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06-23-2007, 12:01 PM
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Would you get married again?
For those either divorced or widowed: Do you want to, or would you, get married again?
I would not, because I discovered that I love my independence and having my living space all to myself too much to ever consider giving it up. But I have a few friends of the same age (late 50s) who are at the other extreme, desperate to find a spouse because of either being lonely or afraid there "won't be anyone to take care of" them "in their old age".
Two of my other friends are like me, we all say "Never again".
How about everyone else?
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06-23-2007, 12:42 PM
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I am one of the "never again" crowd also... A bad marriage soured me on the institution, and there are also the same kinds of problems inherent in living together (without the legal BS of divorce).
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06-23-2007, 01:03 PM
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Undaunted, the band played on...
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I'd take a Forever Girl over being single anyday. My parents celebrated their 50th anniversary last month and are like responsible teenagers now... everyone has their own tendencies and this would be mine. Life is short and we are just a sneeze in time...
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06-23-2007, 03:56 PM
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Misfit On the Run!!
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Never say never - You never know when love will smack you right upside the head -
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06-23-2007, 04:01 PM
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Highly unlikely.
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06-23-2007, 04:01 PM
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Listening to The Voices
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Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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Torn, there won't be anymore after this one, but this is #3 - and boy, am I glad I got over that mindset ten years ago!
At this point - 50 years old - no, I doubt it seriously if anything happened to him.....but I said that at 40 right before I said "I do", too... :-) I almost lost him a couple of years ago and it would have been extremely hard, but I'll have to say - I think I'm at that age where I don't need or want anyone to take care of me and have no fear of old age - that's why God made retirement villages and assisted living! I've encouraged him to marry again if something were to happen to me but he looks at me like I'm nuts, so I guess whatever he wants to do at that point in time....well, looks like it will be his business and not mine, huh?
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06-23-2007, 05:03 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Torn2pieces
Never say never - You never know when love will smack you right upside the head -
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LOL, I put that philosophy right next to the one that's said to people who say they don't want to have kids: "If/when you have your own, you'll feel differently".  Sometime's that's true but most times it's not!
SamIAm, you and I are on the same page about getting older. I plan on remaining independent as long as I physically can, and if worse ever comes to worst I would hire someone to help me. People who say "But who'll take care of you when you get old?" (as if it's a given that an elderly woman can't possibly survive without a devoted male hovering over her with hot soup, her pills and a shawl) make me crazy. Oh puh-leeeese! That mindset is as insulting as the one back in the 50s and 60s when the 'right' thing for a young girl to aspire to was marriage with house and white picket fence and kids (and any girl who wanted anything else was labeled as either weird or gay).
I don't want to depend on anyone in my "golden years" and I don't want anyone depending on me either.
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06-23-2007, 05:51 PM
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Misfit On the Run!!
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well - I understand if you're older, but still you never know. I went through heck and back with my first marriage. I swore, I wouldn't do it again and here I am 6 years later with 2 kids.
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06-23-2007, 06:03 PM
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So long as I am still able to mow that acre of a back yard of mine, I'm lovin' it!  And once I'm too old and decrepid to mow it myself, I'll hire a cute lawn guy.
Seriously, I love my independence, but am open to meeting someone if that should happen. Unlike my other middle aged, divorced female friends, I just don't feel that sense of desperation to meet someone, I guess...If it happens, fine, if not, I'll survive and thrive! |
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06-24-2007, 06:00 AM
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If I survive this so called marriage ,, I like to think I have learned my lesson!!this is #3 for me and still couldn't find a Trustworhty , Faithful , partner!!
Guess there are no Guarantees !! I like to think one of my 3 kids will be there for me in my old age !! Once again (no Guarantee) !!
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