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Is their some form of attraction? Nice smile? The way they talk. Manners. Listening skills. Friendly. Head on straight. Ambitious. Similar interest.
What are "listening skills?" Is that the ability to make someone believe that you are really paying close attention whether you are or you are not?
My theory is that if someone is genuinely interesting, there will be no skills required to listen to that person, you are doing it because you are motivated to do it.
And if someone doesn't really find you interesting, is there really a need for that person to be good at tricking you into thinking otherwise? I'm not seeing much of a a future in a relationship where the attention must be faked, even if done with great "skill."
Doesn't "listening skills" really translate as "Must find me interesting?"
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I don't really look for anything, per se, but there's something about the eyes that can't be fully explained; you see something in them but you're not sure what except whether or not it's good and whether or not you want to see more. If nothing strikes me when I look in his eyes I don't dismiss him but it sure helps to have that.
I've never looked for one thing. I just like to let things happen. There are many different reasons for attraction/connection to occur, and I don't think you can check them off a list (other than obvious, basic ones).
I agree with this. I don`t go "looking" for anything..now in my day, if something caught my eye, then, I would raise my eyebrows and think..heyyyyy!!
If so, I'd ask guys that are successful with attracting women, what they do to attract them.
Ron
I hear that Gene Simmons of the rock group Kiss just licks his eyebrows and flashes a wad of cash.
I read somewhere that when dating you should watch how the person treats the waiter or waitress because that's how you will be treated once they know you.
He has to be ethical. I know that this may go without saying for many people, but having gotten involved with someone who turned out to be extremely dishonest, ethics, decency and strong moral values are important to me. Character. That sums it up.
Secondmost important thing is that he has to be very discerning. I'm not interested in a guy who's been passed around. This suggests that he either can't be alone, has a low opinion of himself or ... well, that he puts physical pleasure over everything else, including common sense. These qualities are those I expect to see in a gigolo, not a prospective life mate.
I see how confident he is. If he smiles, makes you feel comfortable, sees you as a person,makes you laugh, those are things that I really find not only attractive but charming. Also, showing a bit of maturity is a plus... I mean ...dislike when guys start playing hard to get or want to make you guess...straight to the point that's how it should be
Just wondering what you think of when you first meet a man. Thanks for responding.
which is your question? what do we LOOK for or think?
I LOOK at a man's fingers - the length is a better gauge than shoe size.
What do I think? Well that depends on what I hear come out of his mouth and whether he is appropriately dressed for the venue/occasion. First impressions only happen once. If a man speaks with class and intelligence, I think it's wonderful.
If he speaks like he couldn't be bothered putting forth enough effort to sound semi-intelligent, then I KNOW he has no respect for himself and therefore could never have enough for me and I think he's a dork and a jerk and I tell him I'm not interested in getting to know him further.
I meet lots of men. I think whatever is appropriate for the situation: Are we going to make a business deal? How are the wife and kids? Did you get my order out? Were there problems with the job?
If it's a guy I met online I'm thinking will we get along? Hope conversation flows, that we're both comfortable, etc. (I've already seen pics so I wouldn't be meeting if I didn't find him attractive).
If I meet running errands, I don't think much besides someone is being friendly. A lot of times, I don't realize until later that they were probably flirting.
If I meet at guy at a social event, involving lubrication, I'm first going to ascertain whether I'm attracted, and then whether he has a brain to backup the biceps.
I meet lots of men. I think whatever is appropriate for the situation: Are we going to make a business deal? How are the wife and kids? Did you get my order out? Were there problems with the job?
If it's a guy I met online I'm thinking will we get along? Hope conversation flows, that we're both comfortable, etc. (I've already seen pics so I wouldn't be meeting if I didn't find him attractive).
If I meet running errands, I don't think much besides someone is being friendly. A lot of times, I don't realize until later that they were probably flirting.
If I meet at guy at a social event, involving lubrication, I'm first going to ascertain whether I'm attracted, and then whether he has a brain to backup the biceps.
Did you intend to say lubrication or did you mean libation?
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