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Old 08-09-2010, 11:56 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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I wasn't desperate. I was curious.
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Old 08-09-2010, 11:57 AM
 
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I wasn't desperate. I was curious.

That curiosity lasted all of two weeks for me. YIKES!! What a different world.
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Old 08-09-2010, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Copiague, NY
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I believe that there is a definite advantage to having the ability to enter a relationship by way of the internet.
When a person has the opportunity to extensively communicate in the manner that an online relationship affords,
it gives them the advantage of seeing deeper into the spirit, the attitudes, the likes and dislikes of the potential
partner and may also serve to logistically set and define those boundaries that need to be kept, until a greater
sense of trust and understanding is hopefully, mutually developed.

I met my wife when I was 20 and in the Navy. Our paths fatefully crossed while I was on a three day pass
and had stopped over in NYC, as I headed out to visit my family who lived on Long Island. We met one another
in the "tap room", the piano bar at the Taft Hotel, she was at her senior luncheon with her mother and a girlfriend
from her graduating class and I was with another sailor, a shipmate from aboard the same aircraft carrier that I was
stationed aboard.

Along with her girlfriend and my shipmate, the four of us spent a half hour and shared a drink together in a cozy little
bar called "Mins" somewhere near Grand Central station and all the while it seemed that it was her silly Beatles cards,
(John, George, Paul and Ringo), that were our only topic of conversation, the Beatles were the latest rage and like they
do with baseball players, they issued little wallet-sized picture cards and all of the girls would swap and trade them among
themselves. It was her girlfriend that took my buddy's address before we parted company and I headed out to Long Island,
believing that I'd probably never see her again.

About a month later, my friend got a letter from my wife's girlfriend and in that letter she mentioned that her girlfriend
Pat would like to know if it was O.K. to write to me and I said that I'd be very happy to hear from her. When I returned to
New York again in the summer of 64, we had two dates together before my ship left for an 8 month cruise, over to the
Mediterranean sea but as I left, we agreed to keep in touch by mail while I was overseas. We wrote to one another daily,
often sending two or three letters a day. We came to know enough about one another through writing, that we became
engaged to be married, I bought an engagement ring in France and mailed it home to her in September of '64, her big brother
placed it on her finger by proxy and a few days after my ship arrived home from Europe in March of '65, we were married.

45 years later, with five children, eight grandchildren and one great-grandchild, I still treasure that shoebox full of letters
still kept on the top shelf of the closet because it was through those letters and the volumes of information that we shared as we
opened our hearts to one another so many years ago, that I credit with being the strong foundation of our successful union.
I really didn't intend to stray off topic with this response but I wanted to underscore the thought that there is much that may
be derived from written thoughts when one is looking for insight and hoping to determine the character of a potential partner.
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:18 PM
 
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I don't have much time today, but I had one revelation that I wanted to ask you.

On Wednesday, a female friend of mine said to us, "I create an online account just for an ego boost." How common is that?
For someone to do that? I don't know. I've never heard of anyone doing that. It actually sounds pretty pitiful for her to even say that. She must have some issues.
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:21 PM
 
Location: Pa
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For someone to do that? I don't know. I've never heard of anyone doing that. It actually sounds pretty pitiful for her to even say that. She must have some issues.
It is, people are sick. Some People do this for shyts and giggles at work. Making fun of these poor people and leading them on. Some pretend to be a guy and they are female or vice verse. I gave them hell for it. I said karma will bite you some day.
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:22 PM
 
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*Mwah!* Love this post! May I humbly add ...

Men looking for women at least 20 years younger than themselves.

Men physically separated from the wife for five years but still making the house payment, spousal support and child support.

Divorced men who were married three times and have kids from all three wives.

Men who expect you to "Go Dutch" on a coffee date. Or, pick up the tab.

Men who caught a disease from their last dating site hook-up (and tell you about it).

Men who won't drive more than three miles from their home/office to meet you.
FWIW, my BF drove 65 miles to meet me. Your examples are cute, but the truth is, there are some great people to be found using the online sites.
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:22 PM
 
Location: Round Rock, Texas
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Please give me your honest answers here...do you believe that meeting someone online versus the traditional way (thru work,friends,etc) is taken as a sign of desperation and used as last resort... Thanks
Not at all. I definitely was in no way desperate eight years ago. Online is a medium for meeting people, same as the traditional ways. Not every guy is forward enough to ask a girl out on a date.
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:25 PM
 
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I've never ventured there... but I thought the stigma of this had waned.

I just think it is another way to meet people.
Whatever works for you
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:35 PM
 
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For someone to do that? I don't know. I've never heard of anyone doing that. It actually sounds pretty pitiful for her to even say that. She must have some issues.
She does; she gets probably 99% of her self worth from what guys think about her sexually. However, she is not the only woman out there like that, at least not at her age group. I just thought it was an interesting observation.
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Old 08-09-2010, 08:41 PM
 
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She does; she gets probably 99% of her self worth from what guys think about her sexually. However, she is not the only woman out there like that, at least not at her age group. I just thought it was an interesting observation.
People like this will soon enough reveal such insecurities - no matter how you meet them. Plenty of them around...online and off. Personally I find that sort of personality a huge turnoff, and I would think that most people feel the same way.
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