-2007, 09:56 AM
 
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yeah my father cheated on my mother after 31yrs. I wouldn't stay married but she wants to get back with him. Everybody is different. But I wish people weren't accepting of any cheating.
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Old 06-23-2007, 10:06 AM
 
Location: TAMPA
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I believe every one deserves a second chance. If my husband cheated I would probably give him a second chance. If he does it again his bags will be at
the door. Fathering another child I wouldn't be able to handle so eventually
we will break up.
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Old 06-23-2007, 10:13 AM
 
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I am sorry u have had to suffer with this man's poor choices. I know it cannot be easy... sounds like u r well rid of this guy. But, don't lose hope...there are some faithful guys out there and some good ones too. Just keep your eyes and your mind open so when the right one comes along u will be able to see him and receive him.
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Old 06-23-2007, 10:22 AM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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Icare -

I wouldn't and didn't, although everyone in town knew what was going on but me. It was a second marriage, I had decided just say no to men.....and along came #3 on a blind date arranged by my sister so I would have a gardening buddy. 45, never been married, no children - took to my two boys although they were teens and should have been locked in a closet - and he has been there every day of this world for me. I am truly humbled when I think of how fortunate I have been, but I was prepared to live my life out as a single and I was okay with that once the shock and the initial heartbreak was over.

So I'm having trouble following the timeline...is the cheating a recent occurrence, or a recent discovery? He's the father of your kids, who are almost grown, but 10 years into the marriage he cheated....so have you been staying with him for ANOTHER 10 years or something?

Sorry, it's Saturday morning and I'm slow to go!
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