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Old 08-07-2010, 03:26 PM
 
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Smile Guys, do you prefer a woman to pursue you or you being the pursuer???

Being a single woman and a little on the shy side, I have seen that some guys prefer women who are openly flirty with them who pursue the guys, and the funny thing is at the end, these women get the guys... and the nice, old school, traditional girls wait for the man to pursue them , dont get pursued and are still waiting for real men to show up....Guys...please tell me...do you feel that a man should pursue the woman, or is it more attractive if the woman pursues you????
thanks
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Old 08-07-2010, 03:28 PM
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i dont care as long as someone pursues
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Old 08-07-2010, 03:41 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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A woman just needs to give the right signals to a man that are positive and be receptive to his approach. Some men are dense and need a few extra hints.

Want to not be shy ? Just look a guy directly in the eyes, hold the glance and smile. You don't have to be aggressive, nature will take over. Did you know many guys can also be very shy about approaching a woman and risk being turned down. Given the green light, he'll come your way.

But if he doesn't show attention or still seems clueless then pursue away. There are times to pursue and times to run away like crazy

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Old 08-07-2010, 04:02 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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Being pursued is a good thing. In fact, I wish a woman was pursuing me now. Of course it works both ways and either way is fine. I don't tend to think that men and women have to follow certain roles and it seems to make sense that if you like someone it might be a good idea to let them know.
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Old 08-07-2010, 04:34 PM
 
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A woman just needs to give the right signals to a man that are positive and be receptive to his approach. Some men are dense and need a few extra hints.
Bingo! What you are seeing these other women doing with their flirtation is letting the guy know that if he pursues, he just might get her. No guy (with the exception of the ones who just don't care), will pursue a girl that's just sitting there stone-faced.
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Old 08-07-2010, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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A woman just needs to give the right signals to a man that are positive and be receptive to his approach. Some men are dense and need a few extra hints.

Want to not be shy ? Just look a guy directly in the eyes, hold the glance and smile. You don't have to be aggressive, nature will take over. Did you know many guys can also be very shy about approaching a woman and risk being turned down. Given the green light, he'll come your way.

But if he doesn't show attention or still seems clueless then pursue away. There are times to pursue and times to run away like crazy
I agree with this. I'm shy and reserved but can muster up enough interest in a man to make eye contact so I can smile at him and get his attention. That's always been very effective.
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Old 08-07-2010, 05:28 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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I agree with this. I'm shy and reserved but can muster up enough interest in a man to make eye contact so I can smile at him and get his attention. That's always been very effective.
It's amazing the power of eye contact and a smile. We are trained to not stare at people that so many times we avoid eye contact or quickly look away if we're caught checking someone out.

As a teen, I also was on the shy side. The great thing about getting a litte older is you realize we're all human, fear rejection and people want to be liked. What I semi-regret is that in my younger days, I was too dense or just outright missed the cute girls who sent signals my way. I wish they had been more direct and just came to me and said what was on their mind.

But I suspect they were as shy as I was at that age.
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Old 08-07-2010, 06:38 PM
 
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Being a single woman and a little on the shy side, I have seen that some guys prefer women who are openly flirty with them who pursue the guys, and the funny thing is at the end, these women get the guys... and the nice, old school, traditional girls wait for the man to pursue them , dont get pursued and are still waiting for real men to show up....Guys...please tell me...do you feel that a man should pursue the woman, or is it more attractive if the woman pursues you????
thanks

I don't have a problem being contacted. Long as she's not persistent and following me around or anything.
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Old 08-07-2010, 08:42 PM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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I'm good with either, but met most of my dates online, where the woman usually initiated contact.
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Old 08-08-2010, 11:16 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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I can't think of a reasonable man alive who wouldn't like a woman pursuing him. Not in a Glenn Close boiling-a-bunny way, but initiating contact, flirting, giving him a sign that she's attracted to him, are all very welcome to most men. A lot of guys don't like that "long walk back" after being rejected, whether it's in person or online, and it's not always easy to get a read on a woman to determine if you're setting yourself up for rejection or if you've got an honest chance. Then there are guys like me who need a ton of bricks to land on their head before they realize that a woman is interested in them. They can be the most frustrating to a girl who is trying to be subtle with her hints.
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