Do you feel uncomfortable when people "thank you?" (man, husbands)

[CArizona]

Originally Posted by Cherie Tebo

First I wish to say I'm so sorry for your loss.I too am a widow so I know all to well what it's like to lose a loved one.

No people who say Thank You aren't nerds.I've always been the one to say thank you myself cause my parents taught me as a child to always use my manners and make a point to show my appreciation to someone.I don't think people use manners enough.

I'm really sorry that you lost your husband too....Thanks for writing. I sure feel like a big "nerd" right now and someone who has been asleep in a cave for decades....Do you ever feel this way?

[Mr.Cat]

Thank you for this thread and sorry for your loss.

[CArizona]

Originally Posted by Mr.Cat

Thank you for this thread and sorry for your loss.

Thank you for thanking me...

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by CArizona

Thank you for thanking me...

Thank you in advance for stopping with the thanking.

[CArizona]

Do people feel embarrassed when someone thanks them a lot? I know it's hard for me to accept praise and compliments at times...Maybe it has to do with wanting to stay modest or ???

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by CArizona

Do people feel embarrassed when someone thanks them a lot? I know it's hard for me to accept praise and compliments at times...Maybe it has to do with wanting to stay modest or ???

When true friends step in to help you or are genuinely concerned for you, no thanks is needed. Of course, manners are always good to bestow when shown kindness. But if thanks is given over and over again, it can be offputting to the friend...it's almost as if you are treating them more like a stranger than a friend.

True friends don't need to always hear a thanks, helping you is done from their heart and makes them feel good.....that's thanks enough.

[PJSinger]

OP, I think it depends on how you thank them. Are you repeatedly gushing all over them and thanking them for the same thing? Once is enough. And, IMO, for those who sent flowers, provided food or or went way beyond the call to help out in some special way should receive a written thank-you note. (I know, I know - not everyone does this, and there's a thread about it. But people generally do feel very appreciated if they receive a written thank-you note via snail mail.) Just don't gush all over the people to whom you're extending your thanks. Keep it simple.

[mtneer]

Are the ones that object being thanked from the young generation? I ask only because it seems the last couple generations are too big into manners and politeness. It seems to make them uncomfortable when thanked as if it was reprimand. I noticed that working with mostly those in their early 20's.

I like people saying thank you and you're welcome myself. Really dislike the "no problem" response. You're welcome is even harder than a thank you to come by these days.

[Mr.Cat]

Thank you everyone. Thank you so very much!

[mtneer]

You are welcome.