Get the feeling I'm getting string along.... (date, how to, women)

[nkiller231]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

Yes but even after that he would called me. About a week after that party... I went with 2 guys and a female co-worker (it was 4 of us) to a park and drank again.... even though we had work the next day in the morning. We all got all hammered and when I got home, my boyfriend called me. It was then that my voice was all drunk as hell. Ever since that incident, he only called me once and then stopped all of the sudden.
I don't know..... if so then wouldn't he had confronted me about this. Don't think this is quite possibly because those people don't even know him...

Maybe he really has found out about what you did (Unlikely but not impossible).

In any case, be direct and ask him why he is so distant.

[miu]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

It's a long distance... I'm in my native country while he's in the US....

1. What is your native country?
2. How did you meet your boyfriend?
3. How old are the two of you?
4. How long have you been a couple?
5. When was the last time you saw him in person?
6. Does he ever send presents to you?
7. What kind of presents do the two of you exchange?
8. What did you send him in that last package he hasn't pick up yet?

If you are both still active on MySpace, then it sounds like you are both young and that he's grown away from you. Plus young men don't do very well in long distance relationships.

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by miu

1. What is your native country?
2. How did you meet your boyfriend?
3. How old are the two of you?
4. How long have you been a couple?
5. When was the last time you saw him in person?
6. Does he ever send presents to you?
7. What kind of presents do the two of you exchange?
8. What did you send him in that last package he hasn't pick up yet?

I'm going to answered all these questions in the order you posted them.
1) I've living in Lima, Peru since 2007
2) I met him 4 years ago through myspace.com
3) Currently he's 25 years old and I'm 23
4) Well technically it would be 4 years by now... we started dating as couple since Aug. 22 2006. It was 9 months of dating but all these 3 remaining years, it's been long distance..
5) Towards the ending of May way back in 2007
6) No this idiot hasn't send me anything in all these years. I decided to send him stuff thinking he would change a bit. No wonder my mother still doesn't like him.... it's not like he's poor or something, he spends all on himself....
One time when this moron was talking to my father, he was telling him about buying an earring and my dad is like ''Is it for yourself (thinking it was to surprise me) and he said yes just for himself. He got pissed and was like ''And you're still with this idiot that can't even you a card''.
7) Nothing.. this idiot never send me anything in all these years. I had been hoping he would one day snap out of that and actually do something...... why was he pleading for 2nd chance anyways and yet he's acting the same way as years ago...
8) It was some of our old pictures, a wallet, two lucky charms my mother send him (she was actually thinking he would change and becomes more mature), purple corn juice packages and a postal card

Originally Posted by miu

If you are both still active on MySpace, then it sounds like you are both young and that he's grown away from you. Plus young men don't do very well in long distance relationships.

Interesting of all is I don't really feel affected by this at all. If he wants to act like an idiot as my mother always stated and declare it over so it shall be. I got some admirers on facebook, a job and friends I can chill with.

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by nkiller231

Maybe he really has found out about what you did (Unlikely but not impossible).

Maybe but any real man (not a coward) would have call and confronted me about it... then I would have explained it.

Originally Posted by nkiller231

In any case, be direct and ask him why he is so distant.

A calling card is a bit more expensive here than in the US. This idiot doesn't deserve it. I'll just wait a bit and if he wants to disappear, then I'll just move on and meet someone else. It's not hard finding guys here in my country.
Hopefully the next man will be not a cheap one that only spends things on himself nor makes a bad impression to my parents.
My father wanted to throw up when he said ''Yes the earrings are for myself, I like buying things for me''.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

I'm going to answered all these questions in the order you posted them.
1) I've living in Lima, Peru since 2007
2) I met him 4 years ago through myspace.com
3) Currently he's 25 years old and I'm 23
4) Well technically it would be 4 years by now... we started dating as couple since Aug. 22 2006. It was 9 months of dating but all these 3 remaining years, it's been long distance..
5) Towards the ending of May way back in 2007
6) No this idiot hasn't send me anything in all these years. I decided to send him stuff thinking he would change a bit. No wonder my mother still doesn't like him.... it's not like he's poor or something, he spends all on himself....
One time when this moron was talking to my father, he was telling him about buying an earring and my dad is like ''Is it for yourself (thinking it was to surprise me) and he said yes just for himself. He got pissed and was like ''And you're still with this idiot that can't even you a card''.
7) Nothing.. this idiot never send me anything in all these years. I had been hoping he would one day snap out of that and actually do something...... why was he pleading for 2nd chance anyways and yet he's acting the same way as years ago...
8) It was some of our old pictures, a wallet, two lucky charms my mother send him (she was actually thinking he would change and becomes more mature), purple corn juice packages and a postal card
Interesting of all is I don't really feel affected by this at all. If he wants to act like an idiot as my mother always stated and declare it over so it shall be. I got some admirers on facebook, a job and friends I can chill with.

How can you even think for one second of this person as your boyfriend? He shouldn't even have "friend" status.

[WannaliveinGreenville]

It seems some of your posts revolve around drinking too much...

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

How can you even think for one second of this person as your boyfriend? He shouldn't even have "friend" status.

The reason to this is because I want to find another man... which will be a more surprising break-up (if he even cares to notices it). If he calls then I would happily tell him the news.
You're right he didn't even deserved 2nd chance (come to think of it, I came to conclusion it wasn't really love but pity.. not being single I guess).
Anyways my plan is to find a backup but I won't tell the new man about my suppose ''long distance relationship''.. and just one day before being his girlfriend, I'll call this loser to tell him I've found someone else better than him... better looking too.. LOL
I want to have a laugh on this...
I always find my ways of getting back at people if they were to harassed me, play games with me, or do anything stupid enough to get me super angry. I don't like being played with. Revenge is sweet in this case.

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by WannaliveinGreenville

It seems some of your posts revolve around drinking too much...

It was just those two days of drinking. I don't drink too much but if there's a party invitation then it's fun...

[robee70]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

I'm going to answered all these questions in the order you posted them.
1) I've living in Lima, Peru since 2007
2) I met him 4 years ago through myspace.com
3) Currently he's 25 years old and I'm 23
4) Well technically it would be 4 years by now... we started dating as couple since Aug. 22 2006. It was 9 months of dating but all these 3 remaining years, it's been long distance..
5) Towards the ending of May way back in 2007
6) No this idiot hasn't send me anything in all these years. I decided to send him stuff thinking he would change a bit. No wonder my mother still doesn't like him.... it's not like he's poor or something, he spends all on himself....
One time when this moron was talking to my father, he was telling him about buying an earring and my dad is like ''Is it for yourself (thinking it was to surprise me) and he said yes just for himself. He got pissed and was like ''And you're still with this idiot that can't even you a card''.
7) Nothing.. this idiot never send me anything in all these years. I had been hoping he would one day snap out of that and actually do something...... why was he pleading for 2nd chance anyways and yet he's acting the same way as years ago...
8) It was some of our old pictures, a wallet, two lucky charms my mother send him (she was actually thinking he would change and becomes more mature), purple corn juice packages and a postal card
Interesting of all is I don't really feel affected by this at all. If he wants to act like an idiot as my mother always stated and declare it over so it shall be. I got some admirers on facebook, a job and friends I can chill with.

I personally think this man has had enough of your drama. You keep referring to him as an idiot and a moron, you flirt & get carried away with other men in public behind his back, break up with him and get him pleading for second chances, have a problem with drinking too much and uncontrollable behavior as a result, etc.. (Did I forget anything?)

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by robee70

I personally think this man has had enough of your drama. You keep referring to him as an idiot and a moron, you flirt & get carried away with other men in public behind his back, break up with him and get him pleading for second chances, have a problem with drinking too much and uncontrollable behavior as a result, etc.. (Did I forget anything?)

My drama?? I have been dealing with this BS for 4 years already. First he doesn't come visit me as he promised last year (making yet another excuse, if it's even true), never sending me anything during all this time (at least a card), doesn't call very often in the first year upon arriving to Peru, he didn't call on my first b-day nor Christmas or New Year way back in 2008, makes a horrible impression to my parents and basically I had to defend this loser and put up with more melodrama.
So when I started acting out like that... it makes it even. An example would be when he broke up with me way back in Mid April of 2008... I did it back to him on right on Christmas of 2009. I took him back on March and this now it's back to the same BS again.