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View Poll Results: Marriage Counseling or Not?
Yes Ron.....I did get counseling now I'm divorced! 3 5.88%
No Ron.....I did not get counseling, now I want out. 3 5.88%
Yes Ron, I did get counseling. 15 29.41%
No Ron, I did not get counseling 19 37.25%
Ron, why are you so damn nosey? Shouldn't you be looking for a job? I thought you got fired?! 5 9.80%
Why are you concerned about my marriege Ron? 3 5.88%
Ron, you need to stop with all of these silly little threads! 3 5.88%
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:32 PM
 
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Answer The Poll Question Please.

I am just curious to know. Also do you think it would have been a good idea to get the counseling?

Would you recommend it to soon to be married couples, even if you did not get it yourself?


Discuss and ad whatever you like to the topic.


If you'd like, tell us how long you've been married.

Ron
(Be nice)

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Old 07-30-2010, 03:46 PM
 
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We did not get counseling before we got married. Didn't see the need to. Speaking for myself, I kissed enough frogs to know what I wanted and needed in a man......a priest/preacher/counselor wouldn't change that.
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:48 PM
 
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We did not get counseling before we got married. Didn't see the need to. Speaking for myself, I kissed enough frogs to know what I wanted and needed in a man......a priest/preacher/counselor wouldn't change that.
Basically you had everything ironed out before marriage and you knew exactly what you were getting into?

If you don't mind sharing, how long have you been happily married?
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:53 PM
 
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Basically you had everything ironed out before marriage and you knew exactly what you were getting into?

If you don't mind sharing, how long have you been happily married?
I wouldn't say we had everything ironed out before hand and I don't think anyone can totally prepare you for the dynamics that come from blending your life with someone else. I knew he was a good man as he demonstrated time and time again. I had faith in him and in us. We've had our share of ups and downs but one thing was constant. We loved, respected and supported each other through thick and thin.

We just celebrated 17 years this past weekend.
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:55 PM
 
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I wouldn't say we had everything ironed out before hand. I knew he was a good man as he demonstrated time and time again. I had faith in him and in us. We've had our share of ups and downs but one thing was contant. We loved, respected and supported each other through thick and thin.

We just celebrated 17 years this past weekend.
17 years is a long time.....Congrats. Did you get married when you were 7?
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Old 07-30-2010, 03:59 PM
 
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17 years is a long time.....Congrats. Did you get married when you were 7?
LOL....that sounds about right! I was 23.
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Old 07-30-2010, 04:13 PM
 
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We did get counseling before we were married but it was somewhat mandatory. I am Catholic and we were required to go to Pre-Cana classes before the church would set our wedding date.

Did I think it was necessary, not at all. It was actually quite the PITA being that we lived about 450 miles apart before we were married.

Did it help or enlighten us before entering marriage? Nope...while I respect the Church's position on this, it didn't really do anything for us.

It may have been helpful if the people attending had only known eachother for a short time and had not thought about family, careers, child rearing, where they would spend the holidays, finances, etc. but we had already discussed those items in detail.

We met in H.S., dated for 5 years (2 years of that was long distance). After the first round of college we got married.

We've been happily married for 13 years with 4 children. No major issues and we are both very happy. We still have a very active sex life and we still flirt with eachother and go out without the kids often.
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Old 07-30-2010, 04:17 PM
 
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Yes, we got counseling. We were married in church and had to have some meetings with the pastor before he would marry us. We went to two or three by ourselves and a couple more together. Heh, I don't remember much about it besides talking about how I had to be closer to my husband than any other person, closer than our children or my parents, and to never let anyone come between us. We talked about honor and respect and how I felt about the word obey (we left it out of the vows ). I had only recently joined that church but felt its teachings were compatible with what I believed, and we talked about what vows meant and how they weren't just words. All in all, I don't know how much it helped, but it certainly didn't hurt, and I'm glad we did it.

17 years, See?! That is terrific. We're at 15 years later this year.
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Old 07-30-2010, 04:18 PM
 
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LOL....that sounds about right! I was 23.
I figured you were about 20. I was 3 years off.

Keep it up!
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Old 07-30-2010, 04:19 PM
 
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the pastor did some b4 marriage.
but you are basically asking people to think before they do something very emotional. if they did-- few would marry.
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