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Several years ago I worked for a bank in Florida.Part of my job included daily phone contact with branches in other cities. One gentleman in particular had without a doubt the sexiest voice I have ever heard. When I resigned my position he drove down to say goodbye. When I finally met him face to face he was soooo not like my mental picture. He was about 5'3",balding,red haired and freckles. He introduced me to his wife, a tall beautiful goddess type, and mother to 6 children. Without a doubt they were devoted to each other. Later as we were talking she said "everybody asks why him, but just look, he's perfect." Beauty isn't always on the surface.
Behind every great man Their is always a great woman. Only fools believe that beauty is what makes a person great. A cute face isn't going to buy the food in my plate.
Even if you do subscribe to this theory that less attractive men make better long-term partners, what happens when the disparity is inverted? Suppose, for example, that as both people get older, that man remains just as average as he was before but the previously attractive woman loses her looks? We had another thread on here about how men age better than women. So if that's true, then it stands to reason that even if a woman marries a man less attractive than her, she may eventually herself married to a guy more attractive than her. And if the guy married her for her looks, how will he react to one day waking up and seeing his wife isn't as attractive as him?
Yes, either or both may lose their looks with time, but if you marry solely based on looks, you have probably made a poor choice. However, people can and do BOND, and I think that's the point here. Men who marry more attractive women bond to them and are more devoted (assuming they are also compatible in other ways) because they did "better" than they should have. The bonding effect can last even though both age and lose their more youthful appearance. You see some elderly couples devoted to each other despite looking awful physically - they're still in LOVE, which is what most of us hope to realize in our lives.
Men who marry more attractive women bond to them and are more devoted (assuming they are also compatible in other ways) because they did "better" than they should have.
It depends on whether the man is letting the woman's looks compensate for things he doesn't like about her. I've seen a lot of guys do this. They're dating or marry a girl who's better looking than them. There are some red flags that would normally cause them to break up with her. But since she's much better looking than he thinks he could ever get, he overlooks those red flags. But as her looks fade, those flags become harder to look past. I knew one guy who went through this. He wasn't much to look at, but he ended up with a really attractive girl. But she could be pretty selfish and immature. The rest of us didn't quite see what he saw in her beyond her looks. He probably put up with it because he didn't think he could ever do better. And I think he even convinced himself they had more in common than they actually did. Years later after they had a kid and her drinking and smoking caught up with her, he started to see her for who she really was and began to wonder why he was putting up with her. So it was no surprise they divorced.
I knew one guy who went through this. He wasn't much to look at, but he ended up with a really attractive girl. But she could be pretty selfish and immature. The rest of us didn't quite see what he saw in her beyond her looks. He probably put up with it because he didn't think he could ever do better. And I think he even convinced himself they had more in common than they actually did. Years later after they had a kid and her drinking and smoking caught up with her, he started to see her for who she really was and began to wonder why he was putting up with her. So it was no surprise they divorced.
Do you know for a fact the divorce was really his idea?
Do you know for a fact the divorce was really his idea?
Yes, because I talked to him a few years after they divorced. He told me he was the one who wanted out and that he would've ended it sooner had it not been for their kids.
Behind every great man Their is always a great woman. Only fools believe that beauty is what makes a person great. A cute face isn't going to buy the food in my plate.
Personally i have to be attracted to someone before it can go any further. I only date really attractive men cause if hes not that attractive i wont be able to really get into him. Im a very attractive person and i have found that even with really good looking guys i have always had a partner that is insecure. They always want to start to change me or tell me what to do where i can and cannot go. I got married in March to a man that is really good looking and now im divorcing him. Same thing started happening he started well i saw signs before hand also it just got worst, started controlling my every move, very jealous, insecure, i had to be with him 24/7 and then became abusive. I dont play games, im very loyal so why do i keep getting with these insecure men. Maybe i should start dating less attractive men maybe i will be treated better. From my experience i feel that really good looking guys are very selfish and controlling. Anybody disagree?
From my experience i feel that really good looking guys are very selfish and controlling. Anybody disagree?
I've dated plenty of really attractive men and all of them turned out to be A*holes.
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