U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 1.5 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Jump to a detailed profile or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Business Search - 14 Million verified businesses
Search for:  near: 
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 08-06-2010, 11:43 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
4,120 posts, read 2,688,896 times
Reputation: 3285
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cherie Tebo View Post
First I wish to say I'm so sorry for your loss.I too am a widow so I know all to well what it's like to lose a loved one.

No people who say Thank You aren't nerds.I've always been the one to say thank you myself cause my parents taught me as a child to always use my manners and make a point to show my appreciation to someone.I don't think people use manners enough.
I'm really sorry that you lost your husband too....Thanks for writing. I sure feel like a big "nerd" right now and someone who has been asleep in a cave for decades....Do you ever feel this way?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 08-06-2010, 12:07 PM
 
Location: Incognito
6,987 posts, read 12,724,797 times
Reputation: 5278
Thank you for this thread and sorry for your loss.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
4,120 posts, read 2,688,896 times
Reputation: 3285
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr.Cat View Post
Thank you for this thread and sorry for your loss.
Thank you for thanking me...
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Tucson
42,846 posts, read 53,424,820 times
Reputation: 22748
Quote:
Originally Posted by CArizona View Post
Thank you for thanking me...
Thank you in advance for stopping with the thanking.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
4,120 posts, read 2,688,896 times
Reputation: 3285
Do people feel embarrassed when someone thanks them a lot? I know it's hard for me to accept praise and compliments at times...Maybe it has to do with wanting to stay modest or ???
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 12:53 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
4,928 posts, read 4,473,398 times
Reputation: 12139
Quote:
Originally Posted by CArizona View Post
Do people feel embarrassed when someone thanks them a lot? I know it's hard for me to accept praise and compliments at times...Maybe it has to do with wanting to stay modest or ???
When true friends step in to help you or are genuinely concerned for you, no thanks is needed. Of course, manners are always good to bestow when shown kindness. But if thanks is given over and over again, it can be offputting to the friend...it's almost as if you are treating them more like a stranger than a friend.

True friends don't need to always hear a thanks, helping you is done from their heart and makes them feel good.....that's thanks enough.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Valparaiso, IN
33,964 posts, read 6,527,395 times
Reputation: 76039
OP, I think it depends on how you thank them. Are you repeatedly gushing all over them and thanking them for the same thing? Once is enough. And, IMO, for those who sent flowers, provided food or or went way beyond the call to help out in some special way should receive a written thank-you note. (I know, I know - not everyone does this, and there's a thread about it. But people generally do feel very appreciated if they receive a written thank-you note via snail mail.) Just don't gush all over the people to whom you're extending your thanks. Keep it simple.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 01:41 PM
 
1,055 posts, read 1,890,840 times
Reputation: 736
Are the ones that object being thanked from the young generation? I ask only because it seems the last couple generations are too big into manners and politeness. It seems to make them uncomfortable when thanked as if it was reprimand. I noticed that working with mostly those in their early 20's.

I like people saying thank you and you're welcome myself. Really dislike the "no problem" response. You're welcome is even harder than a thank you to come by these days.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 02:09 PM
 
Location: Incognito
6,987 posts, read 12,724,797 times
Reputation: 5278
Thank you everyone. Thank you so very much!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 08-06-2010, 02:15 PM
 
1,055 posts, read 1,890,840 times
Reputation: 736
You are welcome.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $84,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2014, Advameg, Inc.

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25 - Top