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Unread 08-09-2010, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Default Why do successful women struggle in with relationships?

Why do successful women struggle in with relationships? I've been wondering this myself for a while I though at first before doing any research maybe women really are right and that most men have become emasculated and that only a few extremely powerful and truly masculine men could date those type of women.

Ex: Abby in the ugly truth in the restaurant with a guy, when she ordered some specific kind of water and the guy ordered scotch (I laughed for 2 hours on that scene + my cousin who was watching that scene didn't understand what was going on). The ugly truth makes a clear and yet funny depiction of What a control freak is.

I later discovered that it is because. Those women have highly successful careers consequently they have a strong confidence and busy schedules. Therefore these women have lots and lots of masculine energy, meaning they are able to take a direct step towards what they want without having to think about the emotional consequences of such and such an action. Female energy is more like the power to be nurturing, to think intuitively and act upon the intuition in order to heal an emotional state. From what I could understand from this phenomenon is that women these successful women actually try out their acquired skills in the dating world, where they seem to make men flee after some months of dating. I compared this with the way I approach women and frankly I do that talk about my aspirations in life show by talking how successful I am, how successful I'm gonna be. Result : I get immediate interest from women (but no attraction). In other words i'm telling the woman that I'm talking to I have high expectation and I know where I'm going. I was thinking after that what would happen if a woman actually approached and talked to me the way I talked to her. I would tell her how impressive her "status" is and praise her for that (I won't feel more attracted to her because of status - I could only feel intimidated is she emphasized on how superior she is to me.)

Basically creating interest is not creating attraction. From that conclusion I changed my approach with the woman I was talking to and started cracking up jokes that I didn't laugh but she did, teasing her, basically flirting with her. I got Attraction going on.

Successful women have to know how to make the difference with interest and attraction like men. I think that this difference in the way women confuse interest with attraction is why successful women fail with men. They have careers and confidence. I believe that a nice guy (more nurturing) is more likely to be attracted to those trait that a Strong and mature man.

In summary a man needs to feel that he is needed in order to feel attraction. Successful women don't need me for financial support so basically they need a man for emotional support and sex. I don't know many men who are emotional except a guy a knew in high school who cried and two gay friends.

Do you have any thoughts on the Issues?? Why do successful women struggle in with relationships?
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Unread 08-09-2010, 11:27 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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No offense Chris, but I think you have way too much time on your hands, lol!!
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Unread 08-09-2010, 11:28 AM
 
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Struggle in where?
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Unread 08-09-2010, 11:29 AM
 
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No offense Chris, but I think you have way too much time on your hands, lol!!
You mean you actually read it?
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Unread 08-09-2010, 11:32 AM
 
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Uhhmm, what's having water instead of scotch has anything to do with anything? Why do you keep making threads about women and then babble on answering your own question?
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Unread 08-09-2010, 11:40 AM
 
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People think too much. And sadly, it's never about anything concrete.
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Unread 08-09-2010, 12:06 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Ok, what is the issue? Relationships are sometimes a struggle.
Women that can order for themselves are sucessful? Women are control freaks if they drink fancy water?
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Unread 08-09-2010, 12:06 PM
 
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"Successful" women have even a greater problem than men who have worked long and hard to establish themselves in a career.

The are both out of touch with who is single.

They are both more likely than not to be fading in physical attractiveness.

They are both quite busy and there are other drawbacks they both share.

However women also have the problem of wanting someone who is "better" than them and nearly all such men are no longer interested. There is also a problem that such women are not particularly "motherly", for lack of a better term. Men still want a family and don't see such women as good prospects.

Men don't have any of the drawbacks listed in the last paragraph but still can have problems if they are determined to find the right woman. However, if they don't, few will be as critical as the girlfriends and co-workers of such women.
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Unread 08-09-2010, 12:33 PM
 
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This post and its threads have totally past over this woman's head....who's on first??
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Unread 08-09-2010, 12:36 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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We all struggle with relationships. Half the men and half the women in this world are just plain old crazy.

Trick is to find the right half.
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